In ancient times, he married his wife with heavy gold, but now he is preoccupied with a little bride price, who is wrong?

introduction

"The peach is dying, scorching its glory." The son of Yu Gui, it is advisable to his room. Peach of death, there is a rudder in fact. The son of Yu Gui, yi qi family room. The peach of death, its leaves. The son of Yu Gui, it is appropriate for his family. "From ancient times to the present, marriage is a major event in the life of two people and the happiest moment in many people's lives, but there are many sayings about marriage in ancient times."

For example, "Poetry, Wei Feng, Hu" is one of the folk songs of the pre-Qin Weiguo region, in which we can generally understand the ancient system of love and marriage. In the pre-Qin period, the feudal ruling system of the mainland has not yet been consolidated, and the relationship between men and women is also adhering to the principle of free love, but the freedom of love does not represent the freedom of marriage and matchmaking, and marriage must have a matchmaker as a medium to say kisses, and in the pre-Qin period, the matchmaker can also be understood as a certified marriage introduction intermediary.

In ancient times, due to the lack of resources and materials, coupled with the impact of wars and natural disasters, the average life expectancy of human beings was far higher than that of human beings today. Therefore, in order to ensure that the human social system can be maintained normally, from the Western Zhou Dynasty onwards, there were regulations on marriage, that is, men must marry before the age of thirty, and women must marry before the age of 20. And in the evolution of later generations, especially after the prevalence of the feudal rule system, the age limit for the marriage of men and women in ancient mainland china became more and more stringent, and the age of marriage and mating became smaller and smaller. But the premise of ancient marriage has always remained unchanged, that is, "no matchmaking, no marriage."

In ancient mainland china, if there was no matchmaker as an intermediary to form a marriage and sign a marriage contract privately, they would be regarded as moral depraved people who violated the etiquette. In the Confucian thought that was promoted during the period of feudal rule in the mainland, it also advocated "the order of the parents and the words of the matchmaker".

Today we will talk about the rules of ancient marriage and its operation process. As an intermediary between the two parties to the marriage, the matchmaker plays an extremely important role. If you want to marry a wife, you first need to give the woman a gift through a matchmaker, if the woman accepts the gift, then it means that the marriage contract is initially established, and this is also the first part of the completion of the "six rites". This is followed by the name, Najib, Naji, Please, and Kiss. According to today's words, know each other's names and birthdays, and ask Mr. to calculate whether the two birthdays are matched, and the man will give the dowry, and after proper preparation, select the wedding auspicious day to prepare for the bride price.

From these six ceremonies, it can be seen that there are three marriage ceremonies involving money, and it is not difficult to see that in ancient times, the dowry was also very important for marriage. Especially during the Tang Dynasty, economic prosperity also made its marriage match pay more attention to the bride price. Therefore, during the Tang Dynasty, families with solid families generally chose early marriage in order to choose the children of families who were right with their own families as partners.

And in ancient times, if the man's family could not meet the conditions for preparing gifts, as long as it did not reach the last step in the "six rites", the woman's family could make a renunciation of the marriage contract, so it seems that women in ancient mainland China had greater power in marriage. However, if the man's family meets the conditions and the woman's dowry is too meager, the woman will also face the problem of not being valued after marriage.

Therefore, in ancient marriage, there are certain requirements for both men and women who are married, if you want to live a happy life, then at least you must be the right door to ensure that the status of both parties to the marriage is relatively equal and meet the requirements of marriage. Generally speaking, most of those cold door marriages are mainly based on money, and the rich door marriage naturally requires more, in addition to money, they also have to be equipped with a variety of food animals and miscellaneous goods, etc., in addition to the women's dowry is not less.

Then this marriage system also continued until the end of the Qing Dynasty and the Republic of China, when the dowry of the dowry was too expensive. This situation refers to the fact that if the daughter cannot prepare a dowry for her when she is married, then the parents need to support the daughter for a lifetime, and because of this, in the Qing Dynasty, many girls did not marry in their lives and died at home.

In fact, after arriving in the Republic of China, "marriage by marriage" was very popular. For example, at the end of the Qing Dynasty, there was a famous Zhang family, and his grandfather Zhang Shusheng was the second head of the Huai Army, the official to the governor of Liangguang, and at that time, when the Zhang family industry was passed to Zhang Wuling, there were still tens of thousands of acres of land property, although at that time the Republic of China had emerged advanced ideas to encourage marriage freedom, but there were still more restrictions on marriage between famous people, and at that time everyone would never accept marrying poor girls and marrying poor boys.

At that time, the Zhang family and the second daughter of the Lu family in Yangzhou were engaged, and the Zhang family naturally issued a heavy dowry, and the Lu family, as a large family, was not ambiguous when marrying the daughter, and even the dowry was prepared a year in advance. It is said that on the day, the Lu family sent their daughter's dowry, and 9 ships were loaded, and there were 10 streets in a row.

After the second daughter of the Lu family entered the Zhang family, she naturally had quite a status, he gave birth to a total of 10 children for Zhang Wuling, and 4 of these 10 children were also quite talented, and the third daughter was married to the writer Shen Congwen. In fact, it can also be seen from the marriage of the Zhang family and the daughter of the Lu family that at that time, the marriage of marriage has become a microcosm of the times, and this situation of heavy dowry and dowry has also been continued in ancient China.

epilogue

But from a realistic point of view, we don't care too much about the dowry and the dowry. But marriage is ultimately a matter of two families, so although it is not emphasized that too much is right, it is best not to be disparity. Modern society to get married, will be because of a little dowry money to make a lot of contradictions between the two sides of the calculation, in fact, the problems should be blamed on the changing situation and has "changed" the wedding, marriage is a matter of two people, should not be mixed with too many interests.

Reference: Peach Dream