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In the current severe anti-epidemic situation of "Shanghai", home learning, online office, accompanying "mythical beasts", taking care of families, and nucleic acid testing have become the norm of parents' lives, and in the face of difficult work, housework and education problems, the pressure and anxiety carried by parents have become the focus of attention.
In the face of working from home, how can parents balance work and "mythical beasts", so as to harmoniously communicate parent-child relationship while working with peace of mind, soothe anxiety, and spend the anti-epidemic time at home smoothly and safely? A few days ago, Jiang Yun, a teacher at Shanghai Open University, a national second-level psychological counselor, and a member of the Family Education Professional Committee of the Shanghai Lifelong Education Research Association, shared with parents the methods of emotional and stress management under the epidemic through the online class of Shanghai Parent School, and a total of 62,000 people watched online that night.
The results of Fortune magazine's survey of the working status of 1576 executives showed that 42% of the work pressure was extremely stressful, and psychological fatigue accounted for 62%. During the work from home period, due to various factors such as life and family, the degree of work stress and psychological fatigue is likely to be higher, which will trigger anxiety and increase psychological stress.
Jiang Yun believes that a certain level of anxiety is useful and desirable, even necessary, and excessive anxiety needs to be adjusted. If you want to adjust your emotions and alleviate anxiety, you must first self-evaluate your emotions, and provide an authoritative professional anxiety self-assessment scale to help you assess the degree of emotional anxiety.
In Jiang Yun's view, in the context of the current "VUCA era" (Volatility is volatile, Uncertainty is uncertain, Complexity is complex, Ambiguity is blurred), working at home and accompanying the "god beast" has brought great difficulties to home life, changed our cognition of normal life, and when people and things change in a complex and uncertain direction, the original comfortable and orderly living state may become annoying and anxious, and even have a feeling of emotional collapse Psychological stress also increases sharply, and excessive negative emotions and psychological stress are not conducive to physical health. Only by adjusting emotions can we alleviate stress and anxiety, and achieve a normal state of balance and comfort between work and life.
So what is the wisdom to adjust to anxiety and relieve work stress during work from home? Jiang Yun shared the methods of goal management and anxiety resolution, helping parents balance the relationship between work and "divine beasts" and helping to work from home without anxiety.
During the period of children's home learning, parents transform from the auxiliary of school education to the "family teacher" to become the main body of children's home education, not only to take care of their own work, but also to assume the responsibility of family life. From a single goal of simply completing work to a multiple goal of undertaking work tasks, family life, and accompanying children, parents are physically and mentally exhausted in the face of such a situation, and anxiety and psychological pressure quickly spread.
After helping parents understand their emotional state, Jiang Yun also provided 10 tips such as being a consultant parent, improving children's self-discipline ability, targeted praise and encouragement, and reasonably correcting children's bad behavior, helping parents to accompany their children more warmly and communicate smoother with parents and children.
She believes that when parents work from home and accompany their children to study, if they find that their emotions and mentality cannot be well controlled and adjusted, they can try to help the body produce more oxytocin by hugging their families, being close to their pets, self-massage, laughing, etc., so that the body and mind feel happy. Usually, through scientific breathing, muscle relaxation, mindfulness meditation and other ways to help the body produce dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, endorphin hormones, feel happy and happy in the spirit, thereby enhancing the warmth and harmony of family and parent-child relationship.