There are no small things on the road of parenting, and the time for children to speak sooner or later also makes many parents compete in private.
Xiao Gui, an office colleague, has been sighing lately, asking her why, and it took half a day to say that it was related to the child. Xiao Gui's son is almost 2 years old, and the children of the same age around him have already talked fluently with adults, but Xiao Gui's son is even vague about calling dad and mother.
The old man in the family advised Xiao Gui: "Haven't you heard the noble people's words late?" Kids who talk late are smart, don't worry too much! But Xiao Gui, who graduated from colleges and universities, did not agree with the views of the old man.
Now everyone attaches importance to the enlightenment education of young children, and children who speak early have the opportunity to take advantage of educational enlightenment. Other people's children have begun to recite ancient poems, and their own children can't even keep up with language development, so won't they be a long way behind in the future?
At the end, Xiao Gui asked me: "In the end, the child is smart and smart?" Or is it higher IQ to talk late? ”
In order to answer Xiao Gui's doubts, I told him about my child's situation. My eldest spoke early, about two years old can recite one or two five-word sentences like a model, and when the second is of the same age, he can only rely on "comparison" to communicate with adults.
Obviously, it is the genetic gene of the same father and mother, why is the language development gap between my two sons so large?
Could it be that the second eldest is dumber than the eldest? With a nervous mood, I seriously consulted a professional. The answer was that the morning and evening when the child spoke was directly related to the development of the "Broca zone" in the child's brain.
To put it simply, this area is equivalent to the child's language center, the "Broca area" develops early, the child's language system develops quickly, and the child speaks early. The "Broca district" develops late, and the children talk late. Sooner or later, the time when the child speaks is not directly related to IQ.
Indeed, as the professionals say, the IQ of the second eldest did not drag his legs, and his later performance can be described as "the latecomer is on top". Before the age of three, he caught up with the pace of children of the same age, and there was no barrier to language communication.
Nowadays, both children have reached school age, whether it is the eldest who speaks early or the second who speaks late, the performance of both children in school is remarkable, and their grades are relatively good. It can be seen that whether it is a child who opens early or a child who speaks late, there is no so-called IQ gap.
Although it is clear that the time when the child speaks is not directly related to the IQ, the professionals also told me that according to the individual development of young children. The "Broca District" begins to develop around the age of 1-3 and basically matures around the age of 10. In other words, if you want your child's language development to be at the top, parents must seize the limited time to stimulate this "language center" area. Otherwise, as the child ages, the sensitivity of the area decreases, and the difficulty of rehabilitation training will increase.
So, how do you train your child to speak early? I summarized it
Master the laws of language development
Children's language development is not "blockbuster", but "step by step". Around the third month of the child, parents will find that the child has signs of murmuring, and the mouth will emit "ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Parents can communicate with their children more, such as: "Today the weather is very good, take the baby out to bask in the sun", "The baby wore a new dress today, oh, does the baby like it?" ”
Although the child cannot interact with the parents at this time, the language input from the parents will stimulate the enthusiasm of the child's language development.
By the child's 10 months or so, the child will consciously imitate some monosyllabic words, such as "mom", "dad" and so on. At this time, parents can not be lazy, you can prepare some cards, while teaching children to recognize things, while training children's language.
The uniformity of the locale is important
The child is about one year old, which is a turning point in language development. Because some children can "hyphenate into sentences" at this stage, they can express words more clearly.
At this time, the environment in which children learn language is particularly important. Some families, parents and other family members come from all over the world, and various dialects come together to make the language learning environment of children very noisy, which will invisibly increase the difficulty of their language learning.
In the critical period of language learning around the age of one year, to achieve the unity of the language environment, when communicating with the baby, do not use each dialect, try to use standard Mandarin uniformly, a single language environment is conducive to children to master the skills of language pronunciation.
Create conditions for children to speak
In this regard, I have suffered losses, because with the mature experience of taking care of the boss, I am more comfortable in taking care of the second boss. Basically, without the second brother expressing his needs, I can accurately guess and quickly hand over the items he needs to the child.
It seems to be a tacit understanding of "mother and child connecting hearts", taking care of children without worry and effort, but in fact, this practice deprives the second brother of the right to speak. So under the advice of professionals, in the process of training the second language development later, I constantly created opportunities to guide him to open his mouth.
When a child gestures and points to tell him what he needs, I don't understand anything and ask in reverse language, such as, "Does the baby want to drink milk?" ”
At first, the child is not accustomed to opening his mouth to answer, and will choose to nod and shake his head. But I will patiently repeat "Does the baby want to drink milk?" Tell your mother, yes or no? "Try it a few more times, and your child will know the language to respond."
Therefore, here is also a reminder to parents and friends that the child's language function needs to be exercised more, and parents need to skillfully create opportunities for them to open their mouths.
Although the time for children to speak sooner or later has nothing to do with IQ, children who speak early have more opportunities to get language training, and relatively speaking, their language expression ability will be more dominant.
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