Many children are prone to crying when their emotions are not satisfied, which makes parents fall into distress: coax it, it seems that the more coaxing sometimes the more fierce the crying; Don't coax it, then cry even more fiercely... It seems tricky to deal with it. Xiaobian has a few suggestions, children crying should be divided into situations, there are unreasonable places to correct in time, if there is indeed a reason, then you should be the first time to calm the child's emotions. In short, the child's emotional management is poor, and the parents should distinguish between different situations. The following are some of the more feasible methods that parents can treat according to their children's situation and specific situations.
First, the method of emotional attribution
First of all, any emotion has a reason for their existence, when the child cries, parents should see the cause behind the phenomenon of crying, should not feel that the child's emotional management is poor, resigned, in order to let the child stop crying and should meet their requirements is not advisable.
For example, the child may be hungry, or feel cold, or it may be because of the need for comfort. Then, in the face of different reasons, parents should have different ways of coping. If you are hungry, you should feed your baby something to eat, when it is cold, you should help them get dressed more, and if you want to comfort them, you should use language to express your parents' concern in time.
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2. Reasonable counseling method
By attributing the child's emotions and understanding the reason for the child's crying, parents should respond to it. Emotions are allowed to pile up in the mind without guidance, and it is easy to have psychologically related symptoms. Therefore, after understanding the relevant situation of the child, the first parent must convey a signal to the child through language comfort, hugs, etc.: Parents know that you may not be very happy in your heart, but we are all with you, and Parents will always be a harbor you can rely on.
After attributing the cause of the child's crying, if the child cries for an inconspicuous reason such as the need for parental companionship or comfort, the parents should give the baby a hug even if they are busy, pass him a parent to understand what you mean, and come to accompany him later. If the child has other needs, such as wanting to go out or play with a small partner, then the parent should make an appointment with the child to feel that his needs are heard and understood, and can be realized in the near future. In short, for the different situations of the baby crying, parents should listen and guide in time, and do not let the child have the idea of being "ignored".
Third, encourage children to speak their minds
Behavioral motivation is a positive motivation in psychology, in other words, the object or individual being motivated will psychologically obtain a sense of satisfaction and pleasure that is affirmed. When dissuading a crying child, try the behavioral incentive method. However, this different traditional cognition of "well, the baby does not cry, the mother buys you sugar to eat", the difference between the two is that the traditional persuasion effect is generally single-time, and when the child is emotionally unstable, he remembers that "as long as I cry, there will be sugar to eat". It treats the symptoms rather than the root cause, so behavioral motivation is to improve the child's emotional mismanagement by correcting the child's cognition.
For example, the next time your child cries for no reason, seriously tell your child that you have to tell your parents how unhappy you are, and your parents can help you solve it together. As long as you are brave enough to speak up, we will patiently listen to your ideas.
Children can understand from this gentle encouragement that crying is not right, and that it is encouraged to speak their hearts. Encouragement is actually not mysterious in the end, it is more necessary for parents to guide the situation when the child's emotional management is biased, to help the child's growth path more smoothly.
In short, there is an important link between the child's emotional management and the guidance of mom and dad. Everyone hopes that the child can become a person with good emotional management, so it requires parents to start from small things and find the signs of children's emotions in a timely manner. If the phenomenon of the child's emotional loss of control has occurred, then it is necessary to carefully understand the source of the child's emotions. When children have emotional problems, they always need comfort from their parents at the first time, which stems from their natural trust in their parents. Therefore, maintaining a harmonious parent-child relationship can also effectively improve the child's emotional problems, which requires more communication between parents and children and a full understanding.