Everyone is like the moon, there is always a "dark side". In life, no one can live completely at will.
Many times, we don't get what we want. What you long for, on a rainy day, to meet the person who is willing to give himself an umbrella, I don't know if you will do it now.
Some people say that marriage is a woman's second life. Every birth of life is not only sweet, happy, joyful, but also often accompanied by that loud cry.
A woman who marries is an outsider in her in-laws' house and a guest in her mother's house. How to live with oneself is a science.
There is such a help post on the Internet:
The woman cried late at night and had a dispute with her husband. As a result, the in-laws and the family all turned to their husbands and verbally violence against themselves.
The woman wanted to endure, but in the end she did not hold back and called her parents to complain. The woman originally just wanted to vent and ask for comfort, but what she didn't expect was that her mother's parents advised the woman on the other end of the phone to be patient.
The woman tentatively said that she wanted to go back to her mother's house, and the mother did not say a word at first, and then she spoke in her heart.
The woman's brother married a daughter-in-law, had children, three generations lived together, the woman wanted to go back to her mother's house to live in no extra room, and the parents were also embarrassed, or it was better not to go home and cause trouble for others.
The moment the woman put down the phone, she suddenly felt like a homeless orphan.
When a daughter is married, should her parents keep a bedroom for her? The daughter was bullied at her in-laws' house, can she go back to her mother's house?
Some netizens gave the opinion that it is necessary to stay, to let the daughter be wronged and have a place to return, after all, if the mother's family does not give support, the woman's life in the in-laws' family will be more difficult.
There are also different voices in the comments, saying that if your identity is a sister-in-law or a younger sister, you would have to try to get along with your in-laws, and suddenly there are more sisters-in-law in the family, and this day is not a chicken flying dog jump.
In fact, nothing can be generalized. If it is an only child, it must be possible to stay, and if it is a parent living with other children, it is necessary to seek the opinions of other members of the family.
The situation varies from house to house. Conditional, there are many rooms, and the family is delicate and intimate, and it is completely possible to reserve a room for the daughter who is married.
There are no conditions, the living environment of the permanent population is very tense, and it is not realistic to have an empty room for a married daughter. After all, a married daughter can't live at home for a few days a year.
Of course, for a married daughter, it is not just a room. It is also the support of the mother's family, which is a sense of happiness.
This sense of happiness makes people no longer eager to have, but can calmly not be afraid of loss.
For those women who have been hurt in marriage, even if the mother's family cannot "tolerate" her, it is best to do her best to help, just so that she feels that she is not alone, and does not have to give in in marriage all the time.
For women, what is the answer to the unhappiness of marriage?
The correct answer is not the confidence given by the mother's family, but the woman herself. Expecting others is far less than expecting from oneself.
First of all, women should be self-reliant enough, and if they have the ability and conditions permit, it is also necessary to invest in a small house by themselves. No matter how big or small, no matter the location, it is a retreat.
Secondly, in the face of problems between husband and wife, do not escape, but actively deal with them, find ways to solve them, and have determination.
When a person has the ability and confidence himself, he will not put all his hopes on others. At this time, if parents are willing to help their children, it is the icing on the cake, and if they are not willing to help, they will not fall into the ice cave.
Like a married female friend I know, she originally had her own bedroom at her parents' house, but as her little nephew grew, more and more things piled up in her original room. Gradually, the room no longer belonged to her.
But these did not stir up many ripples in her heart. She has her own small apartment where she can settle down and heal her wounds; she has her own fruitful work to pin her ideals on; she is also a life partner with her other half in the family...
She has become her own "retreat", and this confidence makes her believe that even if she encounters misfortune in marriage, she has the ability to resist calmly and unhurriedly.
Woman, your name is never weak.
Women and families should be complementary. May everyone who strives to live can meet a better self.
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[Wen | Wei Wei'an: the pen has temperature, for the voice of emotion, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]