In the middle of the night, I had a hard time dealing with work, lying on the bed and brushing the circle of friends. As soon as the tone sounds, it is particularly clear in the empty rental house. Clicking on it, another good friend is ready to get married.
People in their 30s really can't help but urge.
I don't know when it started, the people around me got married one by one, and the leftover men and women became more and more prominent in the social circle.
When I was young, I couldn't listen to advice at all, and I felt that life was still long and freedom was good. But as you get older, you find a person's life a little difficult.
Especially on a day like Valentine's Day, all social platforms emit pink bubbles, and leftover men and women are embarrassed. At this moment, even the confides can not find this person; at this moment, I began to wonder, is it almost done?
There are no perfect lovers in this world. True love is to treat shortcomings as characteristics, to replace quarrels with tolerance.
The idea of "almost" is not to be ready, but to be eager to be accompanied, so willing to lower the non-principled requirements.
When we are vulnerable, we always have a need for love. In fact, the most fatal problem of leftover men and women is that they cannot face themselves squarely, so they are confused about choosing a mate.
Knowing oneself and knowing that the other is victorious, the leftover men and women must first understand their own needs and values, and then find the right object according to their own wishes.
Many people feel that the leftover men and women are picky, that is, they are too perfectistic, and they always mention some unattainable conditions, which leads to self-doubt.
I think don't know yourself from other people's mouths, but sink your heart and ask yourself what kind of love you really want.
Some people feel that "almost" is still regretful, and it seems that a little harder can approach perfection. However, everything from the perspective of defects will inevitably produce a psychology of dissatisfaction.
In my opinion, it is almost a positive word, which means that you still have a lot of choices, indicating that everything is OK, depending on whether you want to or not.
"Almost" does not mean choosing someone you are not satisfied with as a partner, but optimizing your own mate selection criteria.
Some standards must not be relaxed, such as three views and character; some standards can be appropriately relaxed, such as the previous requirements for high appearance, now find a refreshing and comfortable can be.
Marriage is not a child's play, do not take "a lot worse" as "almost", too many people in order to give parents, to give an explanation of age, so as to hastily get married, and finally make a fuss.
Ten points out of ten, "almost" at least eight points, empathetic thinking, maybe you are also "almost" in each other's mind, each other has two points left, need tolerance, understanding and respect, in order to support each other until old.
There is no natural pair of lovers, love needs to be run-in, marriage needs to be managed, and it is much luckier than many people to meet a similar person.
The other half of the "almost" can be attacked and retreated.
The other party has done something that makes you very happy, you will feel that your vision is really good, the other party has done something that makes your heart congest, and you will almost forgive his mistake.
The higher the expectation, the more disappointed, so, almost good, the rest is used to love yourself, isn't it just right?
"Almost" is a kind of wisdom that can be taken and put down, and when you understand the weight of your inner standards, you learn to make trade-offs.
Everything is like this, and there is a sacrifice to gain, including love.
Prioritize the criteria in your mind, stick to what you care about, and give up what doesn't matter.
At this time, you will be more relaxed and more willing to accept the approach of others. If you can understand where the "almost" is good, you can rush to the road of finding love, cherish the encounter, and live up to the original intention.
Love without borders: Love knows no borders, love enjoys the world