In fact, the relationship between people is not complicated, the complexity is different human nature, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not much of a headache, but it has become difficult to deal with because there is no sense of boundaries. In short, there are always people on both sides who can't do things clearly.
A lot of things in the mother-in-law relationship are almost enough, the daughter-in-law is the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law is the mother-in-law, can not replace the role of the daughter and the mother, so do not be too strict with each other's requirements. If you can think clearly in your mind, you can avoid the occurrence of many contradictions, and live alone without confusing trivial matters, so that even if the other party has more shortcomings, you do not need to tolerate and understand yourself.
If the contradiction still comes as promised, then I have to say the word greed, hoping to get some benefits from the other party, but I don't want to let other things interfere with my life, I want to get all the goodwill of the other party, and I don't want to tolerate the slightest shortcoming of the other party, but where in the world is there such a beautiful thing?
In fact, there is no shortage of those in life, the mother-in-law treats the daughter-in-law as her own daughter, what kind of emotion is this?
Aunt Zhang's home is always filled with a warm and harmonious atmosphere, so that the former guests can not help but be infected, and even let people take it for granted that a good mother-in-law is just Like Aunt Zhang, for any difficulties of the daughter-in-law, they have an understanding attitude, can help, never stingy, as long as the daughter-in-law opens her mouth to express her love for anything, the mother-in-law will try to be satisfied.
Often can see Aunt Zhang buy chicken legs in the vegetable market, that's because the daughter-in-law especially loves to eat chicken legs, neighbors are spread among the neighbors, Aunt Zhang is as good as her daughter-in-law, always smiling, mother-in-law walking on the street, it seems that the relationship is very harmonious and intimate. Everyone felt that this family was very blessed.
Many times the biological daughter does not receive such treatment. The most rare thing is that Aunt Zhang has never reprimanded and dissatisfied with her daughter-in-law, and everything is tolerated by the attitude of an elder, but for her daughter Aunt Zhang, she is very strict. No regard for face.
When others asked Aunt Zhang, how did she achieve such a competent mother-in-law? Aunt Zhang said this: Daughter-in-law is daughter-in-law, because your son has a relationship with you, so you must distinguish clearly, if you mistake the other party as your own daughter, where does the harmonious mother-in-law relationship come from.
In fact, this sentence is very worthy of deep consideration, the simplest, the daughter and the mother have the deepest content, it is obvious that the words and deeds are very casual, but the daughter-in-law cannot be as tolerant and habitual as the daughter-in-law. So why is Aunt Zhang so good to her daughter-in-law?
This does not have any feelings and emotions, but only for the sake of family harmony, because the harmony with the daughter-in-law is also helping the son to maintain the relationship in the family, if the son's career is busy, it is easy to ignore some factors in the family.
However, in fact, many men have also shifted most of their attention to their careers, so with such a dedication, wouldn't Aunt Zhang feel unfair? In fact, there is hard work, but unfairness is indeed not, although Aunt Zhang's requirements for her daughter are very strict, but the blood thicker than water affection between the two is constant, which is equivalent to not needing a trace of disguise to expose the original most authentic side, so it is impossible to judge some things from Aunt Zhang's attitude towards her daughter.
Many times, what tests us the most is often not the sophistication of people at work, but the relationship handling in family life. Many people are out and about, but the home is a mess. To some extent, it is not realistic to really treat the other party as their own mother and daughter, even if the form can be satisfied, but in essence it cannot be changed.
If you really do it, it may not be a good thing, because at this time the heart will immediately be calculated, the mother-in-law has treated you as her own daughter, then why can't you treat me like your own mother, in fact, such a thought is understandable, because as long as people will compare, but there is no such content between the biological mother and daughter, even if there is a contradiction, it will not be so calculated, because the most fundamentally the other party is their own closest relatives.
summary:
Therefore, it is better to accept this clearly, see the identity of the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law clearly, do their part well, do not raise such a relationship to the level of mother and daughter, do not need to glorify the relationship between mother and daughter-in-law too much, and even for this relationship can not have too high expectations, otherwise anger, unfairness, frustration will easily arise, and the contradiction will follow.