It is said that children are the bond of marriage, no matter how much they love each other at the beginning, after a long time of marriage, their feelings will return to flatness. Some couples are even like strangers, if it is not tied up by children, marriage is difficult to maintain.
But if couples don't have children between them, can marriage still be happy? If one of the spouses is unable to have children, how long can such a marriage last?
Tough road to finding children
Xiao Gao and Mei Qing are a couple who have been married for ten years, and because of Xiao Gao's physical reasons, the two have not had children. But the mother-in-law has been looking forward to holding her grandson, so she begged her daughter-in-law Meiqing to do IVF.
Mei Qingduo complained about this, because the cause of infertility was not herself, but she had to bear the pain herself. The physical pain is also counted, the key is that every time the hope is disappointed, let yourself be mentally devastated.
Every time she went to IVF, Meiqing would be a little more resentful of her in-laws. She felt that if it had not been for her husband and in-laws deliberately concealing it, she would not have suffered the sin she is now.
Marriage is cheating in the first place
When Meiqing chose to be with her husband, her parents were all opposed, and Meiqing even severed her relationship with the family and wanted to be with her husband. What she didn't know was that her husband had a hidden illness and could not have children, and her in-laws were all hiding from her.
Life after marriage is still quite sweet, but the delay in having children makes Meiqing very uneasy, and she thinks that it is her own reason. But the in-laws did not blame her, which made her grateful for a while.
Until the in-laws urged Meiqing to go to the hospital to see, if not, do IVF. After going to the hospital for an examination and listening to the doctor's words, Meiqing learned that her husband could not have children, and she also knew that her in-laws had been hiding from her.
After knowing the truth, Meiqing's attitude towards the in-laws changed, and the previous gratitude to the in-laws now seems ironic. But this is the end of the matter, and there is no way to get angry again.
With the failure of one operation after another, the body and spirit suffered a double blow, Meiqing began to resist doing IVF, and the in-laws were in the first place, and they could only persuade, not force.
Husband and wife centrifuge, know Lao Wang
In the absence of children to maintain, because of some trivial matters, the quarrels between Meiqing and Xiaogao have gradually increased, and Xiaogao is annoyed, so he runs to the big city to work and earn money, and only returns home once in several months.
The husband and wife are not harmonious, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law also have contradictions, which makes Meiqing more and more disappointed in this marriage. Since Xiao Gao went to the city to work, Meiqing did not want to stay at home and look at her mother-in-law, and also ran to the county town to work.
It was this part-time job that allowed Meiqing to know her colleague Lao Wang. Lao Wang is more than a teenager than Meiqing, because his wife can not have children and chose to divorce, has not found a suitable partner.
Lao Wang and Mei Qing are a bit sick and pity each other, and they take good care of Mei Qing. Although Meiqing also has a good feeling for Lao Wang, she does not want to be sorry for her husband, so she has always kept a distance from Lao Wang.
It's all about alcohol
Xiao Gao finally returned from the big city, and gave all the money earned from part-time work to his mother, not his wife Meiqing, which made Meiqing very angry, thinking that her husband still regarded her as an outsider, so he rushed to the county town to work overnight.
It was on that night, after Meiqing had drunk too much, that when Lao Wang comforted her, the two of them couldn't help themselves. The next day Meiqing regretted a little, feeling sorry for her husband, but lusting after that sense of pleasure.
After several hesitations and struggles, a sense of morality prevailed, meiqing decided to keep a distance from lao wang and return to her hometown to continue living with her husband, but unexpected things happened.
Not long after, Meiqing found out that she was pregnant, she knew that this was Lao Wang's child, but she thought that it was good to have such a result, the test tube had not been successful for many years, and now she finally had a child.
Pregnancy gives birth to a child, and the contradiction deepens
The in-laws knew that Meiqing was pregnant, and they were very happy, and their wish came true for many years. But their happiness is also expressed verbally, every time Meiqing goes to the maternity examination, she spends her own salary, and her husband has only given a thousand yuan in total.
After Lao Wang knew that Mei Qing was pregnant, he had always suspected that the child was his own, thinking that he finally had a child in his forties, but Mei Qing just did not admit it and did not want to meet him, so Lao Wang had to give up.
