Wen/Shiyi
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A few days ago, when I was shopping, I heard a slightly fat aunt dancing and showing off to her companions: My man, I let him go east, he never dared to go west, and I managed that it was obedient.
The two aunts who were with her also echoed in unison after hearing this: You are really powerful. She said proudly: That's nature, I tell you, men have to take care of it, you don't care about him, he has to take care of you, women want to live happily, they have to make men obedient.
After listening to her, I couldn't help but feel sighing. From one of her "pipe" words, I seemed to be able to feel the misfortune of an uncle whom I had never met.
However, in real life, such examples can be said to abound. Many women are always very strong in all aspects of the relationship between husband and wife, and they must suppress men no matter what they say or do.
What's more, she has to manage what men do, use their own standards to ask men how to do it, and some excessive practices make men unable to raise their heads and have no dignity to speak of.
Perhaps, in the eyes of these women, they can control men, that is, they need to have real ability. But what they don't know is that excessive "management" of men will only make men feel suffocated, disgusted with you, unwilling to be close to you, even if he looks like a promise in front of you, in fact, behind his back he is looking for others to tell his bitter water and marital misfortune.
I have always felt that a truly happy marriage should be based on trust and equality. Although two people marry and become one, in fact, you are still you, he is still him.
You work together to run your own small family, in many things you have the same goal, agree with each other, there is no one who is strong and who is weak, and you will not win or lose for some small things.
It is common to hear some women complain: "Unhappy marriage, married to the wrong person." ”
But a closer look will find that most of these complaining women like to manage men, and men do not have their own independent time and space, and can only listen to her orders every day. Imagine how an unequal relationship can be happy, and how a man can open up to you and be close to you.
If women want to be happy, do 3 no matter what, men will be more willing to be close to you, don't understand.
First: Regardless of his wallet
People always say that to see if a man loves you or not, in addition to seeing if he is willing to spend time for you, it also depends on whether he is willing to spend money for you.
Maybe these words do reflect a man's love for you to some extent, but there are times when time and money don't necessarily measure your love.
For example, a very responsible man, in order to make you live a happy life, he has to race against the clock to work hard. And a man who has a difficult life and no excess money, even if he wants to prepare surprises for you and create romance, is also powerless.
So many times, a man who does not accompany you often does not mean that he does not love you, does not often send you flowers and gifts, and cannot judge that he is stingy.
If you always take money to talk about things in the process of getting along with men, and also ask him to turn in his salary card on time, even if he doesn't say anything, he will have some unpleasant thoughts in his heart.
You know, in a relationship, if a man is truly in love with you, if he identifies with you for a lifetime, then he will naturally be separated from you, whether it is time or money he will take the initiative to give it to you.
But if you take the initiative to open your mouth and want to control his right to use money, men will be wary of you, and even will always be wary of you, and they will become more and more distrustful of you.
Second: Regardless of his socialization
Both men and women will have their own friends and their own social circles before they meet each other.
But once many women fall in love or enter the palace of marriage, they will put all their emphasis on men, and they want to circle around men all day long, thinking about the sweet world of two.
Maybe when two people are first together, they will indeed enjoy the time when two people are together, and they will feel very happy, but the freshness will always dissipate one day, no matter how much you love each other now, stay together for a long time, there will be a tired day.
Just as the so-called distance produces beauty, two people in the process of getting along, should have their own time alone, have one or two friends who keep in touch for a long time, rather than tying men around all day.
I have seen many women, extremely insecure in their feelings, will always be wary of the opposite sex around men when in love, will ask men to cut off contact with all the opposite sex, and after marriage, they will always want to manage men.
For example, if a man comes home late from work, he will ask for half a day without hesitation, and if a man goes out to a party with a few friends and does not bring himself, he will suspect that the man has someone outside.
In short, always like to interfere in men's social interactions, men also need to report to her when they go out to socialize, and who men are with should also be stated in advance. Suspicious all day, for a long time, it will only make men feel depressed, and even want to escape.
Third: Whatever his preferences
In life, everyone will have something they like or are interested in. Maybe these things are very inconspicuous to others, and even have some bargains, but they will be regarded as treasures by themselves.
In the world of feelings, two people who love each other are not necessarily like-minded, the way of treating things is not necessarily the same, and even many times, the two people are likely to be completely opposite.
Therefore, this requires one of the parties to make concessions in the event of a dispute, first bow their heads, and take the initiative first. As a result, many women always hope that men can make some changes for themselves, and even make sacrifices for themselves.
For example, men like to play football, run, work out with friends in their leisure time, and find a lively place to eat. But women are different, women in their spare time always hope that men can accompany themselves shopping and watch movies, so they will ask men to sacrifice their time to accompany themselves.
If men are unwilling, women will always move out a lot of truths, and even manage each other, not allowing each other to do what they like, and even threatening each other.
I have to say that trying to control men's preferences is really unwise. Men mostly like to be free and don't like to be bound, and if you interfere in his life and restrain his words and deeds, he will only want to run away from you.
So, want a man to be more intimate with you, and a woman does 3 whatever: whatever his wallet, whatever he socializes, whatever he likes. When getting along with him, giving him time, giving him space, loving each other, and growing up with each other is the best way to love.
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