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Author: Seven Seven
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Backstage, a fan friend once asked me such a question in a private message, in real life, will there be pure friendship between boys and girls? It seems that not only this fan friend, the question of whether there is pure friendship between men and women is often asked by many people, but there has never been a very standard answer.
After all, today's society, whether it is the idea or concept is much more open than before, the relationship between men and women has long been no longer as rigid or rigid as in the past, and even there will be some relationships between the opposite sex than the relationship between the same sex, and some boys and girls get along with each other Iron is like brothers, two people often play and laugh, occasionally there is some intimate contact or action is nothing.
But the premise is of course that these two people are within the scope of normal communication, but if you both already have each other's boyfriend and girlfriend or your husband and wife, you can't have some excessive intimacy with other members of the opposite sex, after all, love and friendship are still very different, and some intimate behaviors are still easy to misunderstand their other half.
You know, even if the best relationship between friends of the opposite sex must have a sense of proportion, how to grasp this sense of proportion is particularly important, because once the two of you accidentally exceed this scale, it is very likely to affect the friendship of two people, and even affect each other's lives.
There may be some actions in their own eyes, will feel that there is nothing, two people are just ordinary heterosexual friends, but in the eyes of others is not the same thing, will feel that the relationship between the two of you is not as simple as it seems, but also help the two of you to add oil and vinegar to depict more than the spectrum, and will not believe that the two people are ordinary heterosexual friends.
As the saying goes, friends above, lovers are not enough, in fact, in the world of emotions, the relationship between men and women is the most delicate, may further have the opportunity to become a close boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, and take a step back to become an ordinary heterosexual friend relationship, so it is really difficult to say this scale.
However, no matter how difficult this scale is to grasp, I believe that none of us will allow our other half to have a similar relationship, or the existence of the signs of developing this relationship, which is undoubtedly equivalent to digging a pit for ourselves and laying a huge hidden danger.
To put it bluntly, in the process of heterosexual communication, the relationship between men and women should still pay attention to some appropriate distance, or grasp some necessary measures, otherwise they may cause themselves a lot of unnecessary trouble, you know, between men and women of the opposite sex, once these things are "shared", the relationship between two people is difficult to be pure!
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Share the time of two people
Nowadays, the pace of social life is particularly fast, time is a very precious and important thing for each of us, and we will only spend our time on people who are more important and close to us.
Imagine that it is rare that you can not work, do not have to work overtime, there are some times when you can rest, but you do not spend time with your family, refuse the invitation of other same-sex friends to go shopping and eat or play games to open the black, give up the opportunity to sleep until you are full or read books alone to enrich yourself, just to want to see each other, want to be with each other, want to spend your precious time on each other.
In fact, to tell the truth in real life, the time for ordinary friends of the opposite sex to meet or gather is not necessarily so frequent, occasionally the two sides have not seen each other for a long time, just when they are free between each other or when they are gathering, it is enough to meet up, chat for a day, eat a meal, and contact feelings.
There is really no need for two people to meet and date often, if it is similar to this kind of two people as long as they have time or opportunity to stay together to play, eat together, party together, even if you always say that the two people are just ordinary friends, the relationship between the two people is very simple and pure, I am afraid that no one believes it, and often according to this trend, if the two of you change from ordinary heterosexual friend relationship to intimate lover relationship is only a matter of time, who to deceive?
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Share two people's phone passwords
To know that each of us now has a mobile phone, it is very important for us, after all, it is the most contacted and used electronic products in our daily life, and the mobile phone really involves a lot of our personal privacy, hiding a lot of personal secrets, such as chat records, such as payment passwords, such as private photos and so on;
Otherwise, why in real life, many couples or lovers are required to have the right to know the mobile phone of another partner, to put it bluntly, it is nothing more than wanting to share the mobile phone password of two people, or sharing the mobile phone between two people, when they want to use each other's mobile phone and check each other's mobile phone, the other party cannot refuse, let alone avoid, which is the so-called lover or lover to give each other a sense of security.
And now the mobile phone protection function is very good, basically no matter what brand of mobile phone can be set a heavy, or even multiple passwords, if you in order to prevent the loss of the mobile phone or leak their privacy, set up their own mobile phone layer after layer of password, for the mobile phone privacy protection so good, the sense of defense so strong themselves, but willing to tell their own password to this friend of the opposite sex, or willing to share the mobile phone password of two people with this friend of the opposite sex.
