We often say that raising children to prevent the elderly, but the raising of sons is not necessarily able to provide for their own pension, especially in today's social pressure, children need to work, if you take care of the elderly at home, often can not live, in this case, nursing homes are also the last choice of the elderly.
Many elderly people do not like to go to nursing homes, they think that the outside is not as good as their own home, but people seem to have freedom in old age, but they cannot choose their own lives, especially families with poor mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relations, the elderly will often fall into the fate of nursing homes.
Before Chen Ling married into her in-laws' family, she heard that her mother-in-law was a particularly picky person, and she tried her best to do her part and strive not to let her mother-in-law pick out the problems, but the mother-in-law still did not forgive.
The mother-in-law let Chen Ling cook, but she hated Chen Ling for cooking unpalatable, directly poured the rice into the garbage can, wasted food not to say, and would go around publicizing Chen Ling's filial piety, adding oil and vinegar to count Chen Ling's shortcomings, resulting in Chen Ling becoming a joke of neighbors.
Later, Chen Ling bought a house outside and moved out, thinking that she had escaped the control of her mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law began to provoke from it, she told Wang Peng that Chen Ling was dating other men outside, which caused Wang Peng to beat Chen Ling violently.
Later, Chen Ling gave birth to a son, and the mother-in-law was able to restrain herself, but she would still come to Chen Ling's house every three or five minutes to pick things up, knowing that the mother-in-law was not good, Chen Ling was no longer polite, and every time the mother-in-law was picky, she could be scared back by Chen Ling.
The mother-in-law hated Chen Ling for not cleaning up the house, and Chen Ling said, I am busy at work, and the housework will be left to you in the future! Chen Ling habitually buys expensive cosmetics, but her mother-in-law always says nagging, Chen Ling asked incomprehensibly, am I spending your money? Since then, the mother-in-law has gradually stopped caring about Chen Ling.
However, Chen Ling and her mother-in-law had already formed a beam, and the mother-in-law was older, and her legs and feet were not flexible, so Chen Ling laughed and said, Are you lame, and the mother-in-law stared at Chen Ling twice and did not say anything.
After a while, the mother-in-law was paralyzed and hospitalized, and someone had to take care of it, Wang Peng took a leave of absence to take care of it for a month, but life still had to go on, Wang Peng thought of hiring a nanny, but the salary was low and he couldn't find anyone, the salary was high, and he couldn't afford it.
In desperation, Chen Ling proposed to send her mother-in-law to a nursing home, at first Wang Peng was hesitant, but with the increase of life pressure, Wang Peng also agreed to Chen Ling's proposal and chose a nursing home with good conditions for her mother-in-law.
When the mother-in-law learned that she was going to a nursing home, she said to Chen Ling with grievances: "Daughter-in-law, I don't want to go to the nursing home!" "Your son agreed, you didn't have a choice!" Chen Ling said breathlessly, she remembered the way her mother-in-law had treated herself and was particularly angry. In this way, the mother-in-law was sent to a nursing home, although she was reluctant in her heart, but in the end she could not decide whether to stay.
In fact, young people are under pressure, and sending the elderly to a nursing home is also a helpless choice. However, if the mother-in-law can have a good relationship with the daughter-in-law, the daughter-in-law will inevitably have a heart with the mother-in-law in the future, even if the mother-in-law is uncomfortable, the daughter-in-law will inevitably be sincere, but once the relationship is frozen, then the mother-in-law's pension does not expect the daughter-in-law, after all, there is no blood relationship, and sending to the nursing home is already the end of benevolence.