The friendship between Luo Haiyan and Manny in the TV series "Shanghai Women's Picture Book" is more and more sad the more she ends up. They, after all, gradually drifted away. The most cruel thing about adult friendship is that the gap between two people is getting bigger and bigger, and the pursuit is getting different and different. There was no goodbye, but it was getting farther and farther away. Today, we're going to talk about Haiyan and Manny's friendship.
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When Luo Haiyan rented a house, the budget was small and the price was low, and her real estate agent did not want to serve her, thinking that there were too many things. He planned to let this Luo Haiyan, the customer, out, and Manny took the initiative to take over. Shanghai, 800 yuan to live in the city center, the environment is even better, it is simply impossible.
Manny took Petrel to her residence at a rent of 1600 for 800 for 1 person, and Petrel was Manny's first client. It can be said that Manny helped Haiyan find a place to live, and Haiyan helped Manny keep her job. Because, if Manny can't find a job, she will be fired.
Two girls who wanted to stay in Shanghai became friends. People who lend a hand in times of difficulty can easily become friends. At that time, they were in the same situation and naturally warmed each other. However, friendship is the same as love, and after being together for a long time, we know whether it is suitable to be friends.
As can be seen from many things, Manny and Haiyan are not the same person. For example, when buying clothes, Haiyan will enter the brand store. And Manny felt expensive at first sight and dragged her to a place where she could discount. Manny thought it was good for Petrel, but it wasn't good for Petrel.
Haiyan and Manny discuss and see her boyfriend's parents for the first time. Manny felt that she could not be too humble, but Haiyan thought she should be positive. To put it bluntly, they are two kinds of people. One contented person is always happy, the other has desires and pursuits. Such two people can be friends, but Manny lacks that sense of proportion and boundary.
One person walking into another person's life is a good relationship and is a true friend. But the other party does not want to enter your life, it is a sense of proportion between friends, and it is the respect you should give to your friends.
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Manny took Haiyan to New Year's Eve, and everyone ate hot pot together. At the dinner table, everyone joked, and Haiyan felt out of place and left early. In fact, their lives have changed.
Manny is in contact with the same people as Manny, and her daily routine is to take people to see the house, rent a house, and sell the house. All she wants is a job, just live. However, Manny was different. She sat in the office building, reaching out to different classes of clients, colleagues who were better than her.
She has Kata by her side, an authentic Shanghainese. For the same thing, the advice Kata gave her was completely different from Manny's. Apparently, she appreciated Kata's approach more. Later, Haiyan, alienated From Manny, took the initiative to enter the circle of life of Kata and Scarlett. Because, they are the same people.
In the face of love, Manny taught her to give is to compromise, and Kata taught her to value herself. Although many things Petrel has no opinion on, will ask friends. However, she and Kata are clearly on the same frequency.
If Manny didn't have a sense of proportion, she led the boy home and forcibly introduced her to the object. When it comes to things like feelings, Kata will give advice, but never interfere. She accompanied Haiyan to meet her boyfriend, saw the hostess come out of the house, said a good solution and left. This is the sense of proportion and boundary as a friend.
If Manny knew that distance produces beauty, she and Haiyan would not have a big fight, nor would they not contact each other for a long time, nor would they drift apart. Being friends is a love, but you can't forget your duty.
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That day, Haiyan refused to get along with the person Manny introduced, and the two quarreled. Their quarrels have accumulated emotional outbursts for a long time, and their contradictions have occurred, but both of them are putting up with it. That's because they care about each other and the friendship. The feelings of cohabitation, the friendship of suffering, cannot be replaced. However, people with different views of the three views are difficult to be friends.
That day, Manny blamed Haiyan for looking down on her and pursuing a life that didn't belong to her. Haiyan thinks that Manny has no pursuit, no ideals. After the quarrel, Haiyan re-found an agent and she moved out.
For a long time, Neither Haiyan nor Manny had contacted each other. Until that day her feelings were frustrated, Manny was also deceived, the two were drunk together, and Manny lived in Haiyan's house. The same situation, more understanding of each other. However, after the incident, the two never asked each other out again.
They would never go shopping together again, eat together, complain together, and Haiyan would never ask Manny again. The friend she drank tea with was Kata, Scarlett. For Haiyan, they are people of the same frequency.
When I was a child, I liked someone, and I didn't like a person, and I always showed it. When you grow up, you won't be so straightforward. However, everyone draws boundaries in their own way, and the distance and proximity are obvious.
Adult friendships do not say goodbye to each other, there is no special friendship, but they will drift apart until one day you will find that you will no longer intersect between you like strangers. It's realistic and brutal, but it's the norm.
Discussion today: How do you see Manny?