The recently popular TV series "Xiao Min Jia" has touched the hearts of many viewers. As a family drama with middle-aged people as the protagonist, and also the latest masterpiece of the "small" series, "Xiao MinJia" has attracted much attention as soon as it was launched, and in recent days, it has been hotly searched with the ups and downs of the plot.
Following the middle school entrance examination of "Little Farewell" and the college entrance examination topic of "Little Joy", what problems does "Xiao Minjia" focus on this time?
Divorced family.
In recent years, a series of issues such as the relationship between parents of divorced families, parent-child relationships, and educational concepts have aroused many people's thinking and discussion.
The male and female protagonists in the play, Liu Xiaomin and Chen Zhuo, have both been divorced, and their respective children, Jin Jiajun and Chen Jiajia, are similar in age and have lived in divorced families since the age of six or seven, but have completely different growth experiences and personalities.
Chen Jiajia is lively and cheerful, dares to love and dare to hate, and never shy away from discussing the divorce of her parents; Jin Jiajun is introverted, sensible and hardworking, and likes to hide his heart in his heart.
How important is a "good dad"?
Chen Jiajia's father, Chen Zhuo, is humorous and funny, knows respect and love, and more importantly, knows the wisdom of education and getting along.
He himself is positive and optimistic in both life and work, never complains about others, and does not skimp on bringing warmth and happiness to the people around him. Chen Zhuo grew up with his daughter and took good care of life, as long as her daughter was at home, even if she was busy, she would definitely rush home at night.
The child also talks to him, and even the topic of love can be generously discussed, and they agree to tell each other about love at the first time.
In the face of his daughter's future, he has no "chicken baby" troubles, accepts the child's college entrance examination failure, and warmly encourages the child to get back up and continue to accompany her forward as a friend as usual.
Chen Jiajia was influenced by her father's personality since she was a child, coupled with this kind of parent-child relationship that is also a teacher and a friend, naturally formed a "little sun"-like personality.
Can divorced parents spend time with their children?
Chen Jiajia's family gave us a very definite answer, of course, yes.
Although the parents did not have a husband and wife relationship, they still worked together to be Chen Jiajia's father and mother. Willing to work hard for the better growth of the child, and no matter who has custody, neither party lacks love and companionship for their daughter.
Chen Jiajia's mother not only treats her daughter materially like "asking for stars and giving the moon", but also worries about her daughter's studies and future every day. For Chen Jiajia, her parents are just not suitable for living together, and she has not lost her father's or mother's love because of the separation of her parents.
More importantly, after the divorce, the parents and the two still get along harmoniously and maintain decency, and never say that the other party is bad behind their backs.
When Chen Jiajia casually told her father that her mother was empathetic and not in love, Chen Zhuo immediately corrected her: "Your mother is not empathetic, when we did not divorce, your mother met Uncle Hong Wei, but after the divorce they came together, this is not called empathy. ”
When Chen Jiajia thanked Chen Zhuo for "being a mother to me again", he immediately corrected: "First of all, you have a mother, your mother's name is Li Ping, she is very good to you." ”
Chen Jiajia did not lack of love because of her parents' divorce, leaving a "psychological shadow".
Will children whose parents are separated necessarily unhappy?
Jin Jiajun may not be as lucky as Chen Jiajia on his growth path.
After his parents divorced, they were separated, and his mother could only come back a few times a year, and his father often asked his grandmother to help take care of him. But such a growing environment still creates a child who is kind and promising.
Jin Jiajun's father, Jin Bo, has many shortcomings in his body, and he is backward and drunk in the family road, and does not want to make progress. More than a month before the college entrance examination, he still relied on his son to help him make money and pay off debts, and the "pit" army added another person.
However, such a father is not useless. He didn't have much, but he gave his son enough love. He will desperately protect the child when the creditor threatens him, he will joyfully make all kinds of delicious food for the child, he can squeeze his son in a small room with the floor, he can help his son carry some secrets that only they know...
In fact, in his relationship with his son, it is not difficult to see that Jin Bo also gave warmth to the child, and his love for his son in his heart is not less than others. Compared with his mother, who has been separated for more than ten years, Jin Jiajun is also more intimate with his father, because he has seen his father's downfall and difficulty since he was a child, and he has grown up early and assumed responsibility like a man.
Although the mother Liu Xiaomin missed the key moment of her son's childhood growth, after her son came to Beijing from Jiujiang, she also tried to take the initiative to get close to the child: although she never cooked, she clumsily studied for her son; in order to communicate with her son more, even if she did not run and did not have the right sneakers, she insisted on accompanying him; the first time she participated in her son's sports meeting, she felt nervous because she paid too much attention to it, and carefully matched the day's wear.....
Xiao Min is gentle and patient, good at listening to children's opinions, and after reuniting with her son, she is eager to give him all her love. Accompanied by his mother, Jin Jiajun concentrated on studying hard, was admitted to the ideal Tsinghua University, and his relationship with his mother became closer.
Parents' love for their children may not necessarily be reduced by divorce, but only in another way and rhythm to accompany their children. Parental divorce does not necessarily bring permanent psychological trauma to the child, and some rifts can eventually be repaired with love.
Children need to grow up healthy, and parents need to have their own lives. Two parents who do not love each other forcibly under one roof for the sake of their children are not warm. It is better to be happy and happy, so that every meeting with the child is full of sunshine and give the child more positive energy.
Regardless of whether the parents are divorced or not, whether they have a successful career, they can be the best parents of the child and bring happiness to the child.