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The comic book writer Zhu Deyong once said: "We have just encountered an era with the richest material and the most spiritually poor. ”
Materially, we eat well, dress warmly, sleep well, anyway, much better than the older generation. Spiritually and emotionally, however, we have made great strides.
Material is the foundation, and spirit is the pursuit of a high level. Theoretically, as long as the material is enriched, the spirit will become better. The so-called "barn is realistic and knows etiquette, and has enough food and clothing to know honor and disgrace" is this truth.
But reality is not a logical theory, but an illogical accident. That is to say, the theory of material abundance and spiritual abundance does not work. The reality is likely that the more material things develop, the more indifferent people's feelings become.
We only need to look at the current young people and middle-aged people to understand this.
Young people gradually disregard marriage, despise feelings, and even some people choose not to associate with relatives and friends. And middle-aged people gradually live indifferently, no longer believe in raising children to prevent aging, only feel that relying on themselves is the truth.
The relationship between people should be based on "feelings". However, in today's world, most people who talk about feelings are disappointed, and honest and single-minded people are suppressed. This is where the sadness lies.
Indifference and lack of family affection will become the trend in the future, and the key reasons are these three points.
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Reason one: People's distrust is increasing.
From the perspective of social relationships, what do people need to use to maintain the relationship between people? Two words – bridge.
A person is an island. To connect every island, countless bridges are needed. The bridge referred to here can be blood, emotion, or material interest.
Of course, when it comes to material benefits, everyone's eyes will glow golden. This shows that in today's extremely materially rich age, people still love material interests.
When material interests become the mainstream of people's pursuits, the belief in this "distrust" will increase.
In love, men want to find a rich and beautiful white woman; women also want to find a handsome and golden Prince Charming. As a result, all kinds of scene-making pictures will appear frequently.
In family affection, what relatives value is not the so-called affection, but your value and interests; what your brothers and sisters value is also material interests. Slowly, materialism replaced affection, and everyone could only wear a mask to be human.
Just think, even love and affection have problems, then the relationship in the workplace, is not more chaotic?
Nowadays, people no longer trust each other, only value money, has become the norm. People's hearts eventually froze.
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Reason two: human desire is expanding.
We may wish to think about the question, why is it that when material things develop, people still pursue material things and ignore spirit and feelings?
Human desires, especially for matter, are endless, like black holes, that will only devour everything and will never be filled.
Take the feelings between husband and wife, the wife sees her husband earning 20,000 a month, while the girlfriend's husband earns 50,000 a month. At this time, the wife will dislike her husband and think that he is not working hard enough.
In other words, the husband sees that someone else's wife can go to the hall, get down to the kitchen, and is a virtuous helper who can invest. On the other hand, his wife will not know anything. At this time, the husband will dislike the wife.
When there is a "sense of disgust" between husband and wife, I believe that the marriage will soon come to the end of the rupture.
This is true of husband and wife, so are brothers and sisters, so are relatives, so are colleagues, and all the feelings of the world are like this. Why? Because of feelings, they will eventually be defeated by human desires.
We can't help but sigh, man, why do we have to ask for so much, do we have to want to be terrible? It can be summed up in one sentence that the weaknesses of human nature are always born in desire.
The more people have unfillable desires, then he will have a disregard for feelings and affection, which is particularly frightening.
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Reason three: the pressure of life has reversed the kindness of human nature to "feelings".
Why are people gradually living like the "walking dead"? Is it because they have no feelings themselves?
Unfortunately, everyone has feelings, but because the pressure of life is too great, they gradually lose their expectations for feelings.
For young people, the infighting is intensifying, the house cannot be bought, and the problem of unemployment is gradually coming to their side. Therefore, showing indifference to the outside world is also their helplessness.
For middle-aged people, the mid-life unemployment crisis has come, family conflicts have also appeared problems, what marriage seven-year itch, the contradiction of cheating, there are also more. At this time, how can they have feelings?
Feelings should appear in warm embraces, but cannot appear in the extremely stressful environment soil. It can be said that vicious competition and pressure will distort the concepts and pursuits of most people.
Young people have no interest in feelings, and middle-aged people do not trust feelings. This, in fact, is not their fault, but the problem of the environment. What's more, today's young people really can't afford to support themselves, let alone their parents. In this way, doesn't the contradiction of family affection appear?
There must be a cause for what goes wrong. We know this "cause", and can we solve it? Can't be solved because it's not a personal problem. Everyone is only a product of the times. That's all.
Wen/Shushan has deer