Schopenhauer said: "Marriage means dividing personal rights equally and assuming double obligations." ”
However, in life, there are always some people who enjoy the rights and interests of marriage while not willing to assume the responsibilities and obligations of marriage.
In a happy marriage, the most inseparable thing is the fidelity between husband and wife. Only by being faithful can marriage develop steadily. Once there is a betrayal between husband and wife, it means that the marriage is already in decline.
If in marriage, even this obligation is not willing to bear, it can only show that the person is too greedy.
Once a woman enters marriage, it is easy to lose herself, give everything for marriage, and even willingly suffer grievances. Women's quest for perfection is only to keep their marriage and their own small family.
It's just that women ignore that the more cowardly you are on the issue of principle, the more unscrupulous men are, regardless of your feelings.
In particular, there are some men who, even if they have other women out there, will not reject their wives when they come home, and it seems that in him, those unbearable things have not happened.
In our opinion, if a man betrays his wife, he must be tired of his married life, even if he does not want to divorce for a while, at least his attitude towards his wife will change greatly.
Why do some men in their marriages, even if they have other women out there, come home and not reject their wives? In fact, the reason is very simple, because they are very greedy.
01 Covet the fresh excitement outside of marriage, but are reluctant to give up a stable married life.
The reason why some married men develop feelings outside of marriage is not because they do not love their wives, but because they feel that there is no freshness in married life and want to pursue some fresh stimulation outside of marriage. When they encounter such an opportunity, it is difficult to control themselves.
Just like Xu Huanshan in "Thirty Only", it is obvious that he has a very good wife, and he has always loved his wife. However, after encountering the young Lin You, Xu Huanshan finally failed to resist this temptation and betrayed his marriage.
But even if he betrayed the marriage, in front of Gu Jia, his attitude did not change much, but he was as good as ever to Gu Jia.
If Xu Huanshan could control himself, he would certainly not betray the marriage. This betrayal is also enough to explain his greed, wanting to have a happy and stable family, but wanting to enjoy this freshness outside of marriage.
The more greedy a man is, the easier it is to lose what he already has. Xu Huanshan's greed made him lose his marriage and career, which can also be regarded as a great price.
Although this is only the plot of the TV series, it is also a wake-up call to remember to cherish the happiness we have and not lose everything because of our greed.
02 Even if you betray the marriage, you still want to leave a "good husband" image.
Men are very face-loving, even if they have done some unbearable things behind their backs, but in front of outsiders, they still want to maintain their own image and save their own face.
After the marriage reaches a certain stage, the husband and wife have been getting along for a long time, and they know each other well enough, naturally there is no freshness and passion in the past.
If you can accept this blandness calmly, life is actually quite happy. After all, after decades of marriage, it is impossible to be in the stage of hot love all the time.
However, some men are not willing to be so bland, feel that marriage is boring, and they can't withstand the temptation of the outside. As long as you meet the right person, you can easily betray the marriage.
However, they know that betrayal is a wrong thing, but they are not willing to correct this mistake, but they try to maintain their image.
It is precisely because of this mentality that when they return home, they will pretend to be nice to their wives. At least in the eyes of others, he is a qualified husband, a very family-oriented man.
The more greedy a man is, the easier it is to show flaws. If you want too many things, sooner or later you will be exposed.
03 Greedy for profits, afraid of being betrayed by his wife, thus harming his own interests.
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "Love, if you don't let the other party see the most beautiful side of you, is the ugliest side; and marriage, but let the other party see the most real side of you." ”
Although talking about money in front of love will be considered a very tacky thing. But when two people enter into marriage, there will be a lot of interest-related issues. If the marriage has been developing steadily, the husband and wife will naturally not consider the gains and losses of interests.
On the contrary, if the marriage reaches a precarious point, the couple is bound to talk about something related to interests. This is also the most authentic side of marriage, the relationship between husband and wife involves interests, and feelings become less worth mentioning.
After a man betrays his marriage, the first thing that comes to mind is his own interests. If the wife finds out about their betrayal, it will naturally harm his interests, and this is the last thing a man wants to see.
Therefore, even if they change their hearts, at home, they still do not reject their wives, for fear that they will find out about their betrayal.
If men want to protect their own interests, don't be too greedy, and don't think that others are stupid and can always be calculated by you.
Romain Rolland said, "You don't have to force love, you have to be responsible for marriage." ”
The happiness of marriage does not lie entirely in love, but also in the stability and durability of marriage. Since you have a stable and happy family, don't be greedy for the outside world, let alone be so greedy in front of anything that benefits you.
The more greedy a person is, the more difficult it is to attain happiness, and in the end he will lose everything. On the contrary, those who know how to cherish what they have and can be firm in their choices have a much more relaxed life.