As the saying goes, "It is difficult for a clean official to break the family affairs", because there are many emotional elements in the family, family affection, love, even a clean and honest official is difficult to distinguish who is right and who is wrong. However, the harmony of society requires objective and fair laws and regulations to regulate and ensure that everyone is as fair as possible.
According to the rules of the 2021 Civil Code, after a couple gets married, the wife and husband are not what we once thought, the wife should cut off the connection between the original family and contribute to the old age for the new family and the in-laws, but the husband serves as the adoptive mother-in-law, the wife serves as the parent who supports herself, and each other can ignore the partner's parents.
Perhaps the times are moving too fast, and many people can't bear this kind of cold rules (especially the man and his parents), which leads to some unmarried only children announcing a sigh: "Since the daughter-in-law does not have the responsibility of raising my father and mother, what is the advantage of marrying a daughter-in-law? ”
1. The Civil Code clarifies the links between maintenance duties in the family
The Civil Code clearly states that the relationship between the child and the biological father and mother exists only, and there is no in-law duty with regard to the nominal in-law father-in-law and in-laws, such as the mother-in-law and the in-laws.
Women who have experienced the oppression of their mother-in-law can't help but clap their hands when they see that "the daughter-in-law has no duty to serve the mother-in-law", and their husbands are dissatisfied, "After receiving the bride price and entering the house, the daughter-in-law is the man's family, why is there no duty to adopt the mother-in-law?" ”
When the husbands see that "the son-in-law does not have the responsibility of providing for the elderly to the father-in-law and mother-in-law", they can't help but cheer, and their wives fall into distress: "If in order to maintain a small family, return to the family to become a full-time mother, there is no economic income, how to give their parents and mothers a pension?" ”
Some people say that the Civil Code ruthlessly tore apart many pretending to be friendly marriages by clarifying the duties of family members.
Objectively speaking, the Civil Code only guides people to adjust their duties in terms of legal connections, and the determination of the estrangement and proximity of the legal has always existed since the Inheritance Law, but the Civil Code has emphasized the effect here.
According to the rules of the Succession Law, if one of the spouses dies, the property is cut according to the property, first of all, the joint property of the husband and wife, and then in the order of succession or legal succession, the inheritance of the deceased party's property. Legal succession is divided into two major succession orders: the first order is mom and dad, lover, and children, and the second order is brothers and sisters, grandparents and grandparents.
From the perspective of the legal succession order, the inheritance relationship only exists in the individual's parents, lovers, children, brothers and sisters, grandparents and maternal grandparents, and there is never any mention of in-laws such as fathers-in-law and in-laws. If you want to have an industrial cutting connection with your in-laws and parents, you will also divide the proportion of one party's industry to the father and mother of this party after cutting the joint property of the husband and wife.
In this regard, the Civil Code continues the article that the industry is a common property during the existence of the husband and wife connection. This means that as long as two people are still husband and wife, using the common property to support mom and dad or mother-in-law or in-laws, it means that the other half is also doing their duty. If two people divorce, the marital connection disappears, and the common industry is cut off, the son-in-law does not have to serve his father-in-law and mother-in-law, and the daughter-in-law does not have to serve his in-laws. In normal marital contact, it is still a necessary responsibility for both husband and wife to support parents.
The decree guarantees the minimum limit of justice and justice, and its principle is that all powers and duties must be reciprocated. In-laws do not raise their daughters-in-law, and daughters-in-law naturally have no statutory duty to support their mothers-in-law, in the same way, fathers-in-law and mother-in-law do not raise sons-in-law, and sons-in-law certainly do not have the duty to support fathers-in-law.
Decrees are the bottom line for adjusting family maintenance duties, but not the rope ruler. In other words, the decree has the necessary rules of duties to do, and those without responsibilities are not impossible to do, and for the sake of family friendliness, they automatically assume the responsibility of maintenance that is not a statutory duty, which is also the embodiment of the responsibility.
2. The source of family antagonisms
What is the origin of family antagonism, is the inequality of economic foundations, or is interpersonal connection difficult to deal with? This issue does not seem to be clear enough.
But here I give a kind of reflection: many unnecessary disputes stem from a sense of unclear boundaries between family members and a desire to manipulate in the name of love.
Why is it said that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies? Luo Fat once quipped in a program, "My mother-in-law said that I spent a few years teaching my son how to put on his pants, and as soon as his daughter-in-law came, he took off his pants." Although Luo Fat is suspected of telling a paragraph, he explains the origin of the opposition between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law very popularly.
The normal logic should be that the mother-in-law, as a mother, taught her son the basic life techniques, and how the son will live in the future and who he will live with is only the son's own daily life. The mother-in-law thought that the arrival of the daughter-in-law would reduce the weight in her son's heart, thus reducing her control over her son's life, which was the embodiment of the mother-in-law's sense of boundaries for her son as a mother.
It's not so much love as it is a manipulative lust. This selfish desire of the mother-in-law naturally clashes with another woman who enters the son's life. If the daughter-in-law is generous, or even tolerant, the opposition between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law will naturally not be explicit, on the contrary, if the daughter-in-law's excessive interference with the mother-in-law reflects the evil feeling of resistance, the mother-in-law confrontation will be quickly promoted.
In the same way, the origin of the opposition between the mother-in-law and the son-in-law is the same.
From childhood to adulthood, the daughter was spoiled by her mother-in-law, a little princess with "ten fingers not staining the spring water", and suddenly one day she had to wash and cook for someone else's house, and her mother was of course very sad. If the daughter and son-in-law have a happy and smooth life, if the daughter is bitter and angry every day, can the mother-in-law not jump like thunder and be angry with the son-in-law?
The sense of boundary between the mother-in-law and the daughter is also not clear, in their knowledge, what is love, love is not divided into each other, your affairs are my affairs, you suffer I want to bear for you, if someone oppresses you, I will not come forward for you who will come forward for you. The mother-in-law also wants to manipulate her daughter's marriage date, because she is afraid that because of her absence, her daughter will be bullied.
Of course, the original intention is to protect the daughter, but this desire to manipulate will only aggravate the complexity of the opposition. Originally, the small conflict between the two mouths, once the external forces of the mother-in-law intervened strongly, it was equivalent to going online.
The above points are what I know from the Civil Code!
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