The first time Gu Qingyu officially came to see his in-laws, he made preparations with heart.
Gu Qingyu put on light makeup, wore a proper dress, a smile on her face, and fell generously; the necessary gifts could not be less, she brought a lot of gifts for her in-laws, and carried them in large bags, which was enough to see the importance she attached to this meeting.
Shi Yuan and Gu Qingyu are their first love, the two have not seen each other for more than twenty years, and after an unexpected reunion, they find that they are still single; the young love is like a spark that burns the plains, quickly surrounding Gu Qingyu.
Shi Yuan is Gu Qingyu's obsession.
Gu Qingyu's ex-boyfriend said that Gu Qingyu has "eccentricities" and always forces him to wear a white shirt and black-rimmed glasses, which is the way her first love looks, Gu Qingyu always only likes young men in their twenties, because her first love will not be old.
Gu Qingyu tried to fall in love several times, but no one could replace Shi Yuan's place in her heart, Gu Qingyu searched for it, and she was not married until Shi Yuan appeared in front of her, and her heart was fixed.
Shi Yuan also felt that it was the heavens that cared for him, in order to meet Gu Qingyu, who loved him deeply, and the two were full of joy and received a certificate to get married. Then Gu Qingyu brought Shi Yuan to his family and proposed to visit Shi Yuan's parents.
The mother-in-law will criticize her, and Gu Qingyu is more or less mentally prepared.
On the one hand, she is too busy to take care of the family wholeheartedly, and her salary is much higher than Shi Yuan,the female is strong and the male is weak, and the two are not equal; on the other hand, she is older, and her fertility may have problems, and it is normal not to be optimistic.
What Gu Qingyu did not expect was that the reason why her mother-in-law did not look up to her was her origin.
Gu Qingyu's sense of superiority is engraved in the bones, Shanghainese, have a house and a car, a decent job, an annual salary of one million; his father is a retired middle school Chinese teacher, neighbors will be honored with a sentence of "Teacher Gu" when they meet, they want money and money, they must be decent and decent, such a family is how many people want to climb can not climb, Gu Qingyu once looked down on feng Xiaoqin, a sister-in-law from the countryside, the result of feng shui took turns, she was also humiliated by the in-laws.
The mother-in-law knew that the daughter-in-law was going to come to the door, but deliberately asked the old friend Huang Sister to bring her daughter to the house, in front of Gu Qingyu, the mother-in-law said that Shi Yuan and the Huang family had booked a doll kiss, and refused to recognize Gu Qingyu as her daughter-in-law.
Gu Qingyu was so embarrassed that she didn't know how to deal with it, but fortunately, Aunt Huang was a shrewd person, saw that this meal was a Hongmen feast, and hurriedly left with her daughter.
Gu Qingyu helped the two call a car and sent them to the alley, and when they returned, they happened to hear the conversation of the three members of the Shi family. The mother-in-law said with anger:
"I just want her to know that we Shi Yuan married her, and it was she who took advantage of her, so that she had a good idea in her heart." I invited Sister Huang over, that is, I wanted her to see what kind of person Shi Yuan was going to marry, so that she would not be confused. ”
The mother-in-law commented on Gu Qingyu from head to toe, saying that she looked average, her eyes were not malicious, her birth was not good, and she almost demeaned Gu Qingyu to nothing, and her tone was full of disgust and contempt.
Gu Qingyu eavesdropped on the corner of the wall, her heart was very cold, she had never suffered such humiliation since she was a child, and every word of her mother-in-law was like a slap on her face, burning and burning. The only relief was that Shi Yuan was not on his mother's side, but for her to confront the old mother, Shi Yuan said that it was his luck to marry Gu Qingyu, and he wanted to live a good life with Gu Qingyu.
Gu Qingyu fled from her in-laws' house in a daze, her heart was blocked, and she complained to Zhan Xiang, she said:
I don't understand the point, I don't know what her mother is thinking, what her logical thinking is, what she wants to express, I don't know at all, I think today is confused. 」
In fact, as long as Gu Qingyu has a good understanding of her mother-in-law's actions after seeing her, she can know why she is despised, and 3 reasons uncover the truth about Gu Qingyu's marriage failure.
