Interpret life with words, here are the stories you want to hear
The key to Gu Xin's slag lies in the slag without knowing it, and he still looks like a complaining person all day long.
The career path is not smooth, the family is not harmonious, all blamed on the drag of the father-in-law and the misfortune of the original family.
It's like a kite strangling its neck, and it seems that the line of fate is controlled by others, but in fact he strangled himself.
The four words sound like the dregs of the feudal culture of the old society, and for the youth of the new era, there really should be no such decadent thoughts.
But after understanding gu xin and Ge Yue's marriage, I realized how important the door is to the four words.
Gu Xin's original family has many problems, the father is weak, the mother is strong, this is an inescapable fact.
At that time, their parents returned to Shanghai from Heilongjiang, and in the case of nothing, it was the aunt who gave them a small two-bedroom set of her own free of charge to live, which barely allowed their family to gain a foothold in Shanghai.
It is said that the grace of dripping water, when the spring repays each other, but when the aunt's family has difficulties, Gu Xin's parents have forgotten the kindness they once had.
Under the influence of his parents, Gu Xin's personality is full of exquisite egoism, everything is only considered for himself, and rarely considers and analyzes problems from the standpoint of others.
In the Gu Xin family, I saw the perfect fusion of the small citizen class and the typical egoist.
They are such a family, pay attention to interests, disregard feelings, the premise of any decision is based on interests first, to achieve the maximization of personal interests is their real appeal.
But Ge Yue's family was different.
The father is a high-ranking official, although the mother is somewhat snobbish, but the happiness of the daughter is the most important, Ge Yue grew up in such a family environment, and finally developed a gentle and kind good character.
For the marriage between her and Gu Xin, it can be seen that the mother has concerns.
It is not because Gu Xin is not good enough, but because of Gu Xin's original family.
To tell the truth, if you stand in the perspective of a mother, Ge Yue's mother's behavior is understandable.
After all, there is no parent under the heavens who does not want their daughter to marry a good family.
With Ge Yue's own conditions, she could completely find a person whose family background was comparable to their family, but she took a fancy to Gu Xin.
The comparison between Gu Xin's family and their family on a material basis is somewhat disparity.
Of course, this material contrast does not mean that we should be poor and love the rich, but that many times this material gap will form an extremely unbalanced family relationship between the two sides, especially a family like Gu Xin who pays attention to interests.
Before Ge Yue's father fell, Gu Xin's parents were actually looking up to Ge Yue's parents, and behind this look-up was often an innate inferiority.
Because they also know that it is good to be cool with their backs to the trees, Gu Xin has the care of Ge Yue's father, and his career is bright.
Therefore, for Ge Yue's more casual lifestyle of spending money, although Gu Xin's parents have a lot of words in their hearts, they can only turn a blind eye.
Gu Xin's mother, who had always been grinning widely and spoke without any obstruction, also tried her best to pretend to be a good mother-in-law in front of Ge Yue's parents.
This asymmetry of identity between the two sides has long suppressed Gu Xin's mother, so once the basis for this kind of looking up does not exist, Gu Xin's mother will intensify her efforts to regain the self-esteem she once lost in Ge Yue's body.
In the play, with the downfall of Ge Yue's father, Gu Xin's mother's attitude towards Ge Yue came to a 180-degree reversal.
In the past, what words were carefully said, afraid that their own words would bring trouble to their son Gu Xin, but now they are open to say, and what kind of words are ugly will be picked up to say.
When something happened in Ge Yue's home, gu Xin's parents did not see the words of comfort, and the falling stone was a good hand, as if Ge Yue's father's fall had become a fortunate thing for their family.
In the eyes of Gu Xin's parents, because of the fall of Ge Yue's father, it has tired their son who is the proud son of heaven, and it is precisely because of Ge Yue that this woman will cause Gu Xin's career to be unhappy.
As mentioned earlier, without touching their own core interests, they can also turn a blind eye, and once they touch their core interests, the original tyrannical and cold-blooded personality will be revealed.
In the face of her mother-in-law's harsh words, Ge Yue's parents could only persuade Ge Yue to get along with Gu Xin's parents as much as possible.
But in-laws like Gu Xin's parents, they will never be satisfied.
Even if Ge Yue did a good job, he delayed their son's future, and this was Ge Yue's original sin.
This kind of material door-to-door pair, in fact, many times is also a spiritual door-to-door pair.
For Ge Yue, finding a husband who loves her, this life is the happiest thing to have no worries about food and clothing, and the family is happy to live together.
But for Gu Xin, this was not the case.
Gu Xin is an ambitious man, and his desire is not to be this kind of bland little wealth and peace, but to hope that one day he can get ahead and let Ge Yue's parents look up to him.
From the very beginning, Gu Xin's pursuit of Ge Yue was extremely utilitarian.
He did not love Ge Yue at all, but hoped that with the help of Ge Yue, Ge Yue's father could help him go further in his career.
If Ge Yue's father had not had an accident, Gu Xin would have stepped onto the peak of his career as he had hoped.
However, no matter how well Ruyi Abacus is played, it cannot stand the unpredictable storm in the sky.
Ge Yue's father was forced to step down because of his violation of discipline, and even his future was confused.
At this time, Gu Xin was not thinking about how to do his job well, nor how to become the main backbone of his wife, but thinking of changing another boat, dismissing the work of civil servants and sun Qi to continue the frontier.
In Gu Xin's heart, he was not angry, he was resentful, and he thought in his heart that he had not calculated that the old man was not angry, and as a result, he had abandoned his previous achievements.
Moreover, once this dissatisfaction spread and took root in the depths of his heart, his dissatisfaction with Ge Yue also deepened.
Ge Yue and Gu Xin are basically people from two different worlds, Gu Xin uses Ge Yue as a springboard to break the bottleneck of the class, and now that the dream is broken, there is naturally no more feeling for Ge Yue.
But as long as he has a little sincerity to Ge Yue, he will not tangle with his ex-girlfriend Sun Qi when Ge Yue is pregnant, nor will he cheat on Feng Xixi after the child is born.
If Gu Xin and Ge Yue are the same kind of people, or Gu Xin really loves Ge Yue, even if their living conditions are a little worse at present, but the husband and wife are in the same heart, their profits and losses, as long as the two people's goals for a better life are the same, there is no obstacle under the sky, I am afraid that two people will sleep in the same bed, but their hearts are not together.
Material deficiencies can be compensated by acquired efforts, but there is no way to make up for emotional appearances.
Whether a man loves or not depends on whether his usual words are considered for you and whether he stands in front of you when there is a problem.
Obviously, Gu Xin has never done this.
The final outcome of the two of them will be divorce, and a man whose heart is not by his side will be useless no matter how much he keeps it.
It was only because Ofge Yue, such a kind woman, could have had a happy and beautiful future, but she became a victim of Gu Xin's realization of ideals and ambitions.
The door-to-door pair represents not only material incomparable, but also spiritual harmony.
The innate deficiencies in material things can still be compensated, but the discord between the three views at the spiritual level cannot be compensated by change.
Because some rotten ideas have taken root in the brain, trying to break these ideas is like picking skin cramps.
A truly happy marriage must be based on the feelings of both husband and wife, driven by the common ideals and beliefs of husband and wife, and backed by the understanding and support of the families of both parties.