Xiao Lu cheated after drinking, and Xiao San made a big fuss at the child's first birthday banquet, and Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu's relationship for many years broke down. The two divorced quickly, but they still loved each other in their hearts.
After the divorce, Fang Yinuo went back to get things, saw the mess of the house, thought for a long time or couldn't bear it, so he cleaned the house before leaving. Xiao Lu came back at night to see the spotless house, and his heart was full of mixed feelings.
In fact, even if Zhu Zhu did not appear, Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo would not be happy, because their marriage was indeed a problem.
So what exactly is marriage? People have worked so hard, why can't they still reap happiness? This is a question of many people, and Fang Yinuo's last housework may give us the answer, let's take a look!
Many things men are not unable to, but unwilling, but more accustomed
When Fang Yinuo entered the door and saw the house full of chaos, his heart should be both disgusted and sad! The moment she finally took out the garbage bag, she felt her deep helplessness and exhaustion. But when Xiao Lu entered the door and saw that the room was spotless, in addition to being sad and unwilling, he did not feel how surprised or regretful he was, which may be the difference between the attitude of men and women.
What do you want to say? In many things, the points that women care about and the points that men focus on may be completely different!
Of course, a clean house is good, women like to be clean, so she hopes that men can also pay attention to hygiene and keep clean, but men feel, so is it really necessary to pay attention to it?
Under normal circumstances, when women are at home, the health is basically they are cleaning, men go home after the home may become messy, and then women begin to dislike, complain, feel that men go home to add a lot of burden to themselves, are you often like this?
In fact, it's not that men don't like to be clean, it's just that between staying clean and enjoying it, they feel more comfortable taking a break. The house is dirty, the house is dirty, the things are messy, and it is not impossible to live! Maybe women will be uncomfortable looking at it, but men don't feel anything, so they don't care, and women are angry.
This is true in the matter of hygiene, and it is also true of many other things, it is not that they cannot do it, nor that they do it badly, but they are unwilling to do it, or even accustomed to not wanting to do it.
Therefore, after the divorce, Fang Yinuo has been immersed in the entanglement of the failed marriage, and Xiao Lu is only sad for a while, and soon falls into a new relationship. Women care more about feelings and feelings, while men are more suitable for habits and reason.
For home, the woman's mission is to guard, and the man's inertia is to drift
Fang Yinuo packed up everything and sat on the sofa waiting for Xiao Lu, leaving all the lights for him, perhaps she had waited for countless nights before! Xiao Lu came back very late, and when he returned home, he turned off all the lights, and the house was silent.
This scene makes me feel that in the special environment of the family, the mission of a woman is always to guard, to guard the family, to guard the children, to guard the husband, and to guard happiness. But the inertia of men is to drift, home is only a temporary return to the harbor, a place that can give him warmth and sustenance, once he is satisfied, he will continue to drift, and the cycle will start again.
Women often focus on the concept of home, and many women will say when they complain, how much I have paid for this family, how much I have sacrificed for children, the elderly, etc. In their eyes, home is the most important, career, human feelings, self, these can be abandoned, but men can not.
When men erupt, they always say that it is not easy for me to fight hard for this family. That is the difference in positions.
Most women are dependent on their homes no matter what they are outside, so many women will choose to take their children at home after the birth of their children, unwilling or unwilling to give their children to others. At this time, they often face their children alone, and they are also the people who know the habits of children the most, and the husband who has been working outside seems to be creepy, so the wife often complains that her husband is "incompetent" and cannot help anything. Of course, at home, men are generally not women's "opponents", they are not so delicate, nor are they so patient, and they do not like it.
Fang Yinuo can sacrifice everything for the sake of the child, whether others want to cooperate or not, the mother-in-law must quit smoking, the little uncle must adapt to his own rhythm, the husband must appear when he should appear, and the mother must also help her think of everything she should think of. Perhaps Fang Yinuo herself did not realize that unconsciously, for the sake of the child, she had become a look that everyone hated.
Xiao Lu accompanied the child to get the vaccine, queued, received water, took care of the child, he did not do anything well, he felt tired, disgusted, troublesome, this feeling made him unwilling to go home, the "drift" outside seemed to make him more comfortable!
Men are the foundation of the family, women are the icing on the cake
Fang Yinuo went back to pack his things and look around, everything needed to be taken away!
Photos, toys, clothes, sheets and covers, and all daily necessities are mainly women, so xiao Lu saw only hard clothes when he returned home, and Fang Yinuo took away everything he could take away.
It's not like when you get married, the man buys the house, the decoration is installed, and the rest is given to the woman, and the same is true when the divorce is done, the house is left for the man, and the woman leaves with the things she once bought.
In general, in the relationship between husband and wife, the man is the foundation of the family and the woman is the icing on the cake.
It is said that men are the pillars of the family, and women are born with a lack of security, so women are eager to have the dependence of men, and men are willing to get spiritual satisfaction from women's dependence.
Fang Yinuo should be a more self-reliant woman, and stubborn, both at home and outside the home are a good hand, but even so, she also hopes that Xiao Lu can always accompany her and the child, in the key moment can appear like a hero around them, but Xiao Lu has never been able to do it, which is also an important reason for Fang Yinuo's cruel divorce. To put it bluntly, Xiao Lu was no longer the foundation in Fang Yinuo's heart!
The foundation of Xiao Lu collapsed, and no matter how well Fang Yinuo did, this home would not return to its former splendor.
Personally, I think that there is nothing wrong with a man fighting outside, but he must be the spiritual pillar of the family, as long as he is there, the family has a temperature. Men who only care about making money and ignoring everything in the family can't give women a sense of security. Only when a woman has enough security will she willingly decorate this home and add icing on the cake to this home!
epilogue:
Marriage is the triviality of daily life, it is quarrel, it is habit, it is giving, it is inclusive, it is many, many.
If you want to be happy in marriage, you must first learn to pay, then you must learn to adapt, and finally you must learn to tolerate. This is a very long marathon, there is no short way to copy, there is no shortcut to take, you must face it step by step, you can't escape!
The only thing we can do is face it together and cheer together!