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Shakespeare said, "Sloppy marriages are less happy." ”
Marriage directly affects the happiness of two people in the second half of their lives, and also determines the fate of two families.
Do not marry in a hurry because of the right age, nor can you ignore other factors because of the appearance of the other party's money.
Marriage pays attention to the door to the door, and looking at the family situation before marriage can make people take many detours.
As a parent, after completing the first half of a child's life, you may wish to point out the way for the second half of your child's life.
Please tell your children: you can love freely, but get married, try to find the following three kinds of families.
Be reasonable and get along
As the saying goes, "It is difficult for a clean official to do household chores." ”
The merits of family disputes are one of the most complex issues in the world.
Between people, the three views are combined, and many contradictions can be avoided.
On the contrary, the public is justified, and the mother-in-law is justified. No matter how loud it is, it is difficult to reach an agreement; no matter how fierce the quarrel, it is impossible to communicate effectively.
A family, right and wrong are too clear, easy to split. No matter how good the feelings are, they can't withstand the ravages of words and swords.
Before getting married, be sure to go to each other's homes to see the family environment and also look at the family atmosphere.
Talk to each other's parents and get a first idea of how the other family gets along.
When encountering different opinions, whether to calmly communicate and solve them, or to have their own opinions, no one will let anyone.
A child who has been educated in the stubbornness of his parents is mostly tainted with arbitrariness.
Such a person may let you go everywhere when in love, but after marriage, in the chai rice oil and salt, it will reveal an incomprehensible nature.
On the contrary, if the parents have three correct views and are reasonable, such a family must be full of tolerance and understanding.
Most of the children who are "rich" in harmonious families are reasonable.
"Heshun has a hundred blessings, and everything in the family is prosperous", the harmony between husband and wife, and the prosperity of the family are the greatest happiness in a person's life.
Be filial to your parents and be grateful
There is a saying that goes like this:
"If you are a kind person and you have received kindness and help from others, a natural emotion will arise in your heart, and this emotion is called gratitude."
Gratitude is an essential emotion for human beings.
Raising a grateful child, whether or not he has a career, is the greatest achievement of parenthood.
Before marriage, go to see how the other party gets along with his parents, and you can see whether the new family formed with him in the future is blessed.
As the widely circulated saying goes, "The attitude toward your parents is your truest character." ”
People with good character, no matter where they go, the road is smooth.
On the contrary, people with poor character, the dark black hole in the depths of their hearts, will swallow their conscience sooner or later.
Marrying such a person and starting a family is tantamount to putting yourself on the edge of a cliff.
Such a partner will never be grateful for our efforts in marriage and family.
They will only see their own bitterness and tiredness, and then blame you for all this.
Marriage is not a lone struggle of one person, but the mutual cooperation and mutual achievement of two people.
Before you get married, you should go to the other person's house to see how the person you are about to enter into marriage treats your parents. And how his parents treated their own parents.
He who is not filial piety shall not marry, nor shall he marry.
The family style is upright and proactive
Someone said: "Family style is a wordless book, the source of a person's spiritual growth." ”
Deeply.
Family style is the best heirloom, enough to affect the fate of a family.
In life, some families were originally very rich, but in the end they fell, while some families were originally very poor, but in the end they prospered.
The problem is at home.
Before marriage, the most taboo thing is to see that the other party's family is rich, so they rush to get engaged, afraid of missing out.
Or when they see each other's family situation, they generally plan to break up and show no mercy.
Whether the other person's family is rich or poor, look at where the money comes from and where it goes.
Improper money, wanton squandering people, even if there is a golden mountain and silver mountain can not be asked, the risk is too great;
People who earn money steadily and are diligent and thrifty can generally accept even if they are well-off, and the future can be expected.
The "Yan Family Training" has a saying: "Living with good people, such as entering the room of Zhilan, for a long time, and living with evil people, like entering the abalone wanton, for a long time it stinks." ”
Parents who gamble well can never teach their children down-to-earth.
Families who are good at taking shortcuts are not worth the rest of our lives.
Roland said: "You don't have to be reluctant to love, you have to be responsible for marriage." ”
Before young people enter the palace of marriage, they will inevitably be carried away by love.
As a parent, the guidance and advice on the marriage of children are indispensable.
The authorities can be "confused", but the bystanders must be "clean".
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Author: Han Jiushu | Source: Guoxue Wenkan (ID: guoxuewenkan)
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