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Some people who love to say it may not have a good result, but if they don't say it, there will definitely not be a good result.
Because, there is still a chance to say it, and if you don't say it, you don't even have a chance.
Many people are like this, obviously loving each other in their hearts but unwilling to say, thinking that the other party does not love themselves, and do not know that the other party loves you as much as you.
It was originally a good relationship, but it was missed because of the common silence.
Like a person, only by saying it, can you be ashamed.
Because, the worst result is that he doesn't like you, even if he doesn't like you, at least you know the result, and you won't continue to waste time for this relationship.
If you don't say it, you are not sure whether the other party will like it, in addition to torturing yourself, you may also lose a new relationship.
Recently, I watched "The Man Who Stole the Shadow" and have a deeper understanding of this.
The main line of the novel is simple, telling the story of a thin boy who is always bullied by his classmates, and because he has a special ability, he is strong, he can steal other people's shadows and spy on other people's hearts.
Compared with these, I would like to say a regretful love, if the little boy takes the initiative, the result is not the same.
01: Since you like it, please be bold and say it
For those we like, let's look at how the little boy in "The Shadow Thief" does it.
Because of his fear and inferiority, he did not dare to face up to his inner thoughts, and eventually lost this relationship.
The little boy in the novel is divorced by his parents, lacks his father's love since he was a child, has a particularly inferior personality, buries everything in his heart, and is unwilling to communicate with others.
In his sixth grade, he had to transfer for various reasons.
At that time, he was the youngest in the class and the weakest in physique, because he was very weak, and he naturally became the target of bullying by his other classmates.
In this way, he was careful in his class, and there was a student named Marg, because he liked the little boy at the same time, a girl named Elizabeth, so he often bullied him.
In the face of Mag's bullying, the little boy did not fight back, but chose to endure in silence.
Although he especially liked Elizabeth in his heart, he was inferior in his bones, felt that he was not worthy at all, he buried this love in his heart, and never dared to talk to the other party.
Because of this, Elizabeth later chose the brave Mag, and although the little boy felt that he was not bitter, he could only accept this reality, and he knew that he was not worthy to be with Elizabeth at all.
The little boy was particularly depressed at that time, and in order to alleviate it, he went to the seaside for a summer vacation, where he met a girl named Claire.
Because Claire has a slight autism, and the little boy has low self-esteem, they seem to be the same fallen people, and it is very natural to talk.
Because the little boy has the ability to steal shadows, he inadvertently steals Claire's shadow, and it is at this moment that he understands her inner loneliness.
In order to make Claire happy, the little boy did everything he could, and finally under his influence, Claire gradually became cheerful.
Through a period of time together, the two gradually developed feelings. Claire bravely agreed with the little boy to continue to meet here the following year.
Originally, the little boy also liked Claire's, and he also wanted to come, he was afraid that he was being amorous, so he did not appear in the second year and even many years after that.
In this way, because of the inferiority of the heart, because I dare not say, I missed a relationship that was already happy, because I did not dare to expect something, so I would not take it seriously, and this is exactly true.
Imagine if the little boy could express his thoughts at that time, would he still have this regret?
Naturally not, but he didn't, and the final result could only be missed.
In fact, many times it is true that if we face the person we like, we do not have the courage to express our love to them, and in the end we are just touching ourselves.
Because no one in this world will ever stand where you are.
02: Knowing the result is better than secretly loving
Whether it is film and television dramas, or life, many people are afraid to say it in the face of people they like.
They feel that as long as they don't say it, they can get along with each other as well as their friends, and if they do, they may not even be friends.
A lot of people think that this is right, but it is actually wrong.
When you are truly in love with a person, in your heart, you will not regard the other party as a friend, you will always consciously or unconsciously regard the other party as a lover.
Having an idea about him, as long as it is not spoken, will always torment you.
To put it simply, the other party in his heart will not regard him as a friend, rather than torturing himself like this, it is better to say it.
Her friend Ardor had a crush on a boy for 2 years, during which she suffered a lot, and finally plucked up the courage to confess to the boy.
When the boys said that they were not suitable for each other, the stone that Ardor pressed in his heart finally landed.
She said to me:
"Although this result is a bit cruel, at least I know one result, and I will not waste time in this area, if you look at it from this point of view, it is a good thing." 」
In fact, when you really like someone, please be bold and say it, even if the result is not as you wish, but it is better than secretly loving.
Some people say that when they fall in love with someone, they will silently guard each other for a lifetime.
I don't deny that the key to the greatness of such love is that you can do it?
Love is "exclusive", do you want to see your beloved person being taken into the arms of others?
If you say yes, then I didn't say it.
Of course, saying this does not mean that unilateral love is OK, love is always mutual, no matter how much you love, as long as the other party does not love, it is unrealistic.
So, instead of torturing each other, it's better to leave decisively.
03: Unspeakable love, often missed, is missed
I once watched a movie in which the male and female protagonists are young plum bamboo horses who grew up together, and they have feelings for each other, but because of the changes in the families of both sides, they have no choice but to separate.
Later, they met in college, but even if the two people had feelings for each other, they were unwilling to take the initiative to open their mouths.
Because they were afraid that once they said it, two people wouldn't even be friends.
In this way, after graduating from college, the two people went to work in different cities, and when they met again, they had their own families.
Once, when they attended a class reunion, they talked about their childhood, and they realized that they liked each other, but only because they were afraid, they did not confess to each other.
In fact, whether it is their parents or their mutual friends, they can see that they are in love, but they do not have the courage to say loudly to each other and like each other.
In this way, the two people who originally had the deep friendship of the green plum bamboo horse were missed.
Love a person, please be sure to grasp well, no matter what the result is, you do not say, the other party does not guess, then the final result is missed.
And this miss will often be a lifetime.
Since love, you have to express it, the big deal is to face a worst result, but if you don't say it, after seeing the other party have a partner, you will regret it no longer.
Zhang Xiaoxian once said that the farthest distance in the world is not to be in a different place, but I am standing in front of you, but you do not know that I love you.
What a pity, in order to avoid this regret, please be brave.
Maybe your confession will be rejected, but what if the other party also likes you?
In the days to come, I hope that when you meet a loved one, you can boldly say it, and don't say it because of inferiority or other reasons.
Otherwise it will only make you more miserable for yourself.
About the author: Su Xiaobei, young writer, marriage counselor. Hope to use simple words to warm your heart.