The best education for children is life education.
Housework is the most basic part of life.
Author | Ange
Dear Son,
It's late at night, and you should already be rested.
Today, some words have been echoing in Dad's mind, trying to find an opportunity to say to you.
Do you remember after dinner when Dad asked you to clean up the table?
At that time, I finished eating with your mother first, she went to the balcony to dry clothes, and I mopped the floor in the living room.
After a while, you finished eating, you wiped your mouth, put the bowl down and got up to go.
At this time, I stopped you and asked you to wipe the table clean and go to the kitchen to wash the dishes.
You were a little surprised and a little reluctant, so you walked back slowly.
Later, while washing, you complained: "I haven't written a lot of homework yet, why should I help my mother clean the dishes!" ”
Son, when he heard you say this, Dad's heart twitched violently.
All along, we have been thinking that you are busy with your studies, rarely let you do housework, and do not deliberately let you share the affairs of the family.
Unexpectedly, this will make you more and more slack, more and more reasonable.
Dad often told you that as a man, the most valuable qualities are responsibility and responsibility.
But the real responsibility is often not in any important moment, but hidden in every little thing in life.
So, Dad wants to talk to you seriously next.
She's your mom
Not your babysitter
Son, you reluctantly wash the dishes, do you think that the housework should be done by the mother?
After all, since you were born, your mother has been busy and busy, and she is always the most laborious person in the family.
There is a mother online who has recorded her ordinary day on video.
Every morning, the mother is the first to get up because she has to prepare breakfast in advance when the child is not awake.
When the children finished washing, she kept cleaning up and cleaning the house.
It's hard to have some free time, but also to prepare lunch, accompany the children out to play...
In the evening, my mother was already a little tired, but she also had to continue to prepare dinner and take care of the family.
It wasn't until late at night, when the whole family was asleep, that the mother's day really came to an end.
Child, you may not have noticed, in fact, this aunt's day is also your mother's daily routine.
But, son, do you know, Mom, she could have avoided this.
Dad clearly remembers the time when your mom and I were married, and she was smelly and beautiful, hated cooking, and would frown when she cleaned the bathroom.
Once, when cooking, the oil was just poured into the pot, and she was scared to hide...
At that time, she went out every day after work, went out when she was happy, and didn't want to move to do something she liked at home.
Later, when your mother gave birth to you, you could no longer be as free as this.
She spends almost all of her free time taking care of her family and you, but even then, she is always busy with things.
Son, what Dad wants to tell you is that there is nothing that Mom "should" do.
She said goodbye to her former life, gave up many hobbies, sacrificed her freedom, and cooked every meal for you...
Not because of anything else, but because she loves this home, she loves you.
So son, you must not take your mother's daily efforts for granted.
Mom is not a superman, she is also a little princess who deserves our pampering and needs our love.
The so-called family
It's about sharing the housework together
Son, I want to ask you, what do you think housework represents? Is it exclusive to mothers, or should it be an adult's business?
Before you answer me, I'll share a video with you.
In the video, a little sister refuses to pack up toys and does not want to do housework, so her mother asks her a question.
Mom asked, "What is family?" ”
The little girl was still sobbing, but her answer was very meaningful, she said:
"I'm going to pack up the toys, instead of leaving them there and leaving them alone, and letting you collect them, which is not something the family should do at all."
"What is the family thing, everyone will help each other, their own affairs, will do their own thing."
"It's not just one person in the family who always rests there, and when it's time to eat, that person sits there and has nothing to do."
Son, Dad wants you to understand that the so-called housework is a bunch of things that can only be done after you have a home.
You are a member of the family, every meal you have eaten, every piece of clothing you wear, every penny you have spent, is given to you by this family.
The family is not the mother's alone, and the housework is also not the mother's exclusive.
Behind your quiet years, it is your mother who is silently bearing.
Son, you have grown up, and when you stand next to me, you are like a little man.
A truly good child will never "help" his mother with housework, because it is his duty.
Do you remember that during the epidemic, you were always bored at home and yelled that you wanted to go out and play?
But in Guizhou, there is a younger brother who is only 7 years old and has to go out every night to help his parents set up a stall.
Someone asked him, why do you want to go out and set up a stall?
The younger brother said: Because I want to help my father make money.
Although he was tired of setting up the stall, he learned to be considerate of his parents early on.
