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Falling in love with someone is like having armor, and it's like having a weakness.
Before meeting you, he was fearless, debauched and free; until he met you later, he was more thoughtful about everything and began to become cautious.
As Hugo put it:
"The first sign of true love is timidity in boys and boldness in girls."
Because he cares too much about you, he begins to care about your feelings, consider the future between you, and hope to make you happy.
He's afraid of you getting angry, so he always lets you; he's afraid you're unhappy, so he always creates little surprises for you; he's afraid you're insecure, so he always rejects all ambiguity for you.
Feelings are sometimes like this, love to the depths is caution, love to the depths is fear.
In fact, these three fears are evidence that men are emotional about you.
01 Afraid that you are angry, always let you
There is a question on Zhihu: "How can you see that boys love you?" ”
Among them, there is a highly praised comment that replied:
"How much a man loves you, don't look at how good he is to you when he's romantic, but how much he can make of you when he argues." 」
Indeed, men who really love you will be very afraid that you will be angry, and when two people quarrel, they will choose to take the initiative to concede.
He doesn't want to make you sad and sad, so he will tolerate you as much as possible, coax you to be happy, and will not make you sullen in life.
In many things, in fact, it is not necessarily his fault, but he will not bother with you, always let you, take the initiative to bow his head and submit softly.
Because for him, love is more important than winning or losing.
In fact, quarrels are the touchstone of love, and men who love you will let you get angry because they are afraid of you.
Everyone has their own temper, know how to bow their heads, know how to be soft, in fact, is the best evidence of affection for you.
02 Afraid that you are not happy, always create small surprises for you
If you love someone, you want to do everything romantic for each other.
On the one hand, it is to make you happy; on the other hand, it is to express love for you.
Because he loves you, he will go out of his way to create surprises for you, spend his efforts to create romance for you, and only hope that you can be happy.
He's afraid you're not happy, so he'll always make small surprises for you from time to time and give you the sense of ritual you want.
As it is written in "The Little Prince":
"The sense of ritual is to make one day different from other days, to make a certain moment different from other times."
In the relationship, the sense of ceremony is very important, and the man who loves you will be very afraid that you will not be happy, try his best to make you happy, and give you the surprise you want.
03 Afraid that you are insecure, rejecting all ambiguity for you
In the movie "Soul Breaks the Blue Bridge", there is a line:
"I've loved you, I've never loved anyone else, and I never will, that's true."
Indeed, when a man has true feelings for you, he will be very afraid of your insecurity and take the initiative to reject all ambiguity for you.
He is afraid of your wild thinking, so he will do everything he can to reassure you and give you a sense of security.
Love you, don't need anything you to say, he knows how to do it.
Everything has a response, and everything has a landing. With him, you can feel full of peace of mind.
To love to the extreme is timidity, to be careful.
Afraid that you are angry, so as soon as you quarrel, you will admit defeat; afraid that you are not happy, so you always buy you gifts and create small surprises; afraid that you are insecure, so you reject all ambiguity for you, and only favor you alone.
Weak water three thousand, only take a scoop, meet a person who treats you wholeheartedly, just cherish it!
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