Some people say: "Know how to bow your head, in order to get out." ”
It is also said: "It takes courage to look up, and it takes courage to bow your head." ”
People of real wisdom know how to bow their heads at the right time, especially in front of these people, and they always bow their heads without hesitation.
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Bowing to the "little man" is to leave a way out for yourself,
Before Qin Xiang Fan Ju made his fortune, he was almost framed to death by the villains who competed for fame and profit.
As a lobbyist, Fan Ju, a Native of Wei, traveled around the world in his early years without being appreciated, so he threw himself into the hands of The Great Master of Wei Zhong, Xu Jia, and after accompanying him on his visit to the State of Qi, he was given ten pounds of gold and beef wine by the King of Qi.
Xu Jia was very jealous, and in anger, he made a small report to Wei Xiang Wei Qi, saying that Fan Ju had sold information in exchange for gold.
After Wei Qi listened, he indiscriminately ordered torture to extract confessions, and when he was in danger, Fan Ju had to pretend to be dead and ask for escape. Who knows, Wei Qi actually ordered the fainting Fan Ju to be thrown into the toilet, and also encouraged the people who were feasting with him at that time to take turns to pee on the "corpse", which was extremely humiliating.
Fan Ju continued to pretend to be dead, and when the crowd dispersed, he begged the guards to let him escape, and the guards were very merciful and gave up their lives to help.
Fan Ju, who escaped death, later continued to be angry and strong, and finally became the Xiangguo of the Qin State.
The gentleman took revenge, ten years later, Wei Qi was finally forced to commit suicide.
It can be seen from this that when we meet a villain and the strength is far below it, we must know how to judge the hour and size up the situation, and take "retreat" as the advance.
Concession is not to retreat, but to judge the hour and size up the situation, converge on the "needle tip to Mai Mang" posture, and win a loose space for survival and development for yourself. When the villain lets down his guard, he quickly grows his strength and achieves a gorgeous turn. Then with the speed of lightning, give a complete and complete counterattack, so that it has no power to fight back.
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Bowing to "capable people" is to give yourself the opportunity to grow.
When Confucius was young, he was already a well-known teacher. Not only did he teach his own students, but he often learned from others himself.
He felt that his knowledge was not profound enough, and when he was thirty years old, he left his hometown of Qufu and went to Luoyang to worship the great thinker Lao Tzu as a teacher. Thus, there is a good story of Confucius meeting Lao Tzu.
Not only that, Confucius also worshipped children as teachers. The reason is that this child named Xiang Xi answered the difficult problems raised by Confucius one by one, showing the characteristics of profound knowledge and eloquence, so that Confucius, who intended to embarrass the child, could not bow to the wind and be convinced.
Confucius sighed from this: "The threesome will have my teacher." ”
The "Three Character Classic" compiled by Ying Lin in the Song Dynasty records this story: "Xi Zhongni, Shi Xiangqi; ancient sages, Shang Qinxue." ”
Truly wise men never flaunt how knowledgeable and wise they are, as Socrates famously said, "The only thing I know is that I know nothing." "Always maintain an empty cup mentality of humility, take the strengths of others, and make up for their own shortcomings."
Therefore, even if they have all kinds of "tall" honors and halos on their heads, when interacting with people, they always put themselves very low and low, and will always sincerely and patiently listen to others to finish their words, and find out the highlights and characteristics of them, and let the other party speak deeply and thoroughly.
Such a dialogue can often collide with the spark of thought, which not only allows others to experience a sense of need to solve doubts and puzzles, but also allows themselves to open up and benefit a lot.
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Bow to the "lover" and let yourself be cared for by love.
No matter how strong and capable a person is outside, when he returns home, he is an ordinary person who must assume the responsibilities and obligations assigned by the role of the family.
I once saw a message that resonated with everyone in the circle of friends: a professor from a well-known university, when tutoring his daughter's homework, was helpless, and finally declared, let the child go, healthy and happy growth on the line.
People with real wisdom often compromise and constantly "bow their heads" in the face of "lovers" such as wives, children, and parents. Because, the family gets along day and night, relying on love and love, rather than the institutional constraints of clear responsibilities and powers, rewards and punishments.
"Three days into the kitchen, wash your hands to make soup." Not familiar with the taste of the girl, the first sister-in-law to taste. This poem records a custom of the ancients, the bride on the third day of marriage to go to the kitchen to cook dishes, which is used to indicate that the new daughter-in-law will be filial to the in-laws in the future, and it is also a test of the new family's ability to do housework.
Even if the first ten fingers do not touch the yang spring water, after transforming the identity role, it must be integrated into the role and be competent for the role.
A person who knows how to bow to his "lover" can be alone, shield his family from the wind and rain, and can be transformed into a virtuous wife and a loving father, whether it is soft on the outside or soft on the inside, giving people a full sense of security, living with it, writing happiness every day.
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Conclusion:
The ripe ears of wheat are bowing their heads, and that is teaching us humility.
When a person begins to learn to bow his head, in fact, is towards true maturity.
Learning is endless, entering endlessly, and if you want to climb from one peak to another, you can only accumulate strength continuously.
Bowing down is a kind of wisdom, is a kind of cultivation, but also an attitude, see the road under your feet, step by step, down-to-earth, determined and determined, then, no matter how high the mountain, we can proudly declare: "The mountain is high for people to be the peak." ”
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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