We often say that if you cultivate for a hundred years to cross the same boat, and if you cultivate for a thousand years to sleep together, you can become two people who are husband and wife, which must be a good blessing cultivated in the previous life.
Therefore, in this life, due to fate, it will be able to have the most intimate husband and wife relationship in the world.
This is the inner thought of many people, rubbing shoulders with thousands of people, and finally meeting with the only person who fits, this is not fate and what is it?
However, the marriage thing is actually a product of reason and sensibility, although there is a fate to participate, but in fact, it is more related to some real material.
Psychological research shows that in fact, the people who can become husband and wife in this life are not "fate", but a mutual attraction to each other's intrinsic value.
Who we attract and fall in love with is determined by our own "traits."
Fan Shengmei in the TV series "Ode to Joy" initially only wanted to find a rich man to marry, to be able to buy a house in Shanghai, and to have a place for her to stay.
At this time, all she was thinking about was fishing for a golden turtle son-in-law, so in this trait, she also attracted a mother-in-law like Wang Bochuan, or a stupid boy like Qu Lianjie.
Later, she realized that it was not the obligation of the other party not to put the matter of changing her fate on others, and it was unfair to others.
So she began to concentrate on her career and began to improve herself.
At this time, Fan Shengmei attracted some young and promising people.
There is a law of attraction in psychology, which refers to the fact that when a person's traits are concentrated in a certain field, then people who are similar to this field will be attracted to it.
In layman's terms, what kind of people we are, what kind of people we attract.
In love, the two people who can marry in this life are actually not the arrangement of fate, but under mutual attraction, they can be married.
The two people who are "right at the door" can go to the end
I remember that Cai Kangyong said before in the variety show "Strange Story": "My impression of the door-to-door pair includes my own education class, cultural background, etc. Different family backgrounds, different social circles, the topics exchanged with each other after marriage will be less and less, and finally lead to couples going farther and farther. ”
In real life, there are always some people who have the initial ignorance of love, thinking that as long as two people's feelings love each other, it is enough, and other materials do not need to be taken too seriously.
Until they really enter the relationship, they will find that the original love that is not right at the door is really unable to go to the end.
Just like Liu Wenqin and Enron in the TV series "The Sky of the Wind Dog Boy", the two of them have a huge family background, and the necklace given by Enron to eat at a high-end restaurant is a gift that Liu Wenqin can buy with all his money.
At first, the two people also felt that they had enough to drink, but the more they came later, the more they found that it was really difficult for two people with unequal economic foundations to get along.
Enron's gift to Liu Wenqin was a pair of valuable sneakers, and when he received the gift, Liu Wenqin not only did not feel happy, but felt more pressure.
Because he didn't know how to pay it back, how long to save the money, this time he bought it, what about next time?
Therefore, in the end, Liu Wenqin proposed to break up, because the shrimp in the sea are not the same as the shrimp in the river, and people who are not a world cannot go to the end.
If you want to have a good enough love, the premise is that you are also good enough
The love between Cinderella and the prince is beautiful, but Cinderella is no longer good, she is also from a famous family, and her father is an earl, so she is qualified to participate in the royal ball.
In real life, many people feel that they must find a rich and handsome or white rich beauty to marry in order to change their status quo.
However, when we pick others, we are also weighed by others.
When we are looking forward to a beautiful love, we should also think about what capital we have to match such an excellent love.
The famous host Yang Lan said: "The best marriage is the joint efforts of two people, continuous progress, continuous improvement of themselves, and once again attract each other." ”
And before marriage, the same is true of the best romantic relationships.
We have always been pursuing a satisfactory love, hoping that each other can be soul mates, and we can experience the beauty of each other more easily than others.
In fact, the so-called love we pursue is actually a process of constantly improving ourselves and the other party.
In constantly improving ourselves, we become a good person in our respective fields, parting ways and meeting at the top, and then the two people are attracted to each other again.
Therefore, the love we pursue is such a cyclical process.
In the process of continuous growth, we can enrich ourselves, we can dig out the shining points in each other, and then for the rest of our lives, we keep falling in love with the same person.