Finally came to the day of childbirth, Meiqing successfully gave birth to a daughter, the in-laws felt a little disappointed, did not leave the hospital to persuade Meiqing to take advantage of the young to ask for another, since she can conceive one, you can conceive a second.
The attitude of the in-laws directly made Meiqing collapse, the more she thought about it, the more angry she became, originally the beginning of this marriage was cheating, she suffered a lot in order to have a child, when she gave birth to a child, the in-laws did not give a penny, the husband only gave a thousand yuan in total, she did not know in this marriage, she still had something to linger on.
When the child was given a full moon wine, an oversized red envelope caused a family upheaval.
A red envelope triggers a huge change in the family
Lao Wang knew that Meiqing's husband could not have children, and was convinced that the child was his own, how could the old woman not be happy? Although Meiqing does not want to see herself, she also wants to express herself.
Although Meiqing did not invite Lao Wang to participate in the full moon wine, but invited other colleagues, Lao Wang asked colleagues to help him bring a red envelope of 10,000 yuan, and said that he had borrowed Meiqing money before, and now it was time to repay the money.
Lao Wang did this as a last resort, Mei Qing did not contact herself early in the morning, there was no way to transfer her contact information, and there was no way to transfer money to her, so she had to let her colleagues carry it. Afraid that others would be suspicious, he also made up a lie.
When the in-laws received this huge red envelope, their faces were quite ugly. Originally, they were a little suspicious, they had not been pregnant for ten years of marriage, how could they suddenly have it?
It's just that everyone wants to be an ostrich, as long as they don't poke it, they continue to deceive themselves and don't want to think about it. But this huge red envelope pulled them into reality, and relatives and friends were also whispering.
Showdown: The child is not yours
Xiao Gao endured until the end of the banquet and asked Mei Qing what was going on? He also asked her if the child was her own. Meiqing is also very simple, frankly admitting that the child is not a small tall. Xiao Gao asked who the man was, and Mei Qing did not want to say it, and said that it was that night.
In the face of the truth, Xiao Gao could not calm down, and Meiqing was not willing to live with her husband anymore, so she returned to her mother's house with her child, and she also had to follow her child's hukou and her surname.
Xiao Gao and his family were still hopeful at the beginning, comforting themselves that Meiqing was talking angrily, the child may be gao's family, and he also had to do a paternity test.
In order to make her husband die, Meiqing agreed to do the appraisal, and the results of the appraisal were unexpected, and the child had nothing to do with Xiaogao.
Seeing such a result, Xiao Gao's heart was like ashes, and Meiqing proposed a divorce, and he also agreed. Since we have come to this point, it is indeed irreparable. If you don't know that the child is not your own, you can pretend that nothing has happened, and you already know it, you can't pretend anymore.
As for Meiqing, whether or not to take the children and Lao Wang to start a family together is their own business.
Editor's opinion
Falling in love is easy to marry and not easy, Xiao Gao and MeiQing did love each other when they first got married, but the feelings of the two people were consumed in chai rice oil and salt.
Many couples also go through such a stage because love doesn't last forever. It's just that some couples smoothly transition to family affection, and the marriage can be happy.
But like Xiao Gao and Mei Qing, there was concealment and deception at the beginning, which buried hidden dangers. Coupled with the lack of children of their own, it is difficult to maintain after the relationship between husband and wife has weakened.
There is no room for deception in marriage, and once trust is lost, it is difficult to build up again. Meiqing no longer trusts her husband, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law continues to escalate, and after saving enough disappointment, Meiqing finally made up her mind to leave.
Of course, Mei Qing also has mistakes and should not be unfaithful in marriage. If you want to find a new relationship, at least you have to wait for the end of a relationship, both to respect your husband and to respect yourself.
Meiqing's mistake is also that it did not stop the loss in time, knowing that the in-laws deliberately concealed themselves, did not leave decisively, always felt that it was a fait accompli, so it would be wrong to go on, and the result would only be more and more disappointed.
I hope that after Meiqing has experienced this failed marriage, she can mature, and then choose marriage to be cautious, and cannot easily fall into it because of a few sweet words.