Nearly a month later, the TV series "Xiao MinJia", starring Zhou Xun and Huang Lei, finally came to an end.
At the end of the episode,
Xiao Min and Chen Zhuo survived the "life and death disaster" and depended on each other;
Liu Xiaojie and Xu Zheng formally divorced, ending a short marriage hurt by love;
Jin Bo used a lollipop to harvest the love of Aunt Kang;
Jin Jiajun and Chen Jiajia, young teenagers in the sea breeze, kissed the shy girl;
......
"Little Min's House" is like a carefully prepared dish.
The protagonists are the ingredients, and their stories are seasonings, sour, sweet, bitter, and spicy. And we, the audience, are also diners.
They make it with their hearts.
We taste with our hearts.
01. The first way: a good life partner lies in mutual understanding
Sanmao said:
"Knowing that friendship is the norm in life, and being able to speak occasionally, while still gentle in heart, is a good friend."
It is conceivable that between people, it is a rare thing to become a true acquaintance.
This is true of friends, and it is even more true of lovers.
The so-called acquaintance, to put it in layman's terms, is to understand you, understand you, can stand in your perspective and position, feel your people.
Chen Zhuozhi to XiaoMin is such a existence.
In the TV series, the story of Xiao Min and Chen Zhuo begins on the anniversary of the first anniversary of their love.
That day, the two got together to sweetly celebrate the anniversary of love, and by coincidence, Xiaomin's mother came to her with Xiaomin's son.
Like many divorced mothers with children, Xiaomin was not ready to disclose her relationship with Chen Zhuo.
Therefore, in a hurry, she told her mother and son that Chen Zhuo was an online ride-hailing driver and scrawled it.
And this scene also laid the groundwork for Xiaomin and Chen Zhuo to break up with dignity later.
When his son Jiajun was about to take the college entrance examination, Xiaomin and Chen Zhuo proposed to break up:
"Let's both do our own thing first."
This sentence tells how many middle-aged divorced men and women love the dilemma?
Their world is busy.
Two people want to be together, not only to see love and not to love, but also to have a lot of consideration and obstruction.
Just talking about love is really too luxurious.
Xiao Min's concerns, her heart for this, her sacrifice, Chen Zhuo understood, all understood.
He will be sad, he will not be able to hold back tears, and he will also be wronged and agree to separate, at the same time, insist on no longer being friends with Xiao Min:
"I saw on the Internet that if you have been a couple and can still be friends, it means that it is not true love, and we still don't want to be friends."
Love makes people unwilling to be friends.
Love also makes people learn to be perfect and understand.
Of course, in this middle-aged love, it is not only Chen Zhuo who has learned to understand.
After Chen Zhuo and Xiao min reconciled and married, Chen Zhuo ushered in a major disaster in his life, and he suffered from cancer.
For Xiao Min's good, this time the person who proposed to separate became Chen Zhuo.
Unexpectedly, Xiao Min did not agree, she understood what kind of person Chen Zhuo was, and she understood even more that his mouth was duplicitous:
"You have to believe in yourself and get through it."
This disaster survived, except for Chen Zhuo's life.
And his love affair with Xiao Min.
02. The second way: children cannot maintain a surviving marriage
In a loving marriage, the birth of a child is the icing on the cake.
On the contrary, it may become a snag and a constraint.
As mentioned earlier, Xiao Min concealed his love with Chen Zhuo because of his son Jiajun, and later broke up with Chen Zhuo because of this.
In addition, she was also "harassed" by her ex-husband Jin Bo because of Jia Jun.
More than a decade after the divorce, Jin fluctuated the idea of remarrying his ex-wife Liu Xiaomin.
First of all, in order to hide debts, Jin Bo took the quilt and lay in front of Xiao Min's house to "sell misery", hoping to win Xiao Min's sympathy and thus stay in Xiao Min's house.
At first, Xiao min rejected Jin Bo and wanted him to stay in the hotel.
Later, under the pleading of her son, Xiao Min still had no choice but to take in her ex-husband Jin Bo.
This move made Jin Bo thoroughly understand that if he wanted Xiao Min to soften his heart, the key was to look at the child.
