As soon as I stepped off the ceremonial stage, my husband asked me to change the wedding dress and return the change fee given by his parents on the stage just now.
To be honest, I was a little angry at the time, but due to the large number of guests present, I still held back. After changing into the toast, I opened the two red envelopes given by my in-laws, each 400, a total of 800. After my husband entered the marriage room, he took the two red envelopes directly from me, saying that his parents could not open their funds and returned them to them.
I sat on the bed and refused to go out, just when my sister-in-law came in, saw that I was not looking right, and asked me what was wrong. I casually found a reason to prevaricate and continued to smile.
After the feast, my brother-in-law and niece had to go back. The mother-in-law came in and asked me how many red envelopes I had sealed, I said that my brother and sister-in-law sealed 500 per seal, the mother-in-law was unhappy, took out 300 yuan from her pocket and said that there was only so much cash, and said that her eldest daughter-in-law (the eldest brother was married twice, but the first marriage was more than a dozen relatives) did not send relatives to the door. There was no way, I could only take 1200 envelopes and 3 red envelopes out of my own pocket.
After the wedding, all the red envelopes I received, except for the red envelopes of my brother-in-law and the affection of several of my classmates, my husband took them all to my in-laws. The mother-in-law also muttered that I had brought a few classmates to her side, causing her to be missing a box of cakes (everyone who gave a box of cakes) was missing, and they were still replenished.
To be honest, I was very angry at the time, because I hadn't been with my in-laws before, and I didn't know who they were. But thinking about it, those what to change the mouth, toast red envelope is not given by my relatives and friends, I don't want to take it in my heart but also steadfast. The red envelopes that I gave to my brother-in-law out of my own pocket are also my personal feelings, and I don't owe my in-laws a penny, and I feel at ease.
Do you think I'm particularly embarrassed when you see this? Do you think I'm particularly unproductive? In fact, I myself think the same now, how at that time the head was kicked by a donkey to find a husband who looked honest, in fact, he was a wasted mother, and people even coaxed me to act without effort, so it was easy for me to fall, the bride price did not cost a point, and I also posted the dowry upside down. It is really the answer to such a sentence, the IQ of the love brain is 0. Everything is my own choice, so I should admit it, and I really deserve it.
But riding a donkey to read the record book, I have no way back to see the current ending of the in-laws (the above content is the diary I wrote after I got married 8 years ago).
The eldest brother has been divorced for another 6 years and is still alone. The unmarried can't look up to him, and he can't look at the divorce with the child, so even if there are thousands of blind dates, none of them have succeeded. Of course, the hero of the eldest brother's second marriage and divorce is naturally indispensable to the mother-in-law.
I have been married for 9 years, from the beginning of the gentle and virtuous to the current absolute reticence, in their words is how the previous gentle and weak person has become a stubborn woman who either does not open her mouth and can choke people to death.
The mother-in-law has changed from the arrogance of the beginning to the idle person who only dares to break her mouth behind her back. Marrying a daughter-in-law has lost its original high standards, and I wish the eldest brother could marry a woman to live a life.
The father-in-law has always been strongly suppressed by the mother-in-law, and there is no half-point status in the family.
As for my husband, he still lives in his own world, he likes acting, I used to disdain and sneer, but now when I am in a good mood, I will also sneer and accompany him to act.
There is only one child, they have always wanted a second child and want a son, once the family forced me to give birth, I did not compromise. Because, I am a person who got up alone from the dark abyss to heal and lick blood, and I will never do it again, and I don't want to know myself.
I think a lot of people who see this will say I deserve it, really! I also feel that I deserve it! However, what I lost has finally been exchanged for my current sobriety, except for my own birth and my own birth, I will not worry about anyone's heartache, I can eat well and sleep well, I don't have to eat and sleep for the sake of my ridiculous feelings, and I will not care about the thoughts of my in-laws day by day, and torture myself like a neuropathy.
Of course, I will not do less, such as the mother-in-law's birthday, the natural way to do it, the natural money that should be spent, the New Year's Festival should buy gifts, the New Year goods should be bought, they are sick, I should cook rice, I should give money to give money, I will not be preoccupied, but I will not bring any feelings to do these things.
Maybe some people don't understand, why do they do this to me after I crawl out of the darkness? Because I have children, his eyes are always innocent, and I can't make her embarrassed and make her unhappy. And I also have parents, and I should be equal to myself and treat them equally. On one side is affection, on the other side is responsibility, and I don't want to owe anyone.
But I decided not to do what I shouldn't have done, and I used to take care of all the housework. But now it won't, I don't cook when I wash the dishes, I don't wash the dishes when I cook, I don't do housework when I take the baby, and I only wash myself and my children's clothes. In my case, I cook, but when I go back to my in-laws' house, I resolutely do not cook. Anyway, everyone is playing, I am still alone in charge of the baby, they can see it, then I can get by. However, my principles sometimes change from person to person, and that is my children.
The more sober people are, the more rational they become. I will no longer be soft-hearted for who is hypocritical and cheap affection, and whenever I want to pay the IQ tax stupid, I will force myself to look at the abyss that I have climbed, to think of the helpless despair of the past.
The method I am accustomed to using is to treat others in the way of others, and I do not make unreasonable trouble, but I will never let others take care of them. Your attitude is good, I naturally have a good attitude, you perfunctory I am also perfunctory, every time the other party is disgusted and irritable, it will turn into the strength of my heart, and warn myself not to be soft-hearted.
Now I am the kind of person who doesn't like to owe people and doesn't like others to owe me, likes to be lonely and feel paid. I don't like to talk, I like to be silent, and flower music is a confidant and friend, and it is also a healing medicine.
A woman with light in her eyes, love in her heart, gentle and enthusiastic has become a cold, taciturn, lonely addicted person. What do you feel have been lost? What did you get? For me, it is to lose my innocence and stupidity, to gain steadfastness and ease, to lose my joys and sorrows in exchange for today's peace like water.
