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The family ethics drama "Xiao Min Jia" has been launched online, and this drama not only has Zhou Xun, Huang Lei, Tang Yixin and other people starring, but also Qin Hailu and Han Tongsheng.
Chen Xiaochun said:
Once I get married, I will definitely not divorce, no matter what happens, I will find a way to solve it, so that the marriage can last, even if the other party has an affair, I will only put things on the table to find a way to solve, rather than impulsively divorce.
But are some marriages really worth keeping down again and again?
Especially women, people often have such an attitude toward women who have lost their marriages: "You have been divorced, and when you meet a man who does not dislike you, you will remarry." ”
It seems that once a woman is divorced, she is stained and becomes worthless. In the long-standing concept, divorced women will not be understood, and even once thought that divorce was a woman's fault.
There is also an old saying: it is better to demolish a temple than to destroy a marriage.
So why did they choose divorce, but it was the most correct decision they had ever made in their lives?
01. After Liu Xiaomin's divorce, she struggled to achieve the highlight moment of her life
Liu Xiaomin is the eldest in the family, and her mother, Wang Sumin, gave her a min character from her name, hoping that she would be a woman with a heart.
Liu Xiaomin did not fail Wang Sumin, after she graduated from junior high school, she was admitted to the health school, and then she took the medical examination, and naturally participated in the work, got married, and had children.
Liu Xiaomin became Wang Sumin's pride.
Liu Xiaomin's marriage to Jin Bo was the best choice she could make at that stage.
The order of his parents, the words of the media, Jin Bo is the son of a state-owned enterprise cadre, belonging to the second generation of the enterprise. After graduating from junior high school, he went to work as a soldier, and when he returned, he was assigned to the mining system and worked in the security section.
The in-laws have some strength in the local area, so the son is not motivated, all rely on his parents.
Xiao Min and Jin Bo got married and gave birth to a son, Jin Jiajun, who had thought that her life would be so plain. Who expected Jin Bo to suspect that Liu Xiaomin had cheated on a teacher and made a lot of noise.
There is no such thing, but in the eyes of the Jin family, it is already true, especially Jin Bo.
Liu Xiaomin couldn't bear it, chose to divorce, and resolutely decided to go to Beijing alone to work hard.
Liu Xiaomin worked hard in Beijing for 13 years, she bought a house and had a Beijing hukou.
Liu Xiaomin also has a new relationship, she and Chen Zhuo have been together for a year, and on the anniversary of the exchange, Chen Zhuo is quite romantically prepared.
She lived a very comfortable life after marriage and ushered in the highlight of her life.
When she chose to divorce, it was the most correct decision she had made in her life.
On the one hand, at the time of the divorce, their son Jin Jiajun was only 7 years old, and in order to fight for custody, the ugly face of the Jin family was revealed.
Relying on that strength, they found many people to "testify" and won the custody of the child by improper means.
However, although the custody of his son belongs to Jin Bo, Jin Jiajun still relies on his grandmother, Liu Xiaomin's mother, who grew up next to him. Jin Bo never fulfilled the responsibilities and obligations of a father.
Jin Bo is not an ordinary scum, he is simply a character problem, moral corruption.
On the other hand, after Liu Xiaomin's divorce, she improved her quality of life more than one or two times.
Jin Jiajun came to Beijing, and he wanted to read the "Can Cheng" repeat class.
Jin Jiajun has had a good academic performance since he was a child, and last year's college entrance examination was 2 points worse than that of Tsinghua University.
This time, he must be admitted to Tsinghua University, so he must enter the top class of "can succeed", that is, the rocket class.
However, the cost of the rocket class is not a little high, but a high, 120,000 a year.
Because there are still three months left at the end of the year, Jin Jiajun spent 20,000 yuan to apply for this cram school.
The cost of the 3-month cram school is 20,000 yuan, which is nothing for Liu Xiaomin.
In Liu Xiaojie's words, her sister Liu Xiaomin is the chief nurse of a large hospital, and she can still afford this money, let alone too expensive.
A woman can settle down in Beijing. She not only bought a house, but also had a Beijing hukou, and did not pay attention to the 20,000 yuan 3-month cram school, which is enough to see that her economic strength is strong.
If she does not divorce, her quality of life will not be improved, and the Jinbo family alone will be enough to choke. She will face dark quarrels and sleepless tearing.
