A daughter-in-law who marries into her in-laws' house may be loved as if she were her own daughter, or she may be called and tired as a nanny. Surely no one wants to be the latter, but in reality there is no such good thing, they can't marry and choose their mother-in-law's attitude towards themselves, and repeated tolerance will often make them miserable.
Originally, I made up my mind that I planned to get along with my husband well, which meant that I and my in-laws should have a good relationship, and I should be a good wife and mother, and I would also be a good daughter-in-law, and try to let others not find their own faults. But such perfection will still make the mother-in-law pick a thorn in it, and she feels very speechless for her daughter-in-law herself.
I don't want to serve my mother-in-law, nor do I want to pay for what she does, all I want is to live a good marriage with my other half and grow up healthily with my children. But how is it good to face an eventful mother-in-law who often makes her life a mess?
A down-to-earth little day with her husband
Zhang Rui has witnessed her mother's unhappiness and fatigue in marriage since she was a child, and naturally has some resistance to marriage, but she also knows that if she wants to be loved more, she should find a man who loves herself, no matter how many unknowns there are, as long as they love each other, they can resist the difficulties of the years.
And she thinks that the man has found it himself, the other party is very gentle and meticulous to himself, and the two people are also convinced that having each other's company will make their lives shine. Therefore, Zhang Rui, who did not hesitate at all, chose to marry the other party, and was convinced that she could become better in the marriage.
And the husband is indeed still the same as before after marriage, zhang Rui is also very sweet, but what he did not expect is that what makes him feel tormented in marriage is that his mother-in-law frequently tripps himself.
Because the husband is the only son in the family, and the mother-in-law lives with herself after divorcing her father-in-law. At the beginning in Zhang Rui's heart, the mother-in-law is a relatively young person who naturally does not have too many barriers and obstacles to get along with her, and the communication between the two people is also unimpeded.
But I don't know when it started, she felt that getting along with her mother-in-law was not as simple as she thought, her mother-in-law was a very selfish person, and even more of a princess disease, I wish that the people around her had to obey her, but she was not an idle person, and she needed to accompany her every moment to listen to her dispatches.
But the mother-in-law is after all a member of the family, the husband is not in his own home to lose his temper with himself, the size of the housework is constantly provoking, so that Zhang Rui is overwhelmed, she does not know where the mother-in-law offended the mother-in-law so careful to herself, have to collapse herself is not finished.
The mother-in-law let herself be distressed
I am still a young man, I also have my own job, and I also have to make money for the efforts of this family to get up early and return late, doesn't my mother-in-law understand her own pain? Zhang Rui was more and more depressed the more she thought about it, so she told her husband the bitterness in her heart, although her husband treated himself very well on weekdays, but he seemed very cowardly in the face of his mother-in-law's problem.
It was the same sentence that went over and over again: "Otherwise you have to endure it any longer, I have to find a companion for my mother." "This is a good idea, why didn't I think of it?" If she finds a wife for her mother-in-law, won't she spend too much effort on herself?
The reason why she stays at home every day and fights with herself, in the final analysis, is idle, she lacks a nagging person, if it is to be able to find a suitable person for her, they all move out, won't their lives be cleaner? When I thought of this, I couldn't help but laugh and began to find a suitable person for my mother-in-law.
So she secretly asked her mother-in-law to go out more to relax, and there are many divorced people of the same age downstairs, and presumably there can be a mother-in-law to see the upper eye. The mother-in-law is obviously also a little touched by this suggestion of the daughter-in-law, and Zhang Rui is also happy to find that the mother-in-law began to go out early to entertain with the uncles and aunts of the elderly activity center, and also made her life happy and clean.
Maybe she can really harvest her twilight love from it? Zhang Rui is still thinking, it will soon be her mother-in-law's 52nd birthday, her own careful arrangement, but also harvested the news she wants to hear, at her birthday banquet, the mother-in-law announced that she is going to remarry, Zhang Rui can not hide the joy in her heart, teasing: "That day you took us to meet my future father-in-law." ”
The pleasure is too much
But Zhang Rui's happiness has not yet passed, when he saw the true face of his father-in-law is his own is also frightened, the father-in-law in front of him said that he was ten years older than his mother-in-law, his hair has been gray, which is completely different from his expectations, why would his mother-in-law look at such a person?
In the words of her mother-in-law, she was deeply attracted by his talent: "You didn't look at his paintings, how beautiful, he said that he would teach me to draw when he had time." After saying that, he laughed with some embarrassment, if this could not make Zhang Rui numb, when the mother-in-law made a request again, it completely angered Zhang Rui.
Because the mother-in-law and the marriage will live with this father-in-law in Zhang Rui's home, and in Zhang Rui's eyes, she will have to serve two old people at once. If the mother-in-law's life is self-care and does not have to worry about herself, then the physical fitness of the father-in-law in front of her is really strong and solid to worry herself.
She began to regret the decision to match her mother-in-law, she thought that she could send the Buddha of her mother-in-law out, who wanted to invite herself into the home two Buddhas. She couldn't help but ask, doesn't the other party have no children and no home of their own?
But he was rolled over by his mother-in-law: "What do you ask so much about the elders?" His daughter-in-law was a shrew, and she wasn't as comfortable as I was at home, so I let him live with me. ”
The mother-in-law's such a light and fluttering sentence gave Zhang Rui a big blow, is it comfortable to say that such a small family has added a person to herself? Moreover, without saying hello to himself, he moved a room of calligraphy and paintings large and small, and occupied his own study.
Zhang Rui felt that she had two big heads, and couldn't help but say to her mother-in-law: "Is it enough to harm me?" Now I want two people to plague me together and make a mess in the house every day. ”
The mother-in-law naturally did not want to show weakness and hit back: "I am an elder, you are not qualified to argue with me at all, I live in my son's home, taking care of me is your natural responsibility, don't let me say in front of others that you are not filial piety, if you want to have a good reputation, you will serve us well, we will naturally not let you live happily." ”
Hearing this, Zhang Rui wanted to cry without tears, and she really put a time bomb at home. Watching two people eat, sleep and eat in their own home every day, such a comfortable life must let themselves suffer with sin, and I don't know when such a day is a head.
If you are still alone in middle age and old age, as a child, you will definitely hope that your elders can find a home for themselves at dusk and not be empty nesters. However, for Zhang Rui, she hopes that her mother-in-law can find a father-in-law because she wants them to move out of her own home, after all, it is too difficult to get along with her mother-in-law.
What I never expected was that although the mother-in-law found the right person, she wanted to live with the other party in Zhang Rui's house, and there was a lot of inconvenience for the daughter-in-law, not to mention, but also to serve two picky people at the same time, this taste is conceivable.
In fact, for the elders, when they are worried about their own happiness, they should also consider the living conditions of the younger generations, and when they are still able to take care of themselves, they do not have to push all the things to the head of their daughter-in-law, and also let them have more time to deal with their own affairs. Although it is said that it is impossible to help them do anything, as long as it does not add to the chaos, it is good.
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Can you accept your mother-in-law remarrying and living with yourself?
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