Dad believes that a child like him who knows how to understand his parents and knows how to be grateful will do his best in the future and will definitely reap his own happiness.
Dad wants you to understand that having a home will be responsible, and doing housework is your minimum responsibility for the family.
Responsible child
The future will go further
Son, you have always had excellent grades, and dad is very proud of you.
However, several times before, your mother called you to do housework, and you rejected your mother on the pretext that you were busy studying.
Dad wants to tell you today that washing the bowl is indeed a small thing, it may be trivial and boring, but whether you can insist on doing it well is related to a person's very important quality - sense of responsibility.
Dad told you the story of CCTV host Ouyang Xiadan.
In 1999, Ouyang Xiadan graduated from the Department of Broadcasting of the Communication University of China and joined shanghai television station.
She was supposed to be the host, but she was assigned to the human resources department to sort out the files.
However, Ouyang XiaDan did this job very seriously.
Slowly, the colleagues around her knew that there was a girl in the broadcast department, and in the human resources department, she could do a good job in any small matter entrusted to her.
Later, a new program came out of the station to find a host, and everyone thought of Ouyang Xiadan.
As you must have guessed, she did a particularly good job, the doors of the workplace were suddenly opened, and she became the youngest news anchor in history.
Son, there is responsibility in trivial things; responsibility is reflected in boring persistence.
In the future, you may have to face a lot of things, you will enter the workplace and start your new life.
Dad hopes that you can do every little thing well and become a responsible person.
When you are willing to take responsibility, do not complain or shirk, and do it in a down-to-earth manner, your future road will definitely be wider than others, and you will go farther.
The premise of happiness
It is to be a loving person
Son, Dad has seen a show called "Teenager Says" before, in which there is a brother who has the same complaint as you.
He complained that his mother forced him to do housework, and said with grievance: "I have to brush the dishes, wipe the floor, pick vegetables, I am just a child!"
But his mother said in a serious tone:
Housework is an integral part of life, it will exercise your hands-on ability, make you grateful, let you have patience and love.
As a boy, if you can take responsibility and responsibility in the future, then your future must be very happy.
The people who are with you will also be very happy!
Son, this aunt seems to be fierce, but between the words is a deep love for the child.
Dad wants to tell you that this is also my greatest expectation of you.
Learning is indeed one of the most important tasks you will do as a student.
However, Dad does not want you to grow into a machine that can only learn in the future, but a man with flesh and blood who knows gratitude and responsibility.
One day in the future, you will leave us and start a family of your own.
At that time, this responsibility is not only the motivation for your own struggle, but also the code for you to achieve long-term happiness.
Remember that you said to me before that you liked Mr. Yang Dai's article very much, and you also envied the "fairy love" of Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu.
But do you know that Qian Zhongshu, who came from a wealthy background, is a person who is not good at taking care of himself in life.
Yang Dai volunteered to take on the chores at home, she washed and cooked, changed the light bulbs, and gave Qian Zhongshu enough freedom to create.
At the same time, Qian Zhongshu also looked at his wife's efforts.
He learned to make breakfast for Yang Dai, awkwardly sharing the housework for her.
He was worried that Yang Dai would waste her talent by giving up studying, so he urged her to study and complete her studies.
Son, a happy family has never relied on luck, but on the management of two people.
It must be mutually responsible, mutually understanding and tolerance, created bit by bit in the long years.
Son, Dad hopes that in the future, you can turn the love in your heart into understanding and support for your future family, and work together to harvest the happiness that belongs to you.
Son, the road to growth is destined to be a long cultivation, in this process, you may have to learn a lot of knowledge, master a lot of skills.
But Dad wants you to remember that responsibility is the most important "backbone" in your body.
A child with a sense of responsibility and responsibility, with more internal motivation and more understanding of being responsible for himself and others, will not only walk more steadily in the future, but also easier to harvest a successful and happy life.
Son, I hope that after you see this letter, you can understand your father's painstaking thoughts.
From tomorrow onwards, truly see yourself as a part of this family and take the initiative to take responsibility for yourself.
My mother and I will grow old one day, and I hope that in the near future, you can become a man who stands tall in the sky and the person who shields us from the wind and rain.
Dear son, I believe that every persistence you have today can become the light that guides you forward and illuminates the road ahead of you.