Love is like a game, it seems difficult to maintain an absolute balance, either you pay a little more, or he sacrifices a little more, but the real relationship between two people must be "attraction".
Whether the man in front of you likes you enough determines whether he can tolerate your imperfections, whether he can spend the rest of his life with you, and if there is no attraction and like, then all commitments are empty.
"Men are not bad women do not love", this relationship routine is not only suitable for men, but more suitable for women.
In the TV series "Ode to Joy", Qu Xiaoxiu is a typical "bad" woman, compared to others, she is more like a thorny rose, a bit cynical, and sometimes loved to the bone.
Qu Xiaoxiu is a rich second generation, but there is no culture, Dr. Zhao has excellent academic qualifications, extraordinary conversation, is a typical excellent man.
Qu Xiaoxiu fell in love with Dr. Zhao at first sight, she did not pursue him immediately, but first sent someone to inquire about his background, and after fully understanding Dr. Zhao, she launched a fierce attack on him.
Dr. Zhao had a girlfriend of seven years before, qu Xiaoxiu did not shrink back, she felt that Dr. Zhao had not married her for seven years, it must be two people inappropriate, so she first entered Dr. Zhao's circle.
After the two people became acquainted, she took the initiative to attack and did not skimp on her love at all, so the two fell in love.
Qu Xiaoxiu did not lose her personality because of love, she still lived very real and free.
The client is always more important than her boyfriend in front of the career, and he knows clearly that women should have money themselves at all times, so she is more at ease in love.
In the case of men, if a woman learns 3 "bad points", he will love it.
If you know it well, you will want to indulge
When women and men get along, they should not blindly be passive parties, but take the initiative at the beginning, which is to ask women to know each other more, just like Qu Xiaoxiu inquired about Dr. Zhao's information in advance.
If a woman can get to know the man well at the beginning, then she will know what she should do when she is with the other person.
Only when women know men well, they will really want to indulge, and it is precisely this that will make men addicted and fall into your "trap" step by step.
Women want to be "bad", in the relationship between the sexes do not go to each other's prey, but let the other party willingly become your prey, we know that men's hunting is stronger than women, in the relationship between the sexes, men are like cheetahs, the more he can not chase the prey, the more desperate it runs, which will mobilize men's greater interest and enthusiasm.
Love yourself selfishly
A woman she always chooses to sacrifice herself, fight for love, and willingly give up everything for the sake of the other party, such a woman must be a stupid woman.
Any love is an equivalent exchange, the reason why the other party will choose you, must be because you have some kind of unique value and charm that he likes, just imagine what you do, any woman can replace you, then he will still like you.
Once a woman is blinded by love, then when she dedicates all her time and energy to her lover and always fantasizes about love, the final ending of this woman is often not optimistic, because she will gradually consume the value and charm that belongs to herself.
Women should be more selfish to themselves, you can have a kind heart to treat others, to love each other, but the premise is to always love only yourself.
If you don't start easily, you will decisively say give up
Lin Yutang once said, "It is better to start blindly than to give up decisively." ”
Some women are a bit in love with the brain, and they fall in love with each other in a vague way, because the man is a little good to her, and she will remember it all in her heart.
Even if she finds out when she is together that the other party is not the type she wants, or that he has many flaws, she would rather struggle and struggle in her heart than give up, so throughout the process of love, she feels that she should repay the favor.
The "bad" woman, she understands what she wants, so she will not bend the truth, she will not consume her feelings, nor will she waste her time.
"You are indeed good to me, but I will not be bad to you, and even if you leave, you will not owe each other."
As long as a woman can be a little worse, dare to follow her inner thoughts, instead of pandering to others, real and confident, dare to love and hate, then she will be liked by men.
Most men like to hold women who are wavering in love relationships, in other words, this type of woman is very weak in the eyes of men, on the contrary, when a woman can boldly pursue her own ideas, have bottom lines and principles, and take every feeling seriously, then such a woman will be more attractive to men.
"Bad" is not to make women unkind, but to make women a little more aggressive in their personalities, and it is precisely because of this aggression that the image of women will immediately become plump, and also make women more unique, as Emerson said: "Your kindness must be a little sharp, otherwise it is equal to zero." ”
References: Psychology of Love, Subconscious