Zhuang Di Xiaomeng / Seeing the essence through the story
An original emotion number that deserves your attention
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The famous thinker Marx once said: "If you want to live a beautiful life, only two people are united, because the half of the ball cannot roll, so the important task of each adult is to find the half that matches himself." ”
The TV series "The Legend of the Paladin Sword" also has the same view: only half of people are born, and the other half depends on everyone to find, and you are a complete person after finding it.
People often refer to their lovers as the other half, probably to show the attitude that husband and wife are one.
From ancient times to the present, people have called marriage a major event in life, and it is related to a person's life.
The real meaning of marriage is not to pass on the generations, but to find a person with a white head and an old age. In the tunnel of time for the rest of his life, there are people to accompany, sickness to rely on, and hardships to follow.
But if you don't find your partner, you'll be alone for the rest of your life.
Case 1: Death of a VIP client in a top nursing home
I believe many people have heard this story, a single old man with a broken candle decided to sell his house to live in a nursing home due to physical inconvenience.
Before entering the nursing home, he was full of expectations for the life advertised, thinking that he could have a pleasant old age.
But when he actually sold the house, lived in a top nursing home with millions of dollars, and became a senior VIP, he found that that place was not heaven but hell on earth.
He paid all the money in one lump sum, and he was greeted not with a smile and gentleness, but with disgust and snub.
Because he had no relatives, the nursing home staff fearlessly ignored him, wanted to drink water and no one poured, and would be scolded when pulled on the body and bed.
He couldn't bear the suffering of his heart more than his physical suffering.
After seeing the warmth and coldness of human feelings, he no longer had any nostalgia for the world, and in just half a year, he was depressed.
Case 2: The death of Zhang Ailing, a talented woman in modern times
Zhang Ailing, a talented woman in modern times, is a well-known figure in history, she has written many famous works, as a well-known writer, she is not short of money, and lives in a high-end apartment.
But her later life was also quite miserable, without a husband and children, she could only continue to work alone with her sick and disabled body.
One day, she died quietly in her apartment, only to be discovered many days later.
The death of a generation of talented women was so miserable.
Case Study:
Different era backgrounds, similar tragic endings, this is the future of the unmarried and infertile elderly.
They are also considered to be single old people with quite a lot of assets, and if they are replaced by ordinary people, the end will be even more miserable.
Leftover men and women must understand a few truths:
First, nursing homes are not a good place for the elderly
Nursing homes are never as beautiful as everyone thinks, and when you go in, you will see the cruel humanity.
It is human nature to bully the soft and be afraid of the hard, and the treatment of the elderly with children and the elderly who have no children and no daughters is completely different.
If there are children, there is support, and if something goes wrong with the old man, the children will certainly not let them go.
In order to avoid such a thing from happening, they will take care of the elderly as much as possible.
And for the childless and childless old people, they have always been unscrupulous, even if something happens to the old people, no one will come to them.
Second, what is needed most in the old age is people, not money
There are always people who feel that as long as they have money, even if they are lonely and widowed, they have nothing to fear, and if they have no money, even if they have children and daughters, their lives will still be miserable.
This is not true, and when you reach the end of your life, you will find that the old man really needs people, not money.
Even if your family is not well-off, as long as someone takes care of it, your life will not be too miserable; but if you do not have a family, even if you have property in your hands, your life will not be better, and at some point you may be in danger because of this.
Human nature is very frightening, and everyone knows it.
Third, children are like nuclear weapons, which can be used, but not without
There are always people who think that it is good for today's children not to eat the old, who can expect them to retire?
Maybe there is some truth in this statement, but this does not mean that children are useless.
People are social animals, everyone needs groups of three or five to avoid being bullied by others, and for humans, the best team is the family.
Only if you have a family of your own, will someone help you when things are going on.
If you are alone, you will taste the warmth and cold of the world and endure the pain of being alone all the time.
Especially when you are old, the difference between having children and having no children is very big, others will be jealous of you for a few points, and others will not put you in their eyes without children.
Some things are always realistic and cruel, and the key depends on whether you have the ability to face them.
Write at the end:
Leftover men and women are quite disgusted with marriage urging, even if it is parents, you do not buy it, you feel that others urge marriage to create anxiety for you, but in fact, what your parents do is for your own good.
They are people who have come here, how can they not know how life should be lived?
Man is a social animal, and very few people can endure the days of loneliness.
Now you are very young, very healthy, and both parents are there, so you can't feel the misery of being alone.
Decades later, your parents are gone, your friends have their own families, and you are left alone to face the cold pot and cold stove.
During the New Year's Festival, other people are happy with their families, but you are alone.
At that time, you understand the hard work of your parents, but there will never be regret medicine in this world.
Wake up early, solve the current problem early, and don't wait until there is no room for maneuver before regretting it.
Original author of the Zhuang Di Xiaomeng/Emotional Column
May your life be full of surprises, and may your happiness come as scheduled.