preface
Each of us has our own secrets, which are often never mentioned or told to the people around us.
There is a saying that goes: when people only say three points, they cannot throw away all their hearts.
In fact, doing so is also a kind of wisdom for us to be human, and we will not be stabbed in the back by familiar people.
Therefore, no matter how good the relationship with the people around you, do not reveal some of your own small secrets to the other party is easy to cause trouble.
And people who really respect you, they don't go and ask about your privacy all the time,
Only those with bad intentions will keep inquiring.
Many people feel that people need to be sincere and not to hide anything.
Later, we realized that being too real is a kind of stupidity in the eyes of others.
Many people in life like to tell their secrets to their friends,
But your so-called friends, they may not think of you as that real friend.
At this point, your friendship will become fragile and ugly.
From a certain point of view, our excessive belief in a person is actually a relatively absurd behavior.
It also gives the other party the opportunity to hurt themselves, so our secrets should not be easily told to others.
The heart of harming people must not be there, and the heart of preventing people must not be without:
At all times, we must keep our privacy is the best protection for ourselves.
Each of us has a negative opinion or evaluation of other people.
At this time, silently put it in your heart to digest it, don't say it, and let the 3rd person know.
We can't see or touch the belly of the human heart, so it is difficult to understand a person's inner thoughts and feelings.
At this time, we must leave ourselves a heart and eye to protect ourselves is the most important.
One. Their own financial situation
Smart people know that whether they are poor or rich, don't go around showing off, and talk to the people closest to you.
When we have money, we will only make the people around us jealous and red-eyed,
Don't go around crying when we're poor, because no one in this world can pity and pity you.
The most taboo thing to get along with people is to reveal your financial situation to others.
Such an approach will only end up causing us more trouble.
Those who like to show off will eventually be necrotic by people with scheming.
Because no one except your parents will really be happy for you, and no matter how good the surface is, you will be jealous of you in the heart.
After all, people's life is for themselves, you are miserable or happy, no one can walk this road for you.
So live your life silently and don't bring trouble to yourself.
Two. The trouble I used to do
After many people identify a person, they like to dig their hearts and lungs out of each other.
We must know that no matter how good the relationship with a person is, do not easily say their own troubles,
The other party does not necessarily keep secrets for you, and secrets should only be known to you.
If we say it, others will pass it on to everyone.
In this way, between you and the person closest to you, there is no way to continue the relationship.
Because secrets are only the most reliable if they keep themselves, what others know is not a secret.
At the same time, you will pay for your actions.
Three. Family ugliness must not be publicized
Each of us has a difficult sutra to read, which seems very happy on the surface, but it is not necessarily.
Therefore, there is a saying, the ugliness of the family should not be publicized, and we should not easily borrow money from anyone.
Some things can only be clear in your own heart, and after saying them, you will embarrass yourself in the future.
Not to mention that some people naturally like jealousy and jokes,
Therefore, once the scandal of his own family is revealed, it will be passed on to ten hundred, and finally everyone will know.
This is not a glorious thing, and it has become a small talk after dinner for others.
The prime minister can hold the boat in his belly, so it is better for us to bury some things in our hearts.
After reaching a certain age, you will find that silence is golden, and many things can be said, and in the end, it is not a person who digests.
After all, the misfortune from the mouth to talk less is also to protect themselves.
Conclusion:
So those who are smart will always say in front of others that they are doing well, even if they are not good, they will express it in this way.
Such people tend to be people with particularly high emotional intelligence.
Han Han said: "Sometimes it's not that the other party doesn't care about you, but that you take the other party too seriously." ”
Don't overemphasize anyone in life,
And don't think about what kind of position you have become in the other person's heart.
After all, every adult will be very realistic and will also put their own interests first.
It must be good for you to speak cautiously, and people who know how to keep secrets are the smartest people.
Everyone is an independent individual, but also know how to speak,
Some secrets can only grow if you swallow them yourself, and hide them is your ability.
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References | Journal of cognitive neuroscience