Love is the joy of the moment
There are also responsibilities for the future
01
We all say that to love someone is to be happy and to be tolerant of everything about her, but is true love only enough?
A guy said, girlfriend sent me a message, asking if you really get married, are you thinking about our future?
The boy paused for a moment, truthfully saying that I had not thought about it, because the two people had just graduated not long ago, he wanted to fight for his career, and he did not think about getting married, and he felt that they must be together, don't be too anxious.
He felt that marrying too early, everyone was not mature enough to handle it well, and waited until they were older.
So the girlfriend is not happy, thinks he does not love himself, a very perfunctory attitude, has not considered the future of the two people, must just want to have fun, maybe one day to break up with her.
He felt that he was wronged, not because he didn't love, but because he really felt that he needed some time to think about it.
He said that I was very kind to her, the money for the work was given to her, and I usually cooked, and she would coax her when she was angry, but she didn't think about getting married.
And I think it's okay to think about it after a while, and it's easier to run into the things that follow first.
02
In fact, everyone's ideas can not say that there is a problem, but the position is different, girls are easy to think that you love me, you have to consider the future, give me a sense of security.
But the boy feels that I have nothing now, and I have not considered it for the time being, and when the time is ripe.
So whether to love someone or not?
Definitely to consider, just a preliminary plan, or a detailed plan.
Boys can say that when I work for half a year or how old, so that there is a detailed time, the girl will have a sense of security and will not feel indefinite.
In addition, roughly where we buy a house and when we get married, this is the first step and can be planned.
Wait until this step is almost over, then consider the second step, but you need to let the other person know that you have considered it.
Instead of not thinking about it, it is naturally insecure.
The second step is to have children, a division of labor in life, and their respective parents, all of which need to be considered and what a truly responsible person will think of.
03
Because marriage is not a child's play, not a love, a lot of contradictions will make each other dissatisfied, today for the house quarrel, tomorrow for the children to make a contradiction, married life is a complete mess.
If you don't think about it before marriage, you are enthusiastic, you feel that love is enough, and you want to get married.
Such a marriage is destined to be a constant friction between the two people after marriage, noisy and not good, and even the best feelings are consumed by reality.
So if you've been in love for a while and two people really have the idea to go on, then be sure to think about each other's future.
Instead of not getting past this step, on the one hand, it will make the other party think that you are just playing, not really loving her, which will also make the feelings of the two people feel suspicious.
On the other hand, there will be no sense of responsibility, they do not have the initiative in life, and in the end they will be led by life, and both people will be more painful.
Good feelings are happy together, but they can also face the bittersweet and bittersweet of life together.
To solve the various problems of marriage together, love falls on marriage, and it is only when it falls on every little thing that people can be reassured, and it is true love.
Love is the love of being together, but also the responsibility of the future.
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Love emotions, interpret emotional confusion, pay attention to marriage problems, and be willing to listen to your sorrow and happiness, along the way