Ms. Chen, who has not returned home for two years, has to go home for the New Year this year.
The first year did not go home, she said that she changed to a new job, the New Year is busy, to work overtime so there is no time to go home.
She didn't go home the following year, and she said she couldn't go home because of the pandemic.
This year, Ms. Chen still did not want to go home at first, but she could not stand the repeated persuasion of her parents and brother, and she still insisted on going home for the New Year.
Why don't you want to go home for the New Year?
Because Ms. Chen's parents, relatives, have arranged 14 blind dates for her.
There were 6 blind dates before the first day of the Chinese New Year, an average of 3 blind dates a day; and there were 8 blind dates in the next year, and she had to prepare to go back to work after the sixth day of the New Year.
In other words, the time that I had planned to go home for the New Year and rest for a few days was all occupied by blind dates.
One of the reasons why contemporary young people are "afraid to go home for the New Year" is that they cannot face the torture of their parents and relatives and friends: "Have you found a partner?" When to get married? ”
Moreover, every time I go home for the New Year, I will inevitably embark on the path of blind date arranged by my family.
I think many people have experienced the matter of blind dates.
This is a matter of great uncertainty.
When you meet a blind date that you like, look at the right eye, have similar views, and have similar conditions to each other, it is simply lower than the chance of picking up money when you go out.
After all, you have your mate selection criteria, and the other party also has his mate selection criteria.
But in order to cope with the "urging marriage" of his family, he had to force himself to carry all this down.
Blind dates are tiring and cumbersome, but we also have to do decent blind dates.
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What are the common blind date patterns?
First: Go through a formal blind date
Generally speaking, this blind date pattern mainly occurs in small counties.
Boys and girls, led by their respective families or matchmakers, look at each other across the road.
If the first impression is good, the two people will go to the object of each other, press the road together, and chat while walking.
Whether it is successful or not, the blind date will end as soon as possible, and then the conversation will be passed through the matchmaker in the middle.
Second: seriousness
This blind date mode is generally the blind date introduced by the family relatives behind the two people.
It's either a friend's child, or a colleague's child, etc.
For them, they attach great importance to this blind date of young people.
So they would scramble to find a restaurant and sit with each other for a meal.
Generally, the man's parents and family will appear, and the woman will also bring relatives to "staff check".
However, the atmosphere of the dinner party is also subtle.
The adults were there without a word, but the two young men were relatively speechless, only tears.
This blind date model is not like a young blind date, but two people are "grilled on a brazier".
There is no way, not to come is to "rebel against the road", and if you come, you have to suffer silently.
Third: Single dating style
Generally speaking, blind dates between men and women start online, chat online, and share some life and work status with each other.
This process is to exchange information and get to know each other, so as not to be so awkward as the next blind date.
And if the atmosphere of two people chatting online is good and feels quite pleasant, then there is the next dating mode.
It's either a café or a restaurant, and some people also advocate a blind date in a park or attraction.
This blind date model, with a higher success rate, can also allow both parties involved in the blind date to maintain a sober and rational mind.
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New Year's blind date, how to achieve decent?
First: Create a good first impression
For boys, change into clean and decent clothes, don't wear jewelry, and take care of your hair.
No matter what your appearance is, clean and appropriate dress to make your image show the best.
For girls, simplify makeup, dress generously, and try to show their best side.
Creating a first impression of yourself is the most basic respect for each other.
Have you ever seen a boy wear big pants and slippers on a blind date?
Have you ever seen a girl go on a blind date and go out in her pajamas?
Second: For the New Year's blind date, you can prepare a small gift
If you work in a foreign country, if there are any interesting and inexpensive small gifts in that place, you can take a few more copies home.
After all, you don't know how many blind dates your family will arrange for you.
At the first meeting, no matter what the result of the next blind date, preparing a small gift for the other party can greatly improve your good feelings in the other person's mind.
Third: During the blind date, pay attention to your words and deeds
Both boys and girls who want to have a pleasant blind date should make themselves as generous as possible.
Boys should take the initiative to find some topics to avoid the cold field of the process.
Two people are not very familiar with each other, and relatively speechless, then is it not more embarrassing?
If you have a good feeling, then feel free to share it;
If there is no good feeling, then control the time of the blind date, control it within a reasonable time frame, and find an opportunity to end the date.
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What should I avoid when I go on a blind date?
First: It is best not to invite friends to go on a blind date
You have to remember that it is you who are on a blind date, not a friend who helps you with a blind date.
Whether you're nervous, worried, or afraid of embarrassment, you shouldn't take someone on a blind date.
There is an example around me.
Boy A went on a blind date and took his single friend B to help, and as a result, the blind date girl looked at B.
You see, how embarrassing would it be if something like that happened?
Therefore, no matter how good the relationship with your friends, don't ask others to accompany you on a blind date.
Adults, some things have to be faced by themselves.
Second: Like it or not, don't rush to make a decision
Whether you like each other or don't like each other, it's okay.
But remember not to respond "yes or no" at the time.
Calm yourself down, go home and reflect on the process of the two of you dating, and then compare your mate selection requirements and give a final answer.
After all, the New Year blind date needs to bear all kinds of pressures, no matter how the family urges, you should stick to your position.
Don't resist too much, but don't start a reluctant relationship just to make it up.
Today's Topic:
How many blind dates have you been scheduled for this New Year's Eve?
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