1. Door
Shi Yuan's family was once a large household, when the Gu family moved to Shanghai, Gu Qingyu's grandparents rented the Shi family's house, the Gu family is very poor, can only afford to rent the smallest and darkest cottage in the north.
The two Families of Shi Gu were very different, and the Gu family could not climb the Shi family at all.
Later, the Shi family fell in the middle of the road, Shi Yuan's parents went to the countryside, forced to leave Shanghai, the big lady of the former scenery, became a rough peasant woman, because she could not accept the gap in life, Shi Yuan's mother suffered from depression. Shi Yuan's mother was determined to kill back to Shanghai and restore the glory of her family, and she pinned all her hopes on Shi Yuan's body.
Shi Yuan once had excellent academic performance, but also good at piano and foreign languages, sports are also very good, is a talent in the school, originally had the strength to be admitted to Fudan University, the result of the examination room failed, volunteer did not fill in the good, only grievances to read a specialty. After graduation, Shi Yuan stayed in Shanghai and became an ordinary tour guide, living a life of running in the wind and rain.
Shi Yuan's college entrance examination failed, Shi Yuan's mother's wish was disappointed, so his depression worsened, and he added other diseases, and his body almost collapsed. In order to treat her illness, the family's savings were hollowed out, and Shi Yuan owed a million foreign debts.
Although Shi Yuan's family moved back to Shanghai, they could only live in a dirty and chaotic alley far away from the city, and the friends Shi Yuan made were all small people who sold fish and vegetables.
And the Gu family's life is getting better and better, buying a house, and catching up with the demolition, Gu Shihong became a teacher, and Gu Qingyu became a workplace elite, able to afford to buy tens of millions of pieces of real estate, far beyond Shi Yuan's class.
The rise of the Gu family and the decline of the Shi family have formed a sharp contrast, Shi Yuanma's mentality is unbalanced, and Gu Qingyu appears as a daughter-in-law, which magnifies the unsatisfactory life of Shi Yuanma to the extreme. The last struggle of this fallen nobleman was to refuse to become a relative of the Gu family.
The Huang family and the Shi family were right at the door, set the doll kiss, the Huang family later moved abroad, The Huang sister was admitted to Harvard, married to the American congressman, there is face in it; Shi Yuan's mother has a deep obsession with "doll kiss", she thinks from the bones, only the old nobles like the Huang family are worthy of Shi Yuan.
Shi Yuan's college entrance examination is named Sun Shan, his career is ordinary, and the only opportunity to cross the class is marriage, Shi Yuan's mother said:
"The daughter of Huang Sister's family, a flower shirt, a white skirt, a generous look, a lady's look, she exudes a kind of self-confidence."
Shi Yuan's mother was not willing to be mediocre for a lifetime, Shi Yuan was her last hope, and she worked hard to cultivate Shi Yuan into a person of integrity, kindness, style, and dignity; living noblely and marrying an equally noble woman was worthy of the ancestors.
Shi Yuan was very stressed, and he said in a showdown with his mother:
"You can't give me too much hope, your son is not a big man, just a bad guy, the whole world can see, only you can't see." 」
But in the eyes of Shi Yuan's mother, her son's body is flowing with the blood of a large family, which is not worthy of Gu Qingyu's kind of woman from a small family, obviously marrying Gu Qingyu is Shi Yuan's high climb, but Shi Yuan's mother feels that her son has suffered a loss.
Shi Yuan's mother raised her hands and feet, all wanted to show everyone's demeanor, she personally made tea for Gu Qingyu, and the technique was flowing; she deliberately showed Gu Qingyu the family photo album, pointing out to Gu Qingyu which was her grandfather and which was her uncle.
They were all members of the decent nobility.
Gu Qingyu only chatted as a normal chat, did not understand the mother-in-law's intentions, the mother-in-law inquired about her father's recent situation, and even pretended not to mention the embarrassment of Gu Qingyu's grandparents that year, wanted to win back a round for himself, Shi Yuan had to hurry to fork the topic.
Shi Yuan married Gu Qingyu, the marriage room was still Gu Qingyu out, and the Gu family, which was only rented in the most broken house of the Shi family, transformed and rode on the head of the Shi family, which was a great shame for Shi Yuan's mother.
