Friend's case: Ms. Lee's first marriage was terrible.
At that time, she loved her boyfriend very much, and felt that the love between the two people had achieved from the school uniform to the wedding dress, which was a particularly romantic thing, and just thinking about it made it feel beautiful.
However, she had never imagined that her marriage would become so bad, and that the man who would blush when he talked to him would actually betray himself after marriage.
Learning of the existence of a third party, Ms. Li felt extremely disgusted, she did not hesitate in the slightest, she proposed divorce, this deteriorated marriage, she did not want to bother for a minute.
She thought that her life would pass like this, and she would not believe in love anymore, until she met her second husband, a man who did not say much, but truly loved herself.
The other party does not understand romance, but the money is handed over to themselves, and when they go out to dinner, they will report to themselves, and they will give themselves a sense of security.
Also in this marriage, Ms. Li will not suffer from the insecurity of gain and loss, and truly appreciate what a good marriage is like.
The words in the hearts of the second-married women remind all women: who to marry is really different.
Marry a responsible man and you will be happy for the rest of your life
TV series "Know it or not. Gu Tingye in "Know It or Not" is a man who stands tall in the sky, he can write and fight, he knows how to hurt his daughter-in-law, and does not let his daughter-in-law be wronged.
After Sheng Minglan married Gu Tingye, from the prudence in the Sheng Mansion in the past to the later "blatant", this change was due to the confidence given to her by Gu Tingye.
Gu Tingye gave Sheng Minglan a blatant preference, so that Sheng Minglan could be the most authentic self without worries and at will.
There is no need to seek perfection, there is no need to be happy, just need to be the most authentic self is enough.
In Long Yingtai's "Dear Andrei", she wrote to her son in a letter that said——
"The partner you need is preferably someone who can stand side by side with you at the bow of the boat, sing the scenery on both sides of the strait, and at the same time be able to hold your hand tightly in the rough seas." 」
And what we are looking for is really such a responsible man.
There may not be too many sweet words, there may not be too much aesthetic romance, but with such a man, we will definitely feel different and beautiful.
Marry a man who is not responsible, and your marriage must be a mess
Chen Ke in the TV series "Beijing Women's Picture Book" married a Beijing native when she was thirty years old, which means that she can have a Beijing hukou, which is also the best birthday gift she gave herself.
She feels that she has a good job, a decent salary, and now that she has a Beijing hukou, she is simply a winner in life.
However, she forgot that her husband was a mother-in-law, a man of about thirty years old, who did not go out to work, only knew how to nibble on the old, did not have his own opinion, and sought his mother's help in everything.
His mother accused Chen Ke that he would never help Chen Ke speak, only that he and his fox friend played mahjong at home, and Chen Ke, who had been busy for a day, had to cook for him when he returned home.
Doesn't such an irresponsible man marry him that our marriage is a mess?
The writer Sanmao once said in the book "Meteor Shower": "Age, economy, and knowledge are not necessary conditions for choosing a mate." I think the most important thing is each other's hearts and character, and that is the key to whether the marriage can last. ”
Marriage is an important single choice question for women, and although material things are important, what can determine whether a marriage is happy or not has always been a man's character.
And a man who has no responsibility is doomed to fail to give women the happiness they want.
Marry your soul mate and you will have a chance to get a chance into what is comfortable love
Actually, the best marriage is that we can marry a soul mate.
The so-called soul mate, to put it bluntly, is that we have found ourselves in another parallel world, and the other party is no different in personality, three views and handling methods.
We rarely disagree, and even if we do, we resolve them in an easy and comfortable way, rather than converging and forcing each other to accept things the other doesn't like.
For us, the luckiest thing is to be able to enter the marriage hall with a soul mate in our lifetime.
American novelist Jandy Nelson said: "Meeting a soul mate is like walking into a house where you once lived, and if you fall into darkness in that house, you can still walk around freely." ”
The management of marriage is very important, after all, it is not an eternal flower, it cannot be ignored when it is obtained, but it needs to take an effective way to maintain a strong vitality. But the choice of marriage is just as important.
A man's character, kindness, cultivation, and self-motivation all determine whether a woman can be happy in marriage.
And we, don't be carried away by love, we must remain sober and rational, choose marriage well, and marry a good person.