02. After Liu Xiaojie divorced, he met his own happiness
Liu Xiaojie can be said to be young and crazy, and when she was still ignorant of love, she married Tong Bing on a whim.
At that time, she was a wild horse that had lost its reins, and her sister and mother advised her to think carefully, and she couldn't hear the donkey hair stuffed in her ears, and she was married.
Her marriage, like a roller coaster, came and went quickly.
After getting married, she found that everything was not at all what she had imagined.
Tong Bing did nothing, played games all day, and felt that Liu Xiaojie went out to work and was not at home with him.
What is more serious is that Tong Bing is a mother treasure man, they have said before marriage that they will not have children so soon, but as soon as they get married, they all change.
Tong Bing's mother has been urging them to have children all day, Tong Bing is a local, their family is always on top, and from time to time a sentence comes: How do you foreigners ... In fact, it is not a giant, but it is full of superiority in its bones.
An unmotivated husband, a family that looks down on her in-laws, she does not have her own sense of superiority.
She has a house and a car, a Beijing hukou, and her work achievements in the publishing house are not small, but she is no better than a local who is idle all day.
She couldn't stand such a life, and she chose to divorce.
After the divorce, it became even more obvious that she had made the right decision.
When they got married, they gave the ring with joy, and now they divorced, and they shamelessly wanted the wedding ring back.
This is disgusting enough, and there are even more tearless people.
They also kept the keys to Liu Xiaojie's house and went to her house to get things when Liu Xiaojie was not at home.
What to take?
In fact, he took a dilapidated desktop computer and Tong Bing's private money hidden under the guidance of his mother.
At this time, she could see the ugly face of their family thoroughly. She also learned that even the rice jar in her home was hiding money.
The little family is really scary. Living with such a person, is there a future at all?
She is so excellent, she can't go on is she can't go on, she can't always deceive herself into covering her ears and stealing bells, and she can't give up a big forest for a small broken tree.
Returning to singlehood, she met the young talent Xu Zheng again, was seriously pursued by the man, took good care of her, reminded her not to drink ice after exercising, and took warm water for her. Every detail is caring, every look is gentle.
Leaving Ma Bao Male Tong Bing was the most correct decision for her. She herself is well-off, why should she aggrieved herself to live with people who don't look up to her and don't put herself in her heart?
03. After Li Ping's divorce, the love career was double harvested
Li Ping is proud and arrogant, has a strong personality, and is bent on breaking out of the sky. Chen Zhuo pays attention to life is that kind of warm little day. Because of the personality incompatibility, coupled with the different pursuit of life. They went from husband and wife back to friends.
Judging by the money they spend, they are not suitable for living together. Li Ping for Chen Jiajia's birthday, that is to spend a lot of money to do a tall party, in order to make her daughter obedient, she bought an artist limited edition to send her.
Chen Zhuo is different, even if Li Ping has money, she is willing to spend a lot of money on Chen Jiajia, but Chen Zhuo will still advise her not to spend money indiscriminately.
She is bound to this marriage, and will only increase her troubles every day, entering a dead cycle, and when the complaints accumulate more and more, both sides will lose.
She is divorced, meets Hong Wei, and just shows her ambition to break through the world in her career.
The value of life has been realized, and her own life is also comfortable, why not enjoy it.
04. Divorced women, not cheap, wrong marriages, be brave to leave
Marriage can't be repeated, for better or worse, and there's no second time. But a woman who loses her marriage does not mean that she has lost her own value.
Not all divorced women see marriage as a lifesaver. It is not the kind of "it is too late to marry someone again", "what is the value of being married twice", "the woman who was abandoned by others" and so on.
They divorce because they have the initiative in marriage, and they need a marriage that is more icing on the cake than to live dependent on marriage.
Divorced does not become the criterion for judging whether a woman is cheap, and a divorced woman will never be "worthless".
We thought it was a pity to leave, but it was quite possible that we had escaped the disaster. A good marriage is when you see the world through one person, and a bad marriage is when you give up the world for one person.
So, if this marriage gets you started sleeping badly, thinking wildly, insecure, and getting grumpy. Then such a miss is actually a relief. Liberation is not only the present, but also the future.
It is not to encourage divorce, but it is really impossible to go on, and the wrong marriage must be brave enough to leave.