How mean Shi Yuan's mother was, how unwilling she was.
2. Flash marriage
Before Gu Qingyu re-encountered Shi Yuan, he had almost no illusions about marriage events, rather than marrying casually, not enjoying celibacy; Gu Qingyu wanted to find someone to "fake marriage" in order to buy a house.
In order to get the handling fee, Shi Yuan twice "fake marriage" with a strange woman, the real estate agent recommended Shi Yuan to Gu Qingyu, Gu Qingyu found Shi Yuan for more than twenty years, did not expect that the reunion was in such a terrible way.
Shi Yuan consciously did not deserve Gu Qingyu, Gu Qingyu's brilliance, set off his downfall is particularly dazzling, Shi Yuan blackened Gu Qingyu, want to leave the beauty of the first love in each other's memories.
However, soon, the two met again, and the fateful arrangement pushed Gu Qingyu in front of Shi Yuan, Shi Yuan confessed his concerns, Gu Qingyu gave Shi Yuan a lot of confidence, and Shi Yuan finally knelt down to propose marriage.
The relationship between the two progressed rapidly, after all, there was a basis for first love, Gu Qingyu did not think much about it, and shi Yuan received a certificate.
In order to prevent the parents of both sides from disagreeing, Shi Yuan and Gu Qingyu each found a reason to cheat the family's household registration book, secretly went to register for marriage, and did not get the approval of their parents before marriage, laying hidden dangers for this marriage.
Secret marriage is a great disrespect to parents, Shi Yuan's mother is based on the sense of ceremony, the news of her son's marriage, or she overheard the dialogue between Shi Yuan and LiLy to know, like a thunderbolt on a sunny day, shattering the illusion of Shi Yuan's mother and a famous family marrying.
Shi Yuan's mother was furious, Shi Yuan had to confess the matter of the flash marriage, Gu Qingyu proposed to meet his family, Shi Yuan was on his own, lying that the walls of the home were cracked, and he had to paint it to entertain her, but Gu Qingyu did not hear Shi Yuan's true meaning. The Shi family did not welcome Gu Qingyu, but Gu Qingyu roared and wanted to crash into the muzzle of the gun, and the result could be imagined.
Shi Yuan and Gu Qingyu flashed love and flash marriage, which did not give the family time to buffer, but also irresponsible for this relationship.
The impression of each other is still stuck in their teens, youth is ignorant, the love at that time is hazy, just by virtue of this feeling of heartbeat, they rushed to get married, and finally they could only lose to the chai rice oil and salt in reality.
As written in the original "Heart Dwelling":
"Many of life's problems are illusory. Love is illusory, marriage is real. ”
Shi Yuan and Gu Qingyu's life attitude, living habits, consumption level, there are huge differences, Gu Qingyu makes Shi Yuan very inferior, such a marriage, sooner or later is going to have problems.
Love and marriage are actually two different things, Qian Zhongshu wrote in "Siege":
"Now that I think about it, it's naïve to think about how serious love was before I got married." Honestly, no matter who you marry, after marriage, you always find that you are not marrying the original person, but another one. Knowing this, the kind of pursuit, love, etc. before marriage can all be omitted - it can be seen that marriage does not need too great love, and mutual dislike is enough to get married. ”
In the original work of "Heart Residence", Shi Yuan has always had a sense of oppression after marriage, and Gu Qingyu is very uncomfortable with him, it is better to get along with Lily casually, he does not dare to lighten Gu Qingyu, Gu Qingyu in order to close the distance between the two, but also deliberately said some meat words to increase the ambiguous feeling.
Gu Qingyu is like a fairy who does not eat fireworks in the world, and Shi Yuan is just a common man, he does not want to be ridiculed as "eating soft rice", and the marriage of strong women and weak men makes Shi Yuan very frustrated. The marriage lasted only two or three months, and Shi Yuan filed for divorce.
3. Upside down
Gu Qingyu married Shi Yuan, not for money, only for love, Tu Shiyuan this person.
Shi Yuan is her first love and the most loved man in her life, and she has paid a lot for Shi Yuan.
