While chatting with friends, we talked about whether girls need access control. Friends think it's good to let it develop. But I think girls still need access. Access control is a rule and a protection for girls.
Adolescent girls can of course fall in love and be with people they like. But when they are in love, they need to follow the principles set by their parents for them, and they need to go home within the time set by their parents. This is both a restriction and a protection for girls.
The love of youth is full of heat, and young boys and girls can be desperate. But parents need to rationally check for their children, guide children to correctly view adolescent love, rather than let it develop, so that young boys and girls will use young love as hormonal catharsis.
In the face of the problem of children's early love, parents do not need to be overly nervous. Love is nothing more than an emotion that distinguishes it from friendship. Parents properly guide their children to deal with emotional problems is more conducive to children's growth, which can make them less emotionally sharpened on the future life path.
Love is an experience that can make people sad, make people happy, and at the same time make people grow.
When I read the novel "Ode to Joy", I saw Qiu Yingying, who was desperate for love and finally injured all over her body, I had some heartache. Qiu Yingying is a typical girl whose love is supreme. She has never been in love, so when she is in love with The White Supervisor, she only has a theoretical basis, and she believes that she should be honest with her lovers and should be trusted unconditionally. Therefore, not long after interacting with Director Bai, she told Director Bai everything about the family. Because of blindly obeying the so-called trust, when Director Bai secretly helped Qu Xiaoxiu move the company, Director Bai's explanation of three words and two words won Qiu Yingying's understanding.
Qiu Yingying textbookally talks about love, sticks to boyfriends, considerate boyfriends, and makes breakfast for boyfriends... Regardless of the person's personality, it is not worth it. The moment he put on the identity of his boyfriend, he had Qiu Yingying's absolute sincerity.
When Qiu Yingying nakedly held one of her true hearts to Director Bai to Yingqin, they did not return the same sincerity. Qiu Yingying did not care about the man's feedback, and put all her enthusiasm on her boyfriend.
Director Bai just wants to play, and Ying Qin is more concerned about his feelings in his feelings. He leaves when he wants to, and comes back when he wants. And Qiu Yingying always has no principles of her own in her emotions. She had no demands from the other person, as long as people said love, she believed.
Qiu Yingying can be said to be a woman whose love is supreme, she has friends, but she loves the man she likes more. When there is no director Bai, Qiu Yingying can work with Guan Juer, have dinner together, and talk about the difficulty of struggling in the big city.
After having Director Bai, Qiu Yingying became a clingy and considerate girlfriend. Her life, in addition to work, revolves around the white supervisor, and Guan Ju'er's friend is put aside by her.
Qiu Yingying's dedication to love is far greater than friendship, even if she and Guan Ju'er have known each other for a long time, even if they live together under the same roof. What she did for Director Bai was something That Guan Juer had never enjoyed.
In order to become a considerate girlfriend, Qiu Yingying can get up early to make breakfast for Director Bai, and these Guan Juer can't enjoy it. It's not that making breakfast is time-consuming, it's that Guan Juer doesn't deserve it. How can a friend be compared to a boyfriend? How can you enjoy the treatment of a boyfriend?
When Director Bai first texted Qiu Yingying, Guan Ju'er reminded Qiu Yingying to be cautious and decide whether the two people could communicate after seeing director Bai's personality. But at that time, Qiu Yingying was already overwhelmed by joy and could not listen to Guan Ju'er's advice at all.
Later, Qiu Yingying had a conflict with the people of Ode to Joy, and Director Bai asked her to move out and live with her. Qiu Yingying agreed. For Qiu Yingying's hurt from friends, she can remember it clearly. As for the harm given by Director Bai, Qiu Yingying had already prepared an excuse for him in advance.
For Qiu Yingying, there is an essential difference between a friend and a boyfriend. It has nothing to do with the number of years of knowledge, it has nothing to do with the degree of understanding. The boyfriend is favored by Qiu Yingying and is unconditional trust. And friends are just friends. Once a friend has a conflict with her boyfriend, she will not hesitate to choose to believe in her boyfriend and unite with her boyfriend. Whether he's worth it or not, whether friends will be hurt by her choices, her behavior.
Qiu Yingying in love is blind, blindly trusting her boyfriend and blindly entrusting everything to her boyfriend. As long as he said he loved her, she believed him.
After falling in love, Qiu Yingying wholeheartedly revolved around her boyfriend, abandoning her friends and abandoning her past lifestyle. She became someone else and she wanted to be the perfect girlfriend, whether the other person was worth it or not. She trusts each other unconditionally and gives each other her true heart. She had never thought about what she would do if love failed.
So when she knew that Director White was playing with her feelings, when she knew that Director White was a scumbag, she was angry. But she vented all her anger on Qu Xiaoxiu, and she felt that it was Qu Xiaoxiu's temptation and temptation that made Director Bai a scumbag. In Qiu Yingying's view, the problem is not in Director Bai, but in Qu Xiaoxiu. After all, no man can resist the temptation of Qu Goblin, and it is Qu Xiaoxiu who makes Director Bai a scumbag.
Qiu Yingying angrily asked Qu Xiaoxiu to vent the anger in her heart. It was only later that Director Bai's malicious difficulties in the company made Qiu Yingying really see that Supervisor Bai was an evil person, not Qu Xiaoxiu who made him a scumbag, but his nature.
Because I see through, I let go. But in the failed love affair with Director Bai, Qiu Yingying only learned one lesson: that is, women cannot commit themselves to men prematurely, which will make the other party not cherish themselves.
Therefore, when she fell in love with Ying Qin, Qiu Yingying learned to be reserved. Pulling on the little hand, kissing the mouth, she needs to think carefully.
Qiu Yingying learned to be reserved, but also chose to hide her past. Her reservedness and conservatism caused Ying Qin to misunderstand, thinking that she was the virgin she was looking for.
Later, after learning that Qiu Yingying was not a virgin, Ying Qin decisively chose to leave. Qiu Yingying argued that she was afraid of losing him and wanted to explain everything to him at the right opportunity. But what is the right time? Every time YingQin tried, she chose to respond with deception. Why wouldn't she want to tie up Ying Qin when the feelings were deep enough and make him reluctant to break up? I just didn't expect to kill a Qu Xiaoxiu halfway and ruin her good deeds.
The failed love affair with Director Bai allows Qiu Yingying to learn to hide herself properly. The love and marriage with Ying Qin have Qiu Yingying's own calculations.
Qiu Yingying clearly knew that Ying Qin was a more suitable person to marry than Director Bai. Ying Qin has a good job, a house and a car and a deposit, and these white supervisors do not have.
Ying Qin is not as bad as Bai Supervisor, at least when they are together, he cares about his feelings. Therefore, even if Ying Qin resolutely wants to break up with herself, even if she has been wronged and difficult to marry Ying Qin, she is still willing to work hard. After all, men like Ying Qin are not easy to find.
Marriage and love have all kinds of unsatisfactory, so why not find someone who can accept and slightly flawed to marry?
It's just that Qiu Yingying doesn't understand that love and marriage can never rely on one person's compromise to obtain long-term happiness. In marriage, she can play the role of a thoughtful wife. She can resign to meet the needs of the attendance. But when one day she can no longer meet the needs of attendance, what does she rely on to maintain the marriage?
Women should have their own long-term adherence to the principles in love and marriage, and should protect themselves and focus on their own feelings, rather than choosing to find a suitable person to marry. Nor is the other person extra tolerant because he or she bears the title of boyfriend or husband. The more men with titles, the more women should make you take on the responsibilities you should do, rather than modifying your principles step by step in order to make the other party comfortable, and finally making the feelings unrecognizable.