At the end of the year, the TV series "Xiao MinJia" became a well-deserved hit. Jin Jiajun, who made up his mind to enter the Tsinghua Computer Department in the play, was loved and paid attention to by many people, but his original family brought him great trouble, his father Jin Bo was lazy and lazy every day, and it was liu Xiaomin, his mother who had wronged Jin Jiajun, who cheated on her, which caused her to leave her hometown to work alone, and even the child could not be taken with her. But years later, Jin Bo was even willing to seek Liu Xiaomin's help, and he even used his child to lie by Liu Xiaomin's side. This is not to say, what is even more hateful is that he actually let his son who is close to the college entrance examination help his friends' children with homework to pay off their debts. What kind of father can do such a thing?
In recent years, many film and television dramas have told the problem of the original family, and each problem can always poke at the pain points of many people and stimulate negative emotions. From "Ode to Joy" to "All Is Well", it has sparked a discussion about the original family. But how can we completely change the original family? This will be a huge challenge for all families.
Growing up in a patriarchal family, parents believe that girls should not think about themselves, because in their view, daughters are born to help their sons and give their sons a better life. It is precisely because of this concept that Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy" is getting better and better at work, and can even be independent. His son Fan Shengying achieved nothing, eating lazily and properly nibbling on the old family.
Because his father wronged his mother and cheated on him, Jin Jiajun lacked maternal love from an early age, and finally although he lived with his mother, he did not know how to communicate. On the other hand, because his mother was wrongfully derailed, Jin Jiajun was often excluded when he was a child, and was chased and beaten by other children, which also made Jin Jiajun develop the habit of running and turning his head and looking backwards. This series of problems made Jin Jiajun firmly believe that his mother Liu Xiaomin did not love himself at all, and would not ask others for his own sake. But what he didn't know was that his mother thought about herself everywhere, thought about herself, and put herself first in everything.
Whether it is Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy", or Su Mingyu in "All Is Good", or Jin Jiajun in "Xiao MinJia"... Many children who are injured in their original families can find their own shadow. So, will the impact we receive from our birth family determine our lifetime? I don't think so, it may have more or less an impact on us, but it is too decisive to decide our lives. Because the education we receive from childhood to adulthood comes not only from the original family, but also from the school, but also from the society. As our cognition is renewed, the influence of our original family on us will continue to weaken.
I hope that everyone who is influenced by the original family can do their best to live a new self.