Therefore, Jin Bo and his son Jiajun had a showdown, and he told Jiajun:
"Now the situation has changed, you see your mother's relationship with me, I make that meal she loves to eat, your mother is too strong self-esteem, she does not dare to express her true feelings in her heart, I understand, so the repair of my relationship with her, it needs steps." 」
This step is Jia Jun.
Fortunately, Jia Jun is very sensible, and he is really good for his mother.
He did not "kidnap" his mother with his mother's love for himself, as some children do, in order to keep the so-called family together.
He clearly told Dad, who was as important as Mom:
"Don't be blind, my mother has no interest in you at all, you are the original match, but you also belong to the wrong original match, I do not support you."
Men and women who try to regenerate their marriages with their children, they forget that the germ of marriage is love.
And the beginning of love, there are no children.
Children cannot allow the surviving marriage to return to normal breathing.
A child is a child, and he can't do it.
Even if it is done, it is only a temporary illusion.
Don't push the kids.
Don't push yourself.
03. The third way: chasing love, it is not too late
On the opening poster of "Little Minjia", there is such a sentence:
"Marriage can't define our lives, love can."
We all know that "Xiao Min Jia" revolves around the marriage and love of middle-aged people.
And once a person enters middle age, unmarried, married, divorced, can not escape the urging of time.
Unmarried, get married quickly.
Get married, hurry up and have children.
Divorced, hurry up and love again.
Very urgent, really urgent, as soon as I reach middle age, life begins to count down, eager to race against the clock to complete each step, so as not to come to this world in vain.
But, is that really going to be the case?
Xiao Min was too anxious, met Jin Bo, and suffered from marriage.
Xiao Jie was too anxious, and after meeting Tong Bing, she met Xu Zheng again and suffered from marriage twice.
Know that the ultimate partner of life:
Find it faster, it's marriage.
To find it slower is love.
If you're for love, it's not too late at any time.
Liu Xiaojie, who has experienced two flash marriages and flashes, is well aware of this truth.
With the help of Chen Zhuo and Qian Feng, Liu Xiaojie finally divorced her husband Xu Zheng, who was suffering from mental illness.
Many people think that after divorcing Liu Xiaojie, he will definitely be with Qian Feng, who has been standing behind her and silently guarding her.
The truth is that after experiencing these things, Liu Xiaojie finally learned to slow down.
In Liu Xiaojie's heart, Qian Feng is a friend and a relative, but not a lover.
Since they are not lovers, why force them together for the sake of so-called fulfillment?
This is unfair to anyone.
Therefore, after Qian Feng implicitly said that if neither of them could find the other half, they could make up a bit, Liu Xiaojie told Qian Feng in a tone that seemed to be joking:
"It's good that we become relatives, and we can't be separated."
I have to say that this is the best treatment of the whole play.
Qian Feng did not get reluctant love.
Xiao Jie was waiting for the love she wanted.
I believe that in the near future, they will be able to get what they want in parallel time and space.
And before that, they just need to slow down a bit.
Just don't be in too much of a hurry.
04.
When officially bidding farewell to "Xiao Min's Family", Huang Lei said this sentence:
"We are not to be missed at this age, love is precious, but also very important, bless Chen Zhuo, people to middle age, youth is not old."
Whether it is marriage or life, we need to always have a childlike heart and be full of enthusiasm.
As Mu Xin said in "The Feast of Fish Beauty":
"Many people's loss is contrary to their youthful aspirations. I think I am mature, I think I am trained, I think I am shrewd, how naïve I used to be, I finally saw through it and wanted to wear it. Thus we become the kind of people we hated most when we were young. ”
Why do young people always make people yearn for and miss?
Because teenagers always know what they want, they don't forget their original intentions and are not easily changed.
Such teenagers are not teenagers of age, but teenagers of spirit, and they often appear in happy middle-aged marriages.
They are middle-aged and their hearts are juvenile.
Know why you're married.
Know when you should get married.
Know what to hold on to in marriage.
Know what marriages are failing and what to do.
They know:
The outside world is noisy, but they can choose not to listen.
The second half of life.
It's still their home stadium.
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