She was willing to spend money on Shi Yuan, and carefully cared about his feelings and maintained his face; Gu Qingyu, the lover who had been lost and regained, cherished too much.
Gu Qingyu took Shi Yuan to see her family, and in the name of Shi Yuan, bought piano lessons for his nephew, just to make his family accept Shi Yuan, not to look down on him because of his general conditions.
Gu Qingyu knew that Shi Yuan's life was embarrassing, there was not much money in his hand, Shi Yuan invited her to dinner, she deliberately only ordered the cheapest pasta and vegetable salad, so as not to let him have a burden; the two bought bed sheets and quilt covers, Gu Qingyu rushed to check out, Shi Yuan looked at the bill, more than ten thousand pieces, far exceeding his consumption level.
Gu Qingyu only wanted to give Shi Yuan the best, she was worried that her sister-in-law Feng Xiaoqin calculated the Gu family's house, but she was completely unguarded against Shi Yuan, or Shi Yuan offered to sign a prenuptial agreement to protect Gu Qingyu's property.
Gu Qingyu was so good to Shi Yuan that shi Yuan was both guilty and grateful.
However, Gu Qingyu's generosity, in the eyes of Shi Yuan's mother, became a proper upside-down sticker. Shi Yuan's mother already looked up to her son, and Gu Qingyu rushed to marry Shi Yuan, which made Shi Yuan even more hot.
Li Li likes Shi Yuan, and can't even send fish and shrimp to the Shi family at every turn, and Shi Yuan's mother is not even willing to look up at her, because LiLy is just an aquatic product seller and can't get on the table.
Shi Yuan and Gu Qingyu got married, the Shi family hardly spent a penny, no marriage room, no bride price, not even a red envelope; Gu Qingyu did not want anything, she was too "cheap", the easier it was to get, the less cherished, so the mother-in-law dared to embarrass her in front of her.
I like a quote from Miyazaki:
"If you like a person, then you take two more steps toward him, and if he sees you coming and has no intention of greeting him, then you stop."
Gu Qingyu was obviously overly enthusiastic about Shi Yuan and even the Shi family. Feng Xiaoqin chased after Gu Lei, Gu Qingyu was disdainful, so she looked down on Feng Xiaoqin; now she was sticking to Shi Yuan, and she was also despised by her in-laws, Gu Qingyu took Feng Xiaoqin's old path but did not know it, it was really ironic enough.
Write at the end
Gu Qingyu did not understand until divorce, love is time-sensitive, miss is missed, except to go forward, there is no other way. Gu Qingyu obsessively fell in love with Shi Yuan, but ignored that in the more than twenty years that the two had been separated, they had long become completely different people.
In the original work of "Heart Residence", after Shi Yuan and Gu Qingyu divorced, he persuaded her to find a good man to marry, Gu Qingyu saw his girlfriend getting married and having children, he was envious, and did not want to end up alone, so he listened to Shi Yuan's words.
Gu Qingyu took the initiative to kiss Zhan Xiang, before this, Zhan Xiang pursued Gu Qingyu for nearly ten years, after Gu Qingyu's first love dream was broken, he recognized the reality and felt that Zhan Xiang was worth entrusting for life.
However, Gu Qingyu's response to Zhan Xiang was too late, Zhan Xiang had already developed a love for Feng Xiaoqin, Zhan Xiang politely rejected Gu Qingyu, Gu Qingyu only vaguely knew that love is to pay attention to timing.
Feng Xiaoqin's comment on Gu Qingyu's sentence was very correct:
"She is such a smart person, commenting on other people's things is the head of the Tao, reasonable, and the matter is on her own, she will not be angry." 」
In this world, nothing is immutable and indestructible. The people and things you once thought you absolutely grasped would also be in the grind of time and the world, or turn away, or disappear, and no one would always wait in place.
Gu Qingyu stumbled to shiyuan, missed the best age to get married, and also lost Zhan Xiang, who loved her deeply.
At the end of the original book of "Heart Residence", Shi Yuan's mother committed suicide, and her pride finally forced her to a dead end. Sometimes facing reality is also an ability, but also a kind of courage.
People who live forever in the past are doomed to miss the future. Shi Yuan's mother was so, and so was Gu Qingyu.