There are many happy couples in the world, and they all say that they can only reap happiness if they find the right person.
That in many previous courses, I was also teaching you some communication skills in marriage, so today, we will talk about it, then instead of learning the communication skills of marriage, it is better to find the right person before marriage, right, that will save more effort? So what kind of person is the right person? What kind of love school do happy couples have in their hands? First of all, happy love is healed by each other, both people can find a sense of belonging and value in this relationship, and the so-called right person is the person who can make you feel a sense of belonging and value.
But in the relationship, often bystanders are clear, the authorities are confused, sometimes you can't be very clear about the state of your relationship, and even you can't say whether you have a sense of belonging and value in this relationship, so what about me today? Let's look at a few test questions to help you quickly understand the fit between the people around you and your soul, and through this test, you can quickly judge how far away you are from the state of the soul mate, and what can you do to improve your state? The first test is like this, testing the sense of belonging.
The first question is, does your partner enjoy sharing the experience of the day with you? The second question is, is there a special terrier between you? It's just the two of you who understand that. Third, are your living habits and hobbies compatible, even if there is a disagreement, you will coordinate well, and there will be no quarrels because of living habits and hobbies? Fourth, trust each other, know that the other party can give you a sense of security, and even if the other party is not there for a while, when you think of the other party, your heart will still feel very safe. Fifth question. Will you imagine your future together?
Ah, then these five questions, ah, if your answer, well, more than four, is more than four ah, indicating that your emotional foundation is already quite good. But be careful, this is not a one-sided test, but both parties have to meet high standards to show that your relationship foundation is very good. The second test is to test your sense of value in this relationship, and these questions need you to think about, and then write out the answers on paper. The first question is, do you think the other person values your feelings? If the answer is yes, can you come up with three specific things? The second question is, do you think the other party cares about you enough? Do you remember the scene where she touched you?
Third question, does your partner remember the details of your relationship? For example, one afternoon you watched the sunset together, or one day last year, you said something that touched him. The fourth question, the other person will ask you. Successful and happy? If you are better than him in a certain field, will his attitude be oppressive or happy for you? The fifth question is, is the other person a person who knows how to appreciate you? Sixth question, what are the conditions for the other party to love you? For example, a man only wants a wife who takes good care of his family, and once you are a little busy at work, he will be very unhappy and think that you are doing something wrong.
In this case, the prerequisite for him to love you is that you have to take care of your family wholeheartedly. So you need to think about it now, is the premise that he loves you that is what you meant? For example, he likes girls with low eyebrows and smooth eyebrows, uh, low eyebrows and smooth breath, but you are windy and hot, you become gentle and lovely for him, but your heart is very lost. If so, then you are going against your intentions. In the same way, your partner should also think about this question, that is, if you meet the other person's conditions, have you violated your own intentions? After answering this question, you can review all the previous questions and ask yourself, do you feel that you have been fully nourished in this relationship? Believe that you now have a general understanding of the state of your relationship.
Well, the question about testing the sense of belonging and the sense of value has been asked, you can go over and over and listen to it several times, then I suggest that you do not answer these questions hastily, ah, good or bad, but to think carefully and then answer. Of course, if you are just starting out in love, then this lesson I suggest you collect it, why? Because these tests you will need to complete one day, I think I met a lot of sisters, after doing the test, they all said to me Linglong, after doing the test, I found that I have a sense of belonging in this relationship, but a sense of value will.
Less, and some sisters will tell me that they feel more valuable in this relationship, but lack some sense of belonging, so why are you, why? In fact, this is a normal phenomenon, after all, there is no natural perfect love in this world, only people who manage this relationship well, so they will have a original intention of me to create this course. So today, due to the relationship of time, I will focus on how to enhance your and man's sense of belonging to this relationship, the fastest way to enhance the sense of belonging is that you have to find a way to make the emotional link between you and the man become closer, usually we can use this exciting sharing method to enhance your emotional concentration, the actual operation is very simple, you only need to stimulate the man to share with you, let the man take the initiative to share with you the various things he encountered, that is, let him have a sense of belonging to the family to start many couples who have been married for many years Men are also considered to be on the family economy.
Although conscientious, the wife has no idea what the man does every day in the unit, and the man is not clear about the wife's schedule. Two people are like two tracks of the railway, always synchronized, but always parallel, such a couple, it is difficult to have a sense of belonging in love. The same goes for couples. In order to put an end to this state, we need to make good use of the 30 minutes before bedtime. For example, during the day you are busy, and half an hour before going to bed every night, you can ask the man to put down the phone and chat with you. In fact, blowing the pillow wind for ten minutes every night is very helpful for you to improve your sense of integration and relaxation, and will also indirectly improve the quality of your intimate relationship, so that your desire to share between you will unconsciously increase.
If you don't live together, then you can guide him to share with you the big and small things that happened to him. For example, you can first pretend to encounter difficulties, and then seek help from men, let him give you an analysis of this generally speaking, men are natural, born with the desire to be a mentor to others, so in the early stage, you can let him fully display his wisdom and experience in front of you, and then you can say with adoration, ah, you know a lot, ah, so that you can also improve his sharing rate, and this time you are chatting, her box naturally opens, You can gradually get him to share his life with you. In married life, why men are less and less likely to hurt you after marriage
Of course, this is only the first step to enhance the emotional connection, but only if this step is established, you have the basis to further enhance the relationship.
Okay, so that's it for today.