The post-90s generation who are not married have successively embarked on the road of blind dates.
When it comes to blind dates, many young people will feel scornful, how incompetent are we, and need to be reduced to blind dates to solve marriage matters? And whenever an enthusiastic person wants to help introduce, they will immediately refuse.
In fact, isn't the reason they're single precisely because of their inner ego? Always looking for perfect love, but suffering from his narrow social circle can not contact his ideal type, vicious circle.
The post-90s blind date group is a problem with the concept of love
In family education, the correct concept of marriage education is missing
In the 2-year-old baby, there is a sensitive period of roles, that is, the beginning of the cognition and understanding of different roles, and the most favorite game for babies at this stage is to live at home, you are a father, I am a mother.
Both baby boys and girls go through this process. When this stage has passed, they will naturally lose interest in the game.
However, the experience accumulated in this process is crucial to the formation of a future view of marriage. If the parents discourage the baby from playing role play, or if one of the family members is not at home for many years, it will make the baby not get some aspect of strengthening, thus diluting the role of this role.
The marital happiness index of parents directly affects the child's future choices
If a baby grows up in an unhappy family, extreme behaviors continue to occur, or often fight, or there is no communication at all, it will leave a shadow in the baby's heart.
They will even look for the other half according to the way their parents look. Some complexes with very serious complexes will also be referred to as Oedipal or Oedipus. These problems will be reduced to psychological problems.
In this way, childhood encounters and the influence of the original family will make great changes in the baby's future. The most direct manifestation is nothing more than unmarried or fear of marriage. If it is not serious, it is just to find the right person to marry through blind dates.
Post-90s blind dates have added "new standards", and the choice of only child or non-only child has become an important factor
But all those who choose to find a partner in this way of blind dates are already people who have given up love in their hearts, or they are either the sea kings who have read countless people, or the idealism that has been immersed in their own world.
They don't pin their hopes on blind dates at all, as to why they agreed to participate in blind dates, it is just to find a suitable partner for marriage, to cope with errands, and to fulfill the dreams of their parents and elders.
Therefore, their final stubbornness is to ask the blind date about certain conditions, which seem to touch the bottom line, but they are crucial, such as whether they are only children or non-only children.
Girls who have a younger brother are "brother demons"
At the time of marriage, the woman needs to spend much less than the man, who has to prepare the house, the car, the bride price, and even the money for the banquet. Zero and zero are always together, at least a few million.
Although the woman needs dowry money, she will not ask for anything to give more to the young in-laws. After all, the in-laws value the daughter-in-law, not the daughter-in-law's family. As long as the two little ones love each other, nothing else matters.
But if the woman still has a younger brother in the family, it is very stressful for the sister. First of all, the sister's bride price will definitely become the bride price for the younger brother's future wife.
The second is the sister's relief to the younger brother in daily life. If the younger brother becomes a tool, the cost of the sister will not be very much, and if the younger brother is not angry, then the sister will suffer.
After all, blood is thicker than water, parents are old, can not continue to support their younger brothers, the eldest sister such as mother will have to assume the so-called responsibility. Only the fierce brother, there will never be a cruel sister!
Brothers and sisters are not necessarily blessings
When parents give birth to children in that year, the purpose of giving birth to two children must be to let the brothers and sisters have a help, and when the parents are not around, they can also discuss with each other and support each other.
Even when the parents are old and need to be taken care of all day, the brothers can fight each other to fight the shift, so as not to force a person to the end of the road. This long-term consideration of parents is sometimes correct, and sometimes it is also a pit for children.
Because the premise of helping each other must be the same strength, the ability is equal, when encountering problems that the other party cannot solve, they have the ability to provide assistance, if one side is not clear, one side is too strong, it should be called relief.
In this way, multiple children in the family are an inexplicable threat to their blind dates, and it is also a gamble, if the bet is won, it will be prosperous, and if the bet is lost, it will be a lifetime of suffering.
Today's Topic:
If you chose a blind date, would you choose a blind date with siblings?