When "Dear Child" Fang Yinuo gave birth to a child, her husband Xiao Lu slept at home, and her mother-in-law Gao Caiping was distressed that she was reluctant to take a taxi, and only her mother was with her.
After the child was born, the mother-in-law waited downstairs for Xiao Lu to send her a placenta, she was not in a hurry to go up to see her daughter-in-law, nor was she in a hurry to see her newborn granddaughter, and her mind was only thinking about the placenta that fell out of her daughter-in-law's belly.
It was at that time that the mother-in-law's good feelings were all destroyed by the placenta. Later, she dropped the child and called her young son to Fang Yinuo's house for dinner, which was nothing strange to say that it was just a little witch seeing a big witch.
It can be said that the appearance of Gao Caiping has set up a "bad mother-in-law" personality for himself. However, this evil mother-in-law, with the development of the plot, made me have a feeling of "she is not easy".
Why is it not easy to say that she is also not easy?
First, she tied her hands and feet in her daughter-in-law's home.
After Gao Caiping dropped his granddaughter, Fang Yinuo moved his mind to let his mother-in-law go home, and Fang Yinuo's mother also decided to retire early to help them with their children. But Gao Caiping was so good and strong, she felt that she couldn't just leave in a disgrace, she wanted to leave, and she couldn't go at this time.
But not to leave, she also felt that it was a loss, in the daughter-in-law's home, she could only accept the arrangement of her own mother, do some cleaning and cleaning work, even her young son could not see it, thinking that the sister-in-law mother and daughter were using his mother as a nanny.
Why did Gao Caiping stay at her daughter-in-law's house so stubbornly? Wanting to get a breath back for yourself is one thing, and more importantly, for the sake of your son. The mother-in-law came, she was afraid that her son would be wronged at home, and if she left, the son would have no dependence, which is the mentality of many mothers who have become mothers-in-law.
She wants to support her son, but she does not want to see her son's family chickens and dogs restless, so she can only let herself suffer some grievances, in exchange for his son's family harmony, but also to achieve the purpose of taking care of his son.
In this regard, Gao Caiping is not easy, at least she is not like some selfish mother-in-law, she is unhappy and quarrels with her daughter-in-law, and does not care whether her son's family is a chicken flying dog jump.
Second, she can clearly carry out family relations.
In this drama, I hate Xiao Lu's younger brother Xiao Xu very much, not only because he is a mother who can't live without his mother, but also because he can't figure it out.
He went to Xiao Lu's house to eat and drink, knowing that there were babies in the house still smoking, burning the curtains and being righteous, saying that it was his brother's home, that he had come for granted, and that he had accused his brother of being too intimidated and not having the appearance of the head of the family.
At that time, Gao Caiping said these two words to Xiao Xu, which made me very impressed with her, she said:
"Go freely, go back to your house, no one cares about you in the garbage dump... This is your brother's house, and it is not your turn to point fingers. ”
I have seen the kind of mother-in-law who is confused, blindly emphasizing that brothers are the family, persuading their sons to be better to their brothers than to their daughters-in-law, treating their sons' homes as their own homes, and treating their daughters-in-law as outsiders. Like Gao Caiping, he clearly told his younger son that his brother's family wheel could not be his mother-in-law who pointed fingers, and he was really very clear.
Also, after learning about Xiao Lu and Zhu Zhu, she scolded Xiao Lu and accused him of doing such a disgraceful thing and demolishing his good home.
At this point, I suddenly felt that Gao Caiping's mother-in-law' concept was old, but in essence she was still quite reasonable, she had unpopularity, but she was also single-mindedly wanted to make her son and daughter-in-law better.
Mother-in-law's not easy, who caused it?
When watching this drama, I have been wondering, why was the high-color screen that was ruined by a placenta at the beginning, but slowly pulled back the human setting with the development of the plot?
Come to think of it, I think, this is because she is not a bad person at all. Although she is nagging, unpleasant, and a little stubborn, she is always thinking about others, not the selfish and mean daughter-in-law's mother-in-law. In contrast, in the position of mother-in-law, she is also very difficult.
Of course, this is not to say that her difficulty is caused by her daughter-in-law, but there are many factors:
First, there is a lack of understanding between family members.
This is actually very common, each of us is more or less selfish, and those who are close to us instinctively want to maintain, and those who are far away, we are relatively harsh.
Just like Fang Yinuo strictly prohibits her mother-in-law from smoking when she takes her child, but allows her father to hold the child after smoking; just like Fang Yinuo's mother, who is also for the good of the child, often throws her face at the mother-in-law. We cannot say who is a good person and who is a bad person, but we can only say that this is the common sentiment of human beings. And this kind of common sense of people has led to the embarrassment of the mother-in-law's family position.
Second, the son's inattention.
This should be the most critical factor that makes most mothers-in-law not easy, saying that in a family, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law mainly depends on the man's approach, then having an inattentive son, wife and mother will naturally be more difficult.
Gao Caiping is working very hard to help Xiao Lu maintain family relations, but Xiao Lu himself is not angry, not only does he not play a good coordination role among his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but even the family responsibilities he should bear do not understand. Thinking that if he called his mother to take the child, he would not be able to go home, and he would pick flowers and weeds outside under the banner of the family, and he had failed his mother's painstaking heart in vain.
Finally, her own perception.
If nothing else, just by looking at Gao Caiping's attitude towards Xiao Xu, you can know that as a mother, she is doting on her son. Treating an adult son as a child is itself a conceptual error.
When facing Xiao Lu, Gao Caiping is the same, she is afraid that her son will not be able to stand at home, she would rather endure grievances herself, see the face of her mother, and stay to help her son. This kind of concern for the son is understandable, but such an approach is not really good for the son, but will only make the son more lack of responsibility and responsibility.
To put it bluntly, a mother-in-law like Gao Caiping is a common mother-in-law in life, she is not an evil person, nor does she have any bad thoughts, but she is subject to her own living habits or concepts, and many times she is not pleased. What she needs is more understanding and better communication from her family.
And what I want to say here is that a man like Xiao Lu, who has a reasonable mother and wife, could have run a happier and more peaceful home, but because of his unreliability, he hurt his wife, tired of his mother, and demolished the family, which really shouldn't be.
So, if you are a mother-in-law, I agree that you want your son to be good, but I really advise you not to treat your adult son as a child, which will only make you more difficult and less pleasing to yourself.
And if you are a daughter-in-law, please remember that no one is perfect, we must learn to see more of the good of the mother-in-law, so that life will become happier.
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