In the original work of "Ode to Joy", qiu Yingying can make friends on the 22nd floor in pain as soon as she is in love.
The humble posture displayed in love, after losing it, can not be bothered to cut off, and even give up self-esteem and principles to run to love.
Such confusion directly erases the advantages of innocence and liveliness, enthusiasm and generosity in her personality.
To be honest, Qiu Yingying is really a character that people love and hate!
However, when I read the original work of "Ode to Joy", I thought about a question: Why is Qiu Yingying so "love brain"?
And when I analyzed the causes and consequences of this character's events, this character became much more interesting, and Qiu Yingying's "love brain" is really not so simple!
The betrayal of the white supervisor, the appearance of Ying Qin
Because of Qiu Yingying's own "simple and brainless" personality, she and Director Bai just interacted for a long time, and then she gave up her body and mind.
And when she saw the true face of Director Bai, she immediately hated it, but at this time, she was inferior and desperate, because her upbringing (parents' education) taught her to attribute all the blame to herself, she felt dirty, she felt ashamed, and she felt that no one would want her.
In this life, she is finished!
So, when Ying Qin proposed to break up because she was not a virgin, her first reaction was not anger, not to blame Ying Qin, but to attribute all the mistakes to herself.
Why?
Diligence is so good!
He gave himself warmth at his lowest point, in his most embarrassing stages, he said that he was the cutest girl, he loved himself wholeheartedly, so good, how could he be wrong?
Therefore, Qiu Yingying will only hate herself, hate herself for not having the ability, hate her own promiscuity, hate her own self-love, so she forced Ying Qin to leave (and subconsciously, she also agrees with Ying Qin's accusations against herself).
It's all your fault!
After knowing her psychology, we can discuss why Qiu Yingying, every time she falls in love, she has to choose to fight for herself, moths to put out fires, and deliver her body and mind.
The reason is simple - the conditions of the white supervisor and the attendance!
Director Bai: The company's boss, the salary is higher than his own clerk, and the person is handsome ("handsome" and obscene), can look at himself, really his own luck!
Yingqin: Engineering man, IT staff, high salary and have a house and a car in the sea market, is simple, has no heart and eyes (this, the most able to obey the scourge of the obscene man, and left a psychological shadow of Xiao Qiu), to himself, but also praised himself as a cute girl.
Such good conditions are fatal attractions for Qiu Yingying, who has no talent and no appearance and a small salary (this is not to say that Qiu Yingying is snobbish).
And Qiu Yingying's parents also hope that she can find a man with good conditions to marry, so Qiu Yingying (this, which will be discussed below), who has been educated in the idea of male superiority and female inferiority since childhood, is an iron law and a famous saying.
She can only use all the good and meet all the conditions of the man to keep the man's heart, which may be the shadow left by her parents' mode of getting along.
And this is also the only "magic plan" that can be thought of in her simple personality, so every time she talks about love, she forgets it, fights hard, loses herself, and does not listen to the advice of good words.
As a result, she is more and more "love brain", more and more willful and "stupid"!
Qiu's parents' education, conservative stereotypical thinking
One of the incidents that impressed me the most, and even stunned me, was that the director of the indecent male white, after the matter was revealed, made a "complaint" (which was actually a slander) call to Qiu's father and mother.
Subsequently, Qiu's father and mother called for the first time and gave it to their daughter Qiu Yingying.
Qiu Yingying responded to her parents like this:
"No, no, no... Sling the bull...... Don't believe you come to see... No...... Back to you in detail... It was he who saw the difference... I am the victim, and this wicked man sues first... Ask me again about suicide! ”
(Qiu Yingying said to her roommate)
"That guy actually sued the evil man first, saying that I was alone in the sea market with a chaotic relationship between men and women, and he couldn't look at it every day."
It can be seen that for his daughter, this honest and honest, simple and kind girl, Qiu's parents are not distressed by her suffering, but call her for questioning at the first time, obviously biased toward outsiders, regardless of their daughter's life and death.
From this, it can be seen what kind of character Qiu Yingying's parents are, and what kind of educational concepts they give.
And this phone call to express the attitude also fully proves the weakness of Qiu Father's qiu mother's personality, they are honest and honest, only promises, and even self-esteem is low, and they dare not have the courage to offend the "city people" Bai Supervisor, and they are also full of inferiority.
This kind of humility carved into their bones is ironclad evidence that they feel that as "small county towns", they are not as lively and bustling as the city.
And these parents of the "small county" have a lot of conservative ideas, they retain the idea of male superiority and female inferiority, although they will not be mean to their daughters, but they will follow the torrent of thoughts of the rabble-rousers in their own circle and follow the waves.
They let their daughter go to the big city to work hard, not to let her daughter see the wider world and take a broader road, but just to make herself more faceful and more capable in front of the villagers.
Very realistic!
Therefore, Qiu Yingying, who was cultivated by such parents, left the dark side of the original family and was affected to a certain extent.
summary:
Although this article analyzes the deep reasons behind Qiu Yingying's "love brain", it does not mean that all her actions can be stamped with the brand of the original family.
After all, she is already an adult, and what an adult needs to learn is to mature, to learn to put herself in place.
Instead of finding reasons to "escape", it is better to learn to grow in place.
And when I analyze Qiu Yingying's "love brain", I just want to provide another angle to see a complex person, her face as a person.
There are good and bad, there are good and bad, this is the person, the human nature is complicated!
As for knowing a little more about Qiu Yingying, we also have an extra ability to introspect, and since we can't change the complicated world, then we can live to be the best of ourselves!
This is perhaps the truest sentence for all those who have experienced pain!
And only after comprehending the true meaning of this sentence can those injuries that have been suffered have meaning!
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