After Liu Xiaojie divorced Tong Bing, her mother specifically instructed her, afraid that she would have a flash marriage one day. However, when she and Xu Zheng received the permit, they still did not inform their families.
At the beginning, Liu Xiaojie and Tong Bing flashed marriage, Tong Bing was a mother treasure man, not only at the instigation of his mother to prevent her, hiding private money, but also indulged in the game, completely without a sense of responsibility and responsibility for marriage. Liu Xiaojie also chose to divorce in the case of intolerability, and after the divorce, Tong Bing also went to her to ask for the ring for money.
Originally, I thought that after eating a long and wise, Liu Xiaojie saw Tong Bing clearly, and then he would become cautious in the face of feelings and marriage in the future. But who would have thought that soon after, she would be in a relationship with Xu Zheng, and even married Xu Zheng without any consent from her family. But Xu Zheng was not a good person, and her marriage was once again frustrated.
Why did Liu Xiaojie repeatedly suffer from marriage setbacks?
Being too flippant about marriage is a very important reason indeed. But Liu Xiaojie is also too unlucky, the men he met twice have personality defects, the first time he met a mother treasure man, and the second time he encountered a control freak. So have we ever thought about what is behind her "bad luck"?
Liu Xiaojie is not without meeting good men, Qian Feng has been around her for many years and has been secretly in love with her, I don't believe she really didn't notice it at all. She didn't know that Qian Feng loved her, and in the final analysis, it was because someone like Qian Feng didn't attract her. And she was so anxious to marry Tong Bing or Xu Zheng because people like them attracted her more.
How did they attract her? Many people think that Liu Xiaojie chose Xu precisely because he was interested in his money, but you can think about it, Liu Xiaojie's previous marriage, the Tong Bing she chose was not a rich second generation, and she would still marry him.
And since she met Xu Zheng, Xu Zheng often "chance encountered" with her, but also everywhere full of concern for her, just imagine, a hot mind can flash marriage with people who have known each other for a long time, she has some idealization of love itself, when she meets a man who is both romantic and warm, the heartbeat is inevitable.
What's more, Liu Xiaojie's parents divorced, and when she grew up, she was far away from home, and she actually longed for someone to love her and care for her. What Xu Zheng showed in front of her was precisely the one that attracted her the most, on the other hand, Qian Feng was too sick of gain and loss, and he refused to show his heart, so Liu Xiaojie's choice of Xu Zheng was also reasonable.
What she was really wrong about was that after Xu Zheng showed a strong desire for control, she still instilled in herself that it was because he loved her too much.
Frankly speaking, if Xu Zheng did not have such a strong desire to control, he is indeed a very good man, but it is precisely because he has such a strong desire to control that he has become a man who absolutely cannot be chosen, which is the key to Liu Xiaojie's marriage setback again.
In feelings, the most taboo is self-deception.
People, occasionally look away and choose the wrong person, this is normal. But to look at the wrong person one after another is that there is some kind of problem in oneself.
Liu Xiaojie also suffered a lot of hurt in her previous marriage, but at that time she was still young and did not understand what kind of people were reliable and what kind of people were unreliable, which was also understandable. However, the setback in her marriage with Xu Zheng this time was caused by her own self-deception.
She and Xu Zheng just began to communicate, Xu Zheng asked her not to contact Qian Feng again, and At this time, Xu Zheng had already begun to show signs. Of course, based on this alone, we can't completely conclude that Xu is a person with a strong desire to control, but from Liu Xiaojie's point of view, she should be more vigilant and further considered.
In relationships, we will be uncomfortable because our lovers have too much contact with other people of the opposite sex, which is a common and reasonable existence. But our normal approach is to tell the other person how we feel, and advise the other person to keep an appropriate distance from the opposite sex, rather than forcing the other person to cut off contact with him.
Because two people love each other, first of all, they are independent individuals, and we cannot force each other to make decisions. Once you break through this line, it's certain that the relationship isn't healthy enough.
What Liu Xiaojie lacks is this kind of awareness. She felt that men were jealous only because they loved her, and even though she sensed that Xu Zheng's jealousy was getting too much and interfering with her more and more, she was also deceiving herself, saying that it was only because he loved her too much.
What are the consequences of her self-deception? It is that Xu Zheng will only become more and more intense, she can only compromise again and again, until finally, she has to give up promotion or even give up work, can only live in his sight, endure his unreasonable suspicion and control.
Women, it's too important to meet the right person.
Although Liu Xiaojie is a woman with a bit of a love brain, she is still very serious and self-motivated about her work. However, since she was with Xu Zheng, she had to give in again and again, first not meeting with male authors privately, then not cooperating with any male authors, and finally simply unable to work.
It is no exaggeration to say that if she lived with Xu Zheng all her life, then her life would be ruined.
Love and marriage are really a very magical existence. You meet the right person, you will support each other and achieve each other, and you will become better and better. If you meet a wrong person, he will hinder your progress because of his selfishness, forcing you to make compromises and sacrifices for him, and your life may change from then on.
You see Liu Xiaojie was locked up at home by Xu Zheng during the time, and she was sentenced to two people before. After the divorce, her career has been promoted, and the whole person is full of confident charm, which makes us feel happy and celebrating for her, but also have to sigh that the impact of what kind of man a woman meets is really too great.
With Liu Xiaojie, there is also Chai Qian in "Sleeping Garden". Chai Qian was controlled and beaten by Huo Lang's spirit, and gradually lost her self-confidence, from a fierce professional woman to a self-doubting housewife, and later with the help of Xiao Xiao, she came back out of the predicament.
This is the woman we can see in the film and television drama, although bumpy but still lucky, but there is no such existence in life, some women are also very enterprising and very capable before marriage, but after marriage, they give up on themselves, they are not because of family needs, just because men do not want them to have greater achievements.
So it's really important for a woman to meet the right guy because only the right guy will want you to be better and willing to help and encourage you to overcome difficulties and get promoted.
And meeting a wrong person will not only make you suffer and suffer in marriage, but he will also become a constraint and stumbling block on the road of your life, because in his eyes, whether you are good or not is not important, it is important to satisfy his desires.
It is precisely because of this that I always go out of my way to remind the girls around me that marriage must not be taken lightly, and must be sure that he is the right person, and then go into a marriage.
You must not be like Liu Xiaojie, eat a trench, have not been able to grow a wisdom. At the very least, you have to get rid of the hidden dangers that are exposed before deciding whether to marry someone.
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