I believe that recently everyone is watching the popular drama "Xiao MinJia", and the final finale is even more difficult.
Liu Xiaojie, because he was afraid of loneliness, flashed marriage twice and divorced again, and finally ended the marriage that hurt with love;
Jin Bo finally let go of his attachment to Liu Xiaomin, got the forgiveness of his family, and met aunt Kang in a nursing home;
Jin Jiajun and Jiajia in the gentle sea breeze, two young girls who are young and ignorant, hug each other tightly because of love;
Although netizens have mixed praise and criticism of "Xiao MinJia", but in detail, this is the real state of life. Everyone's marriage has a different color. Falling in love, getting married, and divorcing are all together because of love, and they are separated because of love.
After watching the TV series, I found three very real marriage phenomena, especially the first one being the most important.
The first, the best marital state is mutual understanding
Between people, it is really not easy to become a confidant in the true sense. I don't know how long we have to linger in the sea of people to find the right one in countless crowds.
In the TV series, the story of Chen Zhuo and Liu Xiaomin began on the first anniversary of their love.
Like many divorced people, they all carry their own children, and even if they are in love with each other, they are quietly dating behind their children's backs, and they are even afraid that the children will know their relationship and affect their children's mental health.
However, the two people did not last long, or they were known to the child. In order not to affect the children who are about to take the college entrance examination, Chen Zhuo and Liu Xiaomin both chose to break up.
Liu Xiaomin's concerns, her cruel heart to break up, these Chen Zhuo are very understanding, after all, at their age, the child is the first, as for their own emotional life, can only resign themselves to fate.
Although Chen Zhuo was calm on the surface, he still couldn't help but shed tears when he was drunk, and he also resented that he had agreed to break up with Liu Xiaomin.
However, after experiencing many difficulties, the two people finally came together.
Through their emotional exchanges, the concerns of middle-aged divorced men and women can be seen very clearly, and it is precisely because of these concerns that they better understand the importance of mutual understanding. This is also the reason why Liu Xiaomin has been guarding Chen Zhuo after he suffered from cancer, because of love, because the other party understands himself, so they love each other so much.
Second, children really can't sustain a broken marriage
In a happy marriage, the birth of a child is a symbol of happiness and a testimony to a happy marriage.
If it is a marriage full of contradictions, the child will become a stalk and a bondage, putting himself in an embarrassing situation in society.
In "Xiao Min Family", Liu Xiaomin has always maintained guilt for Jin Jiajun because of his child's problems, and since he came to Beijing, Liu Xiaomin has done a lot of things to make up for the debt to his children.
Because of her son Jin Jiajun, Liu Xiaomin secretly fell in love with Chen Zhuo without everyone, she was afraid of affecting the child, and finally broke up with Chen Zhuo because of the child;
It is also because of the child, Liu Xiaomin was "harassed" by her ex-husband Jin Bo, who has been divorced for more than ten years, although he hates Jin Bo in his heart, he is the father of the child, and he can only choose to turn a blind eye.
This is a portrayal of reality, many people even if they divorce someone they don't love, but for the sake of children, they will still keep in touch with their ex. Obviously, he was very afraid of seeing each other, and he still silently endured.
In a broken marriage, children can not become a hindrance to the marriage, please remember that children are children, if you insist on being with people you don't love for the sake of children, you will not get any happiness in the end.
The third, love, is never too late at any time
I remember that when the "Little Minjia" TV series was launched, there was a sentence on the poster: "Marriage cannot define our lives, love can." ”
From the beginning, the TV series revolved around the middle-aged divorced love.
Once a person's life enters middle age, it will be defined as unmarried, married, divorced, in short, all of which are time templates that society has done in advance.
Unmarried middle-aged people are either urged to marry by their families, or they are anxious to get married quickly;
Middle-aged people who are married either want to have children quickly or want to be busy with life;
Divorced middle-aged people are either busy with their children or expect to meet the right person again.
Liu Xiaomin in the TV series was urged to marry by his mother when he was young, married Jin Bo early, and finally suffered from marriage. Sister Liu Xiaojie is also afraid of loneliness, and both marriages began and ended in a hurry.
At the end of the story, many people hope that Liu Xiaojie can be with Qian Feng, if the two of them are really together, it is not life.
Real life is so cruel, Liu Xiaojie, who has experienced two marriages, understands that although Qian Feng is very good to her, she knows that she has no feelings for Qian Feng, and she cannot be called love.
The right love, no matter when it is not too late, but do not be too anxious. Only by waiting slowly, only when the right people appear, can we truly come together happily.
Whether it is marriage or life, please be sure to maintain a child's heart, embrace the present with enthusiasm, and look forward to the future.
We also need to understand why we should get married, when we should get married, what we should do in marriage...
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