Smart people tend to avoid these five things
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Create Date: 2022-03-2120:57
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When you are young, you will feel that paying is a quality, and you will often do something that looks very touching, but as you get older, you will find that all the efforts are based on living your own life.
Those who ignore the efforts of their own lives often end up living their lives in a mess and will be sad.
For example, the following five things, smart people, tend to avoid.
1. Change your lover's life trajectory
Recently re-brushed the "Shanghai Women's Picture Book", when Haiyan wanted to leave the big company that was difficult to interview for her partner, her boss persuaded her:
Don't change your life plan easily because of others, even if it's a partner.
So Luo Haiyan stayed, worked hard and seriously, and finally realized his dream when he first graduated: I want to become the 10% of Shanghai.
Some people may feel that it is not worth losing love for work, but at a specific stage of life, the foundation of the body is the most important, even if you give up your work to love, then what about after the passion of love fades?
What's more, I personally do not agree with paying too much for love, because if you pay too much, you will ask for something and expect something, then love will inevitably have a rift.
The best feelings are not blindly paying, but going in both directions and achieving each other.
Knowing this, you will not change the trajectory of your life for the sake of your lover.
Of course, if you are already married, it is another story, because the choice after marriage is not only to consider personal development, but also to consider family development.
2. Change your original intentions for your family
There are many people who will give up their original intentions and listen to their family's arrangements at a critical moment in their lives.
Perhaps this arrangement may be the most preferred choice in your life, but it is not the most satisfactory in your heart, because the original intention you gave up has become the white moonlight in your heart, always remembering.
Moreover, the initial desire in a person's heart is often from true love.
The same is true for marriage, if you insist on marrying for love, then don't change your original intentions for the sake of your family, some people are suitable for a romantic relationship after marriage, and some people are unacceptable.
If you are sure that you cannot accept it, do not give up because of a momentary softness of heart.
After all, parents worry about you, not only for a while, but for a lifetime to become their worry-free child, is really filial piety.
3, for the face of no life retreat
For the sake of face, step by step, putting yourself on the fire and roasting it is never something that a smart person will do.
The most important thing in life is self-consistency, when life makes people twist and turn, don't die for face.
In a person's life, only by getting out of those awkward moments can we find an angle that allows you to calm down.
For example, in loving yourself and saving, how to find the right degree.
Some people feel that they have to love themselves well, and then spend a lot of unnecessary money, and as a result, their lives are close to difficulties, and some people make themselves very hard in order to save.
In fact, this is not to leave a way out for life.
Let your life have multiple possibilities, let your heart be self-consistent and calm, this is a good life.
4, do not easily trust strangers
Easy to believe strangers, in fact, many people will make mistakes, such as in TV dramas and life, there are cases of being little three, which is actually easy to believe strangers.
Let's see how Qu Xiaoxiu in "Ode to Joy" does it?
Although she took the initiative, before taking the initiative, she checked Dr. Zhao's character background, which is actually a rare ability.
In the play, we can see that Qu Xiaoxiu likes Dr. Zhao very much, but she is not carried away by love, first of all, to find out what kind of person the other party is.
In reality, we naturally can't do it like Qu Xiaoxiu, but we can take the time to understand.
This is not cold-blooded, but responsible for yourself.
5. Bear the responsibility that should not be taken for righteousness
When you are young, especially boys, you will always take on responsibilities that you shouldn't take for the sake of righteousness, and you seem to be very moralistic.
But in fact, this is a wrong cognition, righteousness is not for the other party to carry the black pot, but with the other party to make progress together, if the other party does wrong, but you cover each other, then this is not good righteousness.
Such righteousness is not worth advocating, because if you bear the punishment that the other party should bear, then for the other party, there will not be enough vigilance.
Moreover, if it is a big mistake and rushes to replace it, it may ruin your own life, and you feel that you are righteous, but why do you want your family to bear it with you