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Those who love to go out love to return, and those who are blessed to come are blessed. All the blessings of life must be the accumulation of love and kindness, when you are young, you only care about your own pleasure, do not accumulate love for yourself, do not accumulate blessings for yourself, and when you are old, how can you live a happy and comfortable life.
This is a reason to save money and withdraw money, when you need money, only if you have money in the card, you can withdraw the money, otherwise where does the money come from?
I remember a sentence that my grandmother said: "When you are young, you don't suffer hardships, and when you are old, you have no hope." ”
Hope is not necessarily a material guarantee, but also a life and spiritual hope; suffering is temporarily understood as the suffering of taking responsibility, the suffering of trivial labor, the suffering of running a marriage. Thinking both well and cleverly, this is an impossible thing, there is no good thing in the world that is sweet at both ends.
I also remember my friend's advice: "Life is either to suffer first and then enjoy happiness; or to enjoy happiness first and then suffer hardship." ”
First suffer, eat the suffering of the moment, enjoy the blessings of the first life; first enjoy the blessings, enjoy the blessings of the moment, and eat the sufferings of the first life. This is the law, the law, the iron law, don't fantasize that you are the exception, it will be special. If you love others, you may not be able to exchange the love of others, but if you do not love others, you must not be able to exchange the love of others.
I agree with a quote from Marquez:
"She was overjoyed to discover that people love children not because they are their own children, but because of the camaraderie that comes with parenting."
In the parent-child relationship, the most special, precious and profound feelings are not entirely cultivated by innate blood relations, but more are produced in the nurturing of the day after tomorrow. Parents to children, children to parents, are the same, to escape the responsibility of parenting, there can be no accumulation of love.
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What does a truly desolate life look like in old age? Many people immediately think of having no money, living in embarrassment, living in humility, and living helplessly. In fact, the real bleak life is enough to be summed up in eight words: children are not close, husband and wife are not close. So there is not even a spiritual hope.
There is a very typical example around me, my little father.
Fa Xiao's growth process is very bumpy, probably when he was in elementary school, his father made a trace, but the care for him was almost nothing, but immediately had an affair, and then formed a family outside, leaving only the family's old house to Fa Xiao, and since then he has been dependent on his mother for his life.
It may be because the father of Fa Xiao did not think of danger in peace, and when he had money, he was the kind of generosity and profligacy that people could not imagine, followed by a large group of friends. So after middle age, I almost lived a poor life, and the home outside was broken.
Only at this time did Fa Xiao's father repent of his mistake and hope to return to this home, begging his family to give him a chance.
This opportunity, the family also gave him, but people can barely their own feelings, do not have that special emotion, can not pretend, it is very strange. In addition, Fa Xiao has become a family, the inner emotional world has been formed, there is no place to cultivate, and after Fa Xiao has his own family, the intersection with his father in life is also less.
Later, the mother wanted to go over to send a small belt to take the child to cook, leaving the father alone in the hometown, lonely every day, walking the neighbors, seeing the neighbors a big family happy and harmonious, more redundant.
So this kind of life is more like a kind of mental torture, when a person has no hope, life is meaningless.
Yes, the happiness of life is not given by children, but when it comes to the kind of days when children and grandchildren are full of halls and happy knees, the inner happiness is so strong and real, irreplaceable. Even if it is only two people who are accompanied by husband and wife, it also greatly alleviates the barrenness of the spiritual world.
When you are young, you desperately pursue material things and covet pleasures, and perhaps only when you are old do you understand that spiritual nourishment is a truly happy life. Otherwise, a person facing an empty room, there will be no other sound except the sound he makes, and his heart will panic, and Mr. Spirit will die one step at a time.
Then there will be a desire that in this home, in addition to one's own voice, even if it is only to hear the voice of another person, it is good and satisfying. In addition to your own figure, you can also see another figure, at least you need to live a life, not a lifeless.
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When he was young, he was irresponsible to the family, did not care about family affairs, and had no companionship for adults and children, and he was messing around with fox friends all day. Even every time he comes home, he is either arrogant or angry, never fulfilling his responsibility as a husband and a father, how can he be loved.
Therefore, there is a kind of man who will live a very bleak life in his old age, don't believe it. The path of life is all chosen by oneself, one chooses one kind of life.
Maybe you are young and friends, even if you leave the family, life is just as colorful. But can people always be young? Have you always had friends to accompany you? At a certain age, people begin to live around the family, everyone is the same, only the family is the focus of life.
The sooner you understand this truth, the greater the benefit to your life, which means that the harm caused to the family is small, and it can be made up for.
Young couples are old companions, not husband and wife when they are young, as long as they do not divorce, they will naturally accompany each other when they are old. Companionship is spiritual nourishment, concern, care, communication, not living together in harmony. Therefore, when you are young, you must cultivate a deep and determined feeling to support the companionship of your later life.
Men must not be confused, and do not live too selfishly, maybe they will live very easily and dashingly at that time, but what about later? Have you ever thought about the way forward? Life is very short and long, be a responsible person, take the responsibility that should be borne, pay the pay, and later live happily. Anyone who lives today and does not consider tomorrow at all, the road of life is often narrower and narrower, and it is more and more difficult to go.
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