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"There is no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time", which is a kind of helplessness, which is both the helplessness of parents and the helplessness of children. Taking care of an elderly person who has been sick for a long time is not an easy task, and for the vast majority of children, it is not really that they do not want to care for the elderly, but they have more than enough and lack of strength.
"I raise you small, you raise me old", this is true, but there is no reciprocity between the two. Parents pay ten points for their children, and children can't pay ten points for their parents, because children also have to allocate time, energy and money to raise their children, which is what human beings have passed down from generation to generation.
For parents who have been sick for a long time, their children can only do their best to take care of the elderly as much as possible. If the economic conditions are good, you can ask a nanny to take care of it; if the economic conditions are not good, you can only take care of it while working. Children can't stay with the elderly 24 hours a day, because they have to do something else.
02
After the mother-in-law was paralyzed, when the son who used to throw away the treasurer, he transferred the responsibility of taking care of his mother to his wife. The wife was too busy to come, so she asked her sister-in-law to help, and the sister-in-law took care of the old man together. The son suspected that his wife did not take good care of his mother, and the sister-in-law scolded him angrily: "You are easy to say, you come to try!" ”
This is what happened to Chen Guixiang's family, and now she, her husband and sister-in-law take care of their mother-in-law together, and sometimes the sister-in-law's husband will also come to help, and they take good care of their mother-in-law. Let's hear the story of their family.
Self-narrator: Chen Guixiang
Age: 46 years old
Occupation: female worker
City: Tianshui
03
At that time, my husband and I met each other on a blind date, I was three years older than him, and the introducer said that the female junior held a gold brick. But after getting married, the golden bricks were not hugged, but they suffered a lot. My husband is very lazy and does nothing at home except at work. He followed his father-in-law, and so did his father-in-law.
I don't want to be noisy because of the housework, so I do everything in the house, and he is a hand-thrower. However, in addition to the problem of laziness, he has no problem in other aspects, and the salary he earns every month is given to me, and I will give him pocket money.
After I gave birth to the child, my mother-in-law helped us to bring it, and my mother-in-law was very loving, never angry, and was very good to me. So our mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have always been polite and polite, and there is no contradiction.
In the 4th year after my husband and I got married, my sister-in-law got married and married in the village next door. However, she did not come back often, because she had to work again, and she had to be busy with the affairs of the family, and she did not have time to return to her mother's house. My relationship with my sister-in-law is very good, and the sister-in-law's personality follows her mother, and she is also a very gentle person.
In the blink of an eye, my husband and I have been married for more than 20 years. Later, the father-in-law fell ill and died, and the mother-in-law was very sad and depressed every day. After about a year or so, her mother-in-law suffered a stroke and was paralyzed in bed, and she had to be served every day.
04
My husband is still like the original, everything at home does not care, I have to go to work alone, I have to do housework, and I have to take care of my mother-in-law who is paralyzed in bed, I am really busy. I called my sister-in-law, and my sister-in-law came to help every three to five minutes, which made me a lot easier.
Every time the sister-in-law came, like washing her ass, pouring shit and urine and other dirty work, she always rushed to do it, and let me do some clean, lighter work. She always said that when she didn't come, all the work was done by me, and I worked hard!
Our sister-in-law took care of her mother-in-law together and took good care of her mother-in-law. Although she lay in bed every day, there was no pressure sore on her body, her weight was not reduced, her mood was also very good, and she smiled and giggled every day.
It is reasonable to say that we took good care of our mother-in-law, and my husband should have nothing to say, but he always felt that the little sister-in-law was always returning to her mother's house. He said that if the daughter who marries out and spills the water, who will return to her mother's house in three days and two ends? The sister-in-law said that she had come back to take care of her mother, and he said that her mother had us and the couple, and there was no need for the sister-in-law to mix.
When I heard this, I scolded my husband, what did he say! If there is no sister-in-law, is he trying to exhaust me? My sister-in-law always ignored my husband, saying that my husband was standing and talking without waist pain, and only knew how to play mobile phones and drink every day.
05
Two years after my mother-in-law's stroke, one day I had a waist injury and I couldn't work, so I called my sister-in-law, and my sister-in-law came right away. It was time to wipe her mother-in-law's body, then carry her into a wheelchair and push her to the outside yard to bask in the sun.
The sister-in-law could not hold her mother-in-law alone, so she asked my husband to help. After being interrupted, he was very reluctant, so he went to help, scolding me for being useless, and scolding my sister-in-law for being useless.
Later, my husband also felt that I did not take good care of my mother-in-law, saying that it was not to serve the elderly to eat and drink, but also to use the sister-in-law! The sister-in-law ran to her mother's house at both ends for three days, and she returned to her mother's house to rub rice and eat.
After hearing this, the sister-in-law, who had always been very gentle, suddenly lost her temper. She said that her family did not have food to eat, so why did she run to her brother-in-law's house to rub rice and eat? She came to take care of her mother, saying that my husband did not take care of her mother, and he stood and talked without waist pain.
The sister-in-law was so angry that she decided to ignore her mother and not allow me to take care of it, saying that she must be managed by my husband, and let him also taste the hardships of taking care of the elderly. After the sister-in-law lost her temper, she went back to her house. She said she would come every day to check on her, and if my husband didn't take good care of his mother, she wouldn't finish with my husband.
06
From the next day on, the sister-in-law really came to check every day. Because my waist was injured, I couldn't work at all, so I had to do the things at home. At this time, the husband's head is older, and he has to do housework and take care of his mother-in-law, he has not cooked a good meal, or has not washed his clothes, etc., and the son will blame him, and he will make a mess.
He didn't take good care of his mother-in-law, and the sister-in-law wanted to blame him again, and the mother-in-law still cried with him! My husband worked for a week, and he cried bitterly and begged me privately for help. I said it wasn't that I didn't help, it was that the doctor wouldn't let me work, and my sister-in-law wouldn't allow me to do it, and I couldn't help it.
A month later, my husband finally became honest, and he finally understood that doing housework and caring for the paralyzed elderly was not an easy task.
Later, when my waist injury healed, I continued to take care of my mother-in-law, and my sister-in-law still came back to help. My husband no longer dared to say anything about us, but honestly took care of my mother-in-law with us. Sometimes if the mother-in-law wants to take her to the hospital, the sister-in-law's husband will also come to help, and our burden will be much easier.
Now, the mother-in-law has been paralyzed in bed for nearly 4 years, we take care of her together, she lives a good life.
epilogue:
Caring for the paralyzed elderly is not an easy task, and only those who have served the elderly know what it is like. There are many things that seem easy to do, but they are not simple to do, and they have to be done for many years.
If there is a paralyzed old man in the family, the children must take care of him together, so that the burden will be lighter. Chen Guixiang and the little sister-in-law took care of the mother-in-law together, and the sister-in-law and the sister-in-law understood and cared for each other, and took good care of the old man.
Chen Guixiang's husband is a treasurer and usually does not do any housework at all, so he has no idea how to take care of a paralyzed old man. There are many people who are like this, they don't do something at all, they sit on the moral high ground and ask others to do what they want. When it's their turn, they're far inferior to others!
Everyone will have the day of old age, and those who are children must support their parents well. This is both a human feeling and an obligation clearly stipulated by the law, and every child must fulfill the obligation.
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