In other words, it is that the relationship with this friend of the opposite sex is good enough to distinguish between you and me, and he is very trusting, even without any sense of defense, if the other party wants to use his mobile phone, wants to see the things in his mobile phone, he will take the initiative to give the other party, or the other party can open his mobile phone without his consent.
Even if the other party turns to the more private photos in their mobile phones, or the more private chat records, they will not be angry, let alone mind, then I believe that there is no need for outsiders to say, you should know that the relationship between two people is extraordinary, it is different.
Share the money and material of two people
Seriously, whether it is money or material, it is a very precious thing for each of us, in this world, which person does not care about money, which person does not care about material, the so-called brothers must also clearly settle accounts.
As long as it involves their own money and material things, they will think about it carefully and weigh it, as long as they should get the honorarium may be less than one piece or two pieces, less than a dime and two cents are very mindful, not to mention sharing their own money and materials with others, spending their own money for others, presumably which person spends their own money without their permission, which person will be angry and even make a big move.
Especially now the payment function on the mobile phone is too convenient, such as when buying things, you can bind each other's account, you can open intimate payment, etc., if you are willing to bind a payment account to a friend of the opposite sex next to you, or open an intimate payment, that is to say, two people can share each other's money.
Enough to prove that the relationship between two people is unusual, or you must have some idea of some aspect of this friend of the opposite sex, otherwise who would be willing to share their money with someone they don't like or have nothing to do with? After all, money can sometimes reveal the relationship between two people, you can share the money between each other, and you can spend each other's money at will, which means that the relationship between two people is definitely very close.
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Share a drink or a straw
In fact, in my opinion, whether it is a straw or a drink between men and women of the opposite sex, like this kind of intimate behavior, of course, can only be left to the closest and closest other half of your side, if you casually share a drink or a straw with other friends of the opposite sex, then even if you say that the relationship between the two of you is innocent, the relationship is very pure, I believe no one will believe it.
Just like the previous actor Monday Wei because he did not grasp the sense of proportion when he got along with his female assistant in private, sharing a drink with the female assistant, sharing a straw news was filmed by reporter media friends, and immediately appeared on the hot search list, married men This behavior was immediately criticized and criticized by many netizens and friends.
Everyone thinks that Monday Wai's move is too indiscriminate, and even some fierce words are also scolded as "scumbags" behavior, even the wife Zhu Dan of Zhou Wei specially stood up for netizens to explain to netizens because of this matter, there is no use, the audience does not give face at all, so it is really a very important thing to grasp the sense of proportion between the opposite sex.
After all, something like sharing a drink or a straw is something that has been exposed to the mouth of a person, which is very personal and a very intimate act, unless it is their boyfriend and girlfriend, or the relationship of the other half, otherwise who will be willing to share a drink or a straw with the opposite sex, let alone accept other drinks that the opposite sex has drunk.
Even if you don't mind, don't you mind how other people view the relationship between the two of you and how to talk about the relationship between the two of you? Basically no one will be willing to share a drink or a straw with an ordinary friend of the opposite sex, and to be honest, the price of a drink is not expensive, you want to drink and buy another cup can not, why do you want to do this kind of intimate behavior that will make the other party and the people around you misunderstand?
The poet Yuan Haoqing once wrote two poems like this: Ask what is the world's love, and only teach people to live and die.
All in all, in the process of heterosexual communication, the interaction between two people should pay attention to a good sense of proportion and grasp the scale at all times, if once the scale is not grasped, there is no attention to a good sense of proportion, the relationship between the two people is not handled properly, then it is very likely to develop into other relationships.
If the two of you just happen to be single, and the two sides like each other, and feel that two people are very suitable, it doesn't hurt, but if both of you have boyfriend and girlfriend, or each other's partners, then it is best not to allow such things to happen, after all, no one can accept that their other half has such an intimate act with the other sex and share these things together.
You know, whether in love or marriage, each of us hopes that our other partner is sincere to himself, loyal to his feelings, if you don't want to be misunderstood, don't want the other half to be sad and sad, really love and care about each other, then when you get along with other friends of the opposite sex around you, you must pay attention to a sense of proportion, you must grasp the scale, and maintain a safe distance.
In the end, in the vast sea of people, you can have the privilege of meeting a mutual like, each other can be sincere is not an easy thing, or to know how to cherish the people in front of you, know how to cherish feelings is the real smart move, do not because of some misunderstandings, some unwarranted things, thus ruining the precious happiness of two people!
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