In a relationship, if you really fall in love with someone, you will become a gain or loss.
For example, if the other party does not reply to himself in time, he will think wildly, whether he is not doing well enough, or whether the other party does not like himself;
For example, if others say a word to each other, they will involuntarily regard the other party as an imaginary enemy, afraid that one day the person they like will be snatched away by other people of the opposite sex.
Love is like this, and if you get a person, you will be afraid of losing it.
For women, such "symptoms" will only be more than enough, because our way of thinking is based on sensibility, so it is more likely to suffer from gains and losses.
When we deal with feelings, we must also understand that love needs to be dealt with, and it needs to be handled in a reasonable and effective way, so that unnecessary contradictions will not occur.
Psychological research has shown that in these three cases, the man who does not initiate contact with you is actually in love with you.
In the dead of night, when everything is quiet
Qiu Yingying in the TV series "Ode to Joy" talked about a love affair, immersed in sweet love, she felt that she was the happiest person in the world.
However, the authorities are fans, bystanders are Qing, for this relationship, Qiu Yingying is a sweet view, and Fan Shengmei, who is much older than her, is another view.
Guan Ju'er, who is as big as Qiu Yingying, feels that Fan Shengmei is not too targeted at Qiu Yingying's boyfriend, but Fan Shengmei does not feel that she is targeting.
Because as a senior HR, she has seen too many people, so she can judge at a glance whether a person is unreliable or not.
Like Qiu Yingying's boyfriend, every time he sends a message, it is late at night, and during the day, there is no news.
In this regard, Guan Juer believes that the other party is too busy during the day and not busy at night, so there is time to chat.
However, even if a person is busy during the day, it is impossible to have no time to send messages, right?
Moreover, every time he sends a message, it is one or two o'clock in the morning, and under normal circumstances, who would deliberately chat with someone during this time?
When a true gentleman gets along with others, he will not only care about his own feelings, but will also take care of his own feelings while taking care of the feelings of others.
It can be seen that Qiu Yingying's boyfriend is not a gentleman.
Similarly, Qiu Yingying's boyfriend does not love Qiu Yingying.
When he experienced setbacks and tribulations
When we were young, we failed the exams, always hoping that our parents would not blame themselves, and in order not to be beaten, we would even lie and say that the other students in the class did not do well.
Growing up, we still can't change this "lying" problem.
Only this time we learned to report good news and not bad news, experienced bad things, and never took the initiative to tell our parents.
When parents call to ask if they are doing well, they will only "lie" to them that they are all right and do not need their parents to worry about it.
We always tell white lies to those we care about, to our parents, and to our loved ones.
So, in such a situation, when a man has experienced setbacks and experienced tribulations, he will never take the initiative to contact women because he does not want to worry the other party.
The poet Haizi once said: "We came into this world not to be moody for others, not to wrong ourselves for others, but to pick up the white of the inner white of the moon." ”
And the man who loves us has no teacher, and he doesn't need to be taught to understand this truth.
When he is full of negative emotions and a little irrational
Emotions are contagious and contagious.
We are with cheerful people, and before long, we will be infected by the enthusiasm of each other, and we will not become sad;
We are with negative people, and before long, we will be affected by the negative magnetic field of the other person.
Emotional illness is far more terrible than physical illness, and it may not be able to solve it for a while and a half.
And it is precisely because of this that men will not take the initiative to contact the other half when they are in negative emotions.
He worries that because of his own affairs, he will also make the other party unhappy.
If a person is going to do something, then he will always find time and opportunity to complete it;
In the same way, if a person does not want to do anything, he will always find an excuse not to complete it.
We have perceptual thinking, so it is doomed that we will sacrifice more in a relationship, and it is precisely because of this that we need to remain sober and rational.
When dealing with feelings, don't just listen to a person's lips and say how much he loves us, but look at his actual actions.
If a person's so-called love is not expressed by action, then even if he says it out of the blue, even if he has more love in his mouth, it is a lie.
Those so-called busy, those so-called "why are you so ignorant", are just irresponsible, and they are just trying to tell you that you are not so important, that's all.