The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth exists in the heart
Behind every unhappy marriage, there is a broken family, and if it is not to the point of last resort, who will be willing to give up a complete family.
There is a saying that once described marriage like a besieged city, where people on the inside want to go out and people on the outside want to come in.
The connotation of marriage can be explained in one or two sentences, after all, the marriage can be turned into a happy appearance, after all, a very small number of people, most people's marriage is a chicken feather, the husband and wife have to deal with the contradictions between husband and wife every day, even between their respective family members, but also have to think hard about how to maintain the feelings between each other.
Among them, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most helpless.
01 After many years of marriage, I finally recognized the appearance of my husband
Qinqin and her husband Li Qiang met through blind dates, in fact, from the beginning, Qinqin did not have a feeling of love for Li Qiang, but later after Li Qiang's unremitting pursuit, Qinqin reluctantly interacted with him for a period of time.
Until the end, Qinqin was finally touched by Li Qiang's perseverance, plus Li Qiang himself was also relatively gentle and considerate, and he was a person worthy of being entrusted, so Qinqin decided to marry him.
During the period when Qinqin first married into Li Qiang's family, because she and her mother-in-law were not too familiar, they were polite to each other, and the feelings between the two were relatively harmonious.
However, later, as the time spent together became longer, the contradiction between Qinqin and her mother-in-law naturally increased day by day, but when Qinqin told Li Qiang about these things, Li Qiang's words made Qinqin stunned.
Li Qiang said: I am so busy now, you can't let me save snacks?
The meaning of this sentence is as if, it's all your fault, you don't do so many things.
After Qinqin listened, her heart was even more unpleasant, she had wanted to get comfort in her husband, but she did not expect it, but in the end she ended up being counted down by her husband.
Although Qinqin knows that it is not easy for her husband from a humble background to gain a firm foothold in the city now, Qinqin also knows that her husband also has his own things to deal with every day, perhaps as a man, Li Qiang is qualified, but as a husband, he is far from enough.
But Qinqin also expressed understanding, after all, there are perfect people in the world.
However, for many years, the husband not only repeatedly inactive in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also everywhere to embarrass the qinqin, coupled with the husband's usual handling style, the qinqin gradually discovered the quality of the husband's phoenix man.
Divorced her husband in 2002, three years passed in a flash
The flashpoint of the conflict between Qinqin and Li Qiang is because the mother-in-law is old and needs to be taken care of.
In the face of the increasingly elderly mother-in-law, Qinqin took the initiative to pick up the girder and shoulder the heavy responsibility of taking care of her mother-in-law, but no matter how considerate and meticulous Qinqin was, it could never meet the requirements of her mother-in-law, and even when Li Qiang was present, her mother-in-law would tell her about the situation of Qinqin.
At this time, the husband not only listened to the mother-in-law's one-sided words, but also did not give Qinqin any opportunity to explain, and blindly blamed Qinqin.
When Qinqin was wronged enough, she saw that the family did not have anything worth remembering, so she took the initiative to propose a divorce to Li Qiang.
Li Qiang also thought that Qinqin did not take good care of his mother, so he agreed to this request.
Since the divorce, Qinqin has moved out of that home, and three years have passed in the blink of an eye.
In the past three years, Qinqin has also heard some things about her ex-husband, and after divorcing herself, her ex-husband remarried, but the object of remarriage is also unable to bear the difficult problems of my mother-in-law, and not long after, her ex-husband divorced again.
Looking at her ex-husband's encounter in the past three years, Qinqin couldn't help but sigh: Perhaps, from the beginning, this marriage was wrong.
03 The ex-husband cried and begged for a reunion, bluntly saying that the mother-in-law could not be less than one person around
That day Qinqin just returned home from work, suddenly received a call from her ex-husband, the tone of the ex-husband on the phone is somewhat heavy, telling the hardships of these years is not easy, Qinqin is also read in the previous husband and wife for the sake of a few words, comforted Li Qiang.
However, Li Qiang's tone began to choke up next, and he said to Qinqin: Qinqin, let's get back together, my mother can't have no one to take care of her, and her old man's meaning is that you take care of it most intimately.
After hearing Li Qiang's words, Qin Qin was stunned, although she knew in her heart that Li Qiang's phone call might not be as simple as complaining to herself, but she did not think that her ex-husband was actually thinking of compounding.
If it is on the love affair between the previous husband and wife, even if Qinqin refuses, it is impossible to be so categorical, but the ex-husband took the initiative to mention the ex-mother-in-law, which really makes Qinqin unbearable.
In the face of her ex-husband's request, Qinqin refused: I am afraid that this is not your intention to compound, and it is the most fundamental reason to have someone to take care of your mother.
The ex-husband didn't say a word on the other end of the phone.
Qinqin then said: "We both have no hope anymore, and after saying that, we hung up the phone.
Gently looking at the scenery outside the window, I lost my mind for a moment.
Conclusion: Although the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a certain impact on the stability of the family, in actual life, as long as the husband can actively deal with these mother-in-law contradictions, the impact on the family is actually not long-term, but if the husband does not act, or even favors a certain party, then this unhealthy mode of getting along with the husband and wife will sooner or later have a day to disperse.