The ancients said: "Words are late and expensive, and the pace is bound to be poor." ”
If a person wants to live a rich life, he must know how to "speak late". On the one hand, it is to talk less and do more, and on the other hand, to slow down the speed of speech. Don't let your words be cheap.
Living in the country of etiquette, we should know how to "have something to say", and the slightest carelessness will bring misfortune out of the mouth.
For people in their fifties, feelings, careers, and families have entered a period of stability, and they need to be based on reality and control their speech. When you meet the following four kinds of people, be sure to speak slowly.
01
Talk to your elderly parents, be slower and be more patient.
Knowingly, someone asked: "Why do we lose our temper with our families and be very friendly to outsiders?" ”
GaoZan's answer was: "It is safest to lose your temper with your family, and the cost of getting forgiveness is the smallest." ”
We always believe that family members can tolerate themselves, family members can selflessly help themselves, and family members can understand themselves.
Growing up, our parents took great care of us, and even if we made mistakes, our parents would patiently teach us. When we grow up, our parents will do their best to help us start a family, even if you are very bad, the door of your parents' house will open for you.
We think of the family as a "sanatorium", but we pay little attention to the fact that the family itself needs "recuperation".
When you're fifty, if your parents are still alive, you're very old. They can no longer escort their families. At this time, you should assume the responsibility of "the head of the family", take good care of the extended family, and repair the "scars" of the family.
Filial piety comes first. Taking care of our parents is our vocation. Moreover, from the process of taking care of parents, I can learn a lot of experience and see the truest side of my parents.
If one day, you find that your parents are in front of you, become cautious, and do not dare to speak very loudly, indicating that you have communicated with them, there is a problem, you have no idea, elderly parents, just as fragile as children.
There is a saying in the countryside: "Old and young, old and young." The old man's body is slipping, his thinking is decreasing, and he has entered a state of "involuntariness". What you say to your parents, you must take it slowly, even if it is the same sentence, saying N many times, it does not matter.
Especially those elderly people with ears behind their ears, we must take it seriously, and do not worry about their "answers to what they ask". This is a rare filial piety.
02
Educate your children, who have just come of age, slow down, and don't rush to make quick gains.
As the saying goes, "Newborn calves are not afraid of tigers." ”
When you're fifty years old, your children start to leave the school and enter society.
The lower a person's perception of society, the greater the boldness. The ignorant are fearless, and this is the truth.
Young people like to talk about righteousness and righteousness, but also like to be impulsive. If you are not careful, you will do some abnormal behavior and make a mess of your life.
As a parent, you have to help your children clean up the "mess." But you can't get angry, otherwise it will play a role in "adding fuel to the fire".
Treat your children as friends, buddies, sisters, and when their children need it, say something in a serious tone, and they will be able to understand it and will open it up.
When children were young, their parents liked to discipline them by beating and punishing them. Such a method cannot be continued, otherwise it will lead parents and children to turn against each other, and even force their children to become evil people.
The old ancestors told us: "Slow work produces fine work." "Slow down, figure out the work at hand, study it thoroughly, and then do it again, and you will do more with less."
In the beginning, we all did things that were quick to succeed, and now, we can't let our children repeat the same mistakes. Everyone sits together, eats a meal, and pulls homely routines, and this way of communication is harmonious and reliable.
03
Talk to "opponents" in the workplace, slow down, and hide the sharp edge.
When the people around you crush you, you will most likely "grit your teeth" and be eager to choke the other party.
Don't worry, fifty-year-old people, who have not yet retired, still have to stick to their posts and keep their jobs. If you want to jump ship, you are not completely sure, and don't do it.
Man, at this age, it's hard to find a job. Moreover, you don't work, social security can't pay, and your health is not guaranteed. When you are sixty years old, you will inevitably regret it.
As a veteran in the workplace, you should not rely on the old to sell the old, nor can you rely on experience to do things, meet the opponent, you must know how to endure. Especially those young people, they don't speak well, they don't know the sky is high.
Don't care what others say, just do yourself, don't seek merit, but seek no fault. It is your blessing to be able to work smoothly until the age of sixty.
Gather your sharpness and treat the opponents on the unit as people who must be interacted with in adult life. Your speech is gentler, and the atmosphere in the workplace is also milder, and it is better to mix.
04
Talk to the lively crowd, and you have to be slow to know right from wrong.
A lot of times, we tell people, "Don't go and make a scene." "But it is human nature to join in the fun. Everyone wants to know, the lively place, what is really happening, curiosity is abetting themselves.
When people talk a lot, the most feared thing is to "open their mouths", the most difficult thing is "silence", and the most hateful thing is "not to distinguish between right and wrong".
Tagore said: "Loneliness is the carnival of one person, and carnival is the loneliness of a group of people"
Bacon said, "People who like to be lonely are either beasts or gods." ”
Enjoying solitude and being afraid of loneliness are the two sides of a person. Most people, very ordinary, so they are used to being lively. Otherwise, there wouldn't be so many old people dancing in the square, and there wouldn't be so many people on the street.
Smart people like to be lively, but they don't get into trouble because of it. He was used to watching everything by the sidelines, knowing what he was going to do and how to talk.
Speak slowly in order to seize the gap in time, to listen to what others say, to accept more information. Even if there is a deviation, it can be adjusted and will not go to extremes.
05
A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June.
When people are over fifty, they must remember their identity and age, and be cautious in their words and deeds. Don't let your words be cheap.
Words are less, the weight is enough; words are slower, and spirits are more expensive.
Speaking is human instinct, and shutting up is human ability.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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