Every time I talk to parents, there are always some parents who host students who have reported these situations:
Children like to use crying and playing to achieve their own goals;
If something does not go well, the child will collapse and lose his temper;
Cloudy and uncertain, the nest is out of the door, and people do not say hello when they see them;
Always worried about whether the child will be able to make friends...
I even once suspected that the child became like this, was he really used to it? But when I think about it, I usually don't seem to be used to children!
In fact, after being exposed to the education industry for so long, I have gradually realized that children are also independent individuals, and they will have negative emotions like adults. As parents, we must not only love the warm and lovely side of our children, but also learn to accept their children's bad emotions.
Both good emotions and bad emotions are perfectly normal existences.
Our custodial campus has a course called the "Non-Intellectual Development Course", which talks about how to teach children emotional management and will give specific solutions - to turn negative emotions into "positive energy". Let the children know that each of our emotions is not always the same, but is always changing: positive emotions may become bad emotions, and bad emotions can be overcome to make ourselves positive!
Everyone knows to pay attention to the child's emotional management, but when it is implemented, it is only felt that the child's emotions are metaphysical. In fact, it's not that hard. Emotion management emphasizes the three-step approach of emotion management: cognition- expression - response.
We will import it in the form of a story or a game, and then under different emotions, what kind of two opposing emotions will be generated, and what kind of physiological reaction each emotion will cause you, take the child into a pair of seats.
First let the child understand the emotions, and then express the emotions, in order to say the feelings and needs in the heart, parents can guide the children to deal with their own bad moods.
In life, children are indeed prone to glass hearts. Thinking that parents are busy at work and have less time to accompany, I feel that my parents do not love me anymore, and I begin to do things like nature and disobedience... Tell this story to your child. Tell your child that the feeling of mom and dad when they are with you is love and happiness. When we can't accompany you, love won't disappear, but will give you strength to overcome pessimism and unhappiness.
A little thing will make the child "explode", and in the same way, the child's happiness is also very simple.
For example, in the emotional management class of "Happiness and Sadness", we will guide children to recall the things that make them happiest and saddest first. How to remember happy times, a happy memory, may help children to relieve ten bad emotions.
Only by knowing the emotions can you understand yourself, realize what kind of state your emotions are in, and when children begin to understand the emotional experiences they have, they will no longer be so resistant.
And tell the child that in a certain situation, happiness may become sadness, and sadness may also become happiness.
Negative emotion elves, like the real emotions in the child's heart at this moment, are bold and outward expressions; positive emotions are good guidance, and they are the character we should